For you who can’t stand the heartbreak;
It probably happened to you more than once to get out of a relationship with a person you cared about. Your heart was broken more than once, but somehow this time it is not the same. You thought that this time won’t be the same. However, you deceived yourself with the wrong person again. You ended up brokenhearted and you feel like you will never get better. Your feelings are spent, just as your time, but you don’t see it that way. Only thing you know is that you are afraid because you don’t have a way to heal anymore.
It is not easy, I know that, and I know that no matter what I say to you, you would probably think I don’t understand. I suppose that narrow circle of your friends tell you daily that you are going to be fine. I am now telling you the exact same thing. Don’t give up on yourself because you really are going to be fine.
There are no specific rules to survive after your heart is broken, the only thing you can do is wait. You can try to find something which should entertain or distract your thoughts. Time is what will heal you, but until some of it passes, you will stay in deep sadness with the darkest thoughts of your mind. It is a terrible feeling, your entire body is in pain and there is no cure for it. But there has to be the end of it. Day by day and piece by piece your heart will recover and become better. You will get out the dark tunnel and see the light for yourself.
The most important thing which could help you is to keep moving. No matter how hard would it be, it is crucial to recover yourself. You should never regret about your past, and the less you think about it, the faster you will pull through it. Just fight for yourself, fight against the past and no matter how it hurts, be patient because it will pass. Don’t let yourself drown in pain because it is not what you deserve.
You probably know, but let me remind you that if you are trying to keep in touch with your ex-partner, you would only prolong the suffering. Don’t answer if your partner calls you, and instead, get him or her to know that you don’t want to deceive yourself ever again. You already have enough toxicity in your life, so you don’t need more. Use all the energy that you have just on healing your wounds and don’t let the people around you make you unhappy. Last thing that you need is a game to play. Focus just on yourself.
The nights are the worst part; you can’t help but think again and again about your past, which once again prolongs your pain. It is easier during the day because you can do something to keep yourself occupied. However, with each sleepless night you get through, you will become better; you will start to feel stronger. It is only important to stay patient and to not give up.
Even though you stopped believing that you will get over it, I promise you will. You are waiting hopeless, but trust me, no one waits forever. There has to be the end of your pain.
What I also want you to know is that you are never going to underestimate yourself again. You are strong and powerful, a completely normal human being with attitude and emotions. Don’t ever forget that. Don’t let people break you. They will try either way, so it is up to you whether you want to allow them or not. Think wisely and don’t let people destroy you just because you don’t fit them.
As soon as you realize that your relationship was definitely not healthy—because if it was, it wouldn’t end—you will start feeling better. Try to agree with the fact that it is fine if someone doesn’t fit you. It is actually better because you ended it on time. You didn’t spend your life with the wrong person, it was only a period spent, until both of you figured out that you are not meant to be. You don’t have permission to give yourself up. Live this life fully instead of mourning about past.
Whatever you are going through right now, be patient because it will pass. Give yourself as long as you need to heal, but then learn from your mistakes and never let someone hurt you again.