Cutting or harming yourself in any way is something that’s taboo to talk about because of the vial and frightening nature of it.

You’re basically punishing yourself whether it’s because you hate yourself or you find yourself empty and you need to feel something. You may even do it out of impulse. Whatever the reason, you’re not alone in this.

Whether you’re recovering from self-harming or you still struggle with it, here are some things to remind yourself when you get the urge to self-harm:

  1. You’re not a sick person. You have a problem but you’re not a bad person for having that issue.
  2. Your scars don’t define who you are.
  3. Those cuts that represent your self-hatred are not scars, but healed wounds.
  4. You don’t have to be embarrassed or ashamed of them because they’re part of your journey.
  5. Your cuts aren’t even ugly or beautiful.
  6. They’re stories to be told.
  7. Go easy on yourself. When you’re triggered, take a deep breath to resist the urge.
  8. You don’t have to be your own worst enemy. Be your own best comforter.
  9. Even if you don’t love yourself, there is someone out there who loves you, and even if there isn’t, learn to love yourself.
  10. Remember that you’re allowed to take baby steps when learning to love yourself.
  11. Learning to love yourself comes through learning take care of yourself.
  12. Remember that self-care isn’t always a slice of cake and a bubble bath.
  13. You should of course pamper yourself at least once and a while.
  14. Self-care is also developing the habit that can be hard to get used to, but worth the recovery in the end.
  15. There’s no shame in relapsing.
  16. Addiction in itself is difficult to leave behind, so don’t beat yourself down while you’ve fallen.
  17. It’s okay to get right back up and keep going.
  18. It’s also okay to talk to people in your life that you trust and can lean on.
  19. If you don’t have anyone you can trust, it’s okay to build it in a friendship.
  20. At the end of the day, you need people to help and support you through this.