During our lifetime we can fall in love with a person who is bad for us, several times. It is not unusual, because our heart can’t see who is bad or who is nice. But what if you have a feeling that you are trapped in a narcissistic relationship, what then? No one can answer on this question except you. Only you know what the best is for you, so only you can make a decision to live with that kind of relationship. If you are not sure that you are dealing with a narcissistic person, here are some signs that you are trapped in a narcissistic relationship:
- You have a feeling that your partner is manipulating you and that you are being charmed.
Even when your partner is hurting you, you can’t stay mad, no matter how hard you try. Sometimes your partner makes you feel like you are the only one in the world, that you are the most beautiful person, and you feel loved. But in the very next moment your partner is treating you terribly. Charisma is one of the strongest traits of a narcissistic person. So it is easy for you partner to make you feel special, but then they can make you feel miserable. In a healthy relationship, your partner won’t hurt you on purpose, they will value you enough to treat you right.
- Your partner doesn’t respect or honor your boundaries.
You feel like your partner doesn’t respect your boundaries. No matter what your boundaries are, if your partner disregards or doesn’t respect them at all, you are definitely in a narcissistic relationship. If your partner doesn’t respect you as a person, you need to leave that relationship. You don’t need that kind of relationship in your life.
- You are always the guilty one.
Your partner constantly makes you feel like the guilty one. When you argue or you have some situation, your partner makes it seem like it is all your fault, even if it is not at all. When your partner makes a mistake or does something wrong they won’t admit that it is their fault—they will put all blame on you. Your partner is avoiding all responsibility and makes you feel guilty instead. This behavior is unhealthy, unfair, and really abusive. You don’t need that in your life.
- Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for their actions.
Your partner is always right, they never do anything wrong. They are perfect, and they are always making you out to be the bad guy. You are the one who apologizes at the end. A healthy relationship must be a compromise, but what your partner is doing and how they are acting, that is definitely not a healthy relationship. This is a sure sign of a narcissistic relationship, and a one-sided relationship is not a relationship.
- Everything is about your partner’s feelings.
In your relationship everything is about your partner, their feelings, thoughts, decisions, and everything else. Your partner is the center of relationship. It doesn’t matter what you feel or what you think because everything is about your partner’s feelings. This is a sure sign of a narcissistic relationship.
- There is no balance in making decisions.
If your partner is the main decision-maker, that can’t be a healthy relationship. The relationship is two people, not one—you need to have that on your mind. So if your partner is always making decisions and does it without regarding your feelings, you are in a narcissistic relationship. In a healthy relationship there should be balance, but in yours there is no balance in making decisions.
- You don’t want to share your feelings or thoughts because you don’t want to start an argument with your partner.
You are constantly keeping your feelings and thoughts to yourself, because you don’t want to start an argument with your partner. That is definitely not a healthy relationship. You can’t constantly be the one who is closing off and shutting down because you don’t want to argue or hurt your partner’s feelings. In a healthy relationship both partners are able to open up to one another. You have every right to say what you think or how you feel, you are a human being, you have emotions. If your partner is not supportive and empathetic, that can be a sign that you are in a narcissistic relationship.
- You have a feeling that your partner is using you.
If you constantly have a feeling that your partner is treating you with love only when he or she has something to gain from it, that is a sure sign that you are in a narcissistic relationship. You don’t need that kind of relationship in your life.