Falling in love is one of the most beautiful things in life. You have a feeling like you are in a fairy tale. There is nothing more beautiful than all those butterflies in your stomach. When you are in love everything seems perfect, and all that passion is like nothing you have experienced. You think that you find the one, and you are the happiest person in the world. You love him and he loves you.
But what if we fall in love with a narcissist and we find it out late, what then?
To be honest, we actually don’t know that we have fallen for a narcissist until it’s too late. Maybe we have fallen so hard, and we have been together for a long, long time, or we are married.
We may start to see signs that he is a narcissist, but at least we hope that he maybe isn’t. If you are not sure that he is that kind of man, read this, and if you find him in these signs, leave him before it’s too late.
Everyone else has told you that you are beautiful, smart, and fun, but for him, you are not anything of that. You are not beautiful enough, you are not that pretty at all. And every day he reminds you that you are not actually smart. Your jokes are not funny, only his humor is funny. Actually, he is everything, and you are nothing. Everything you do is not enough.
He can’t keep up with you, so you will be told that your successes aren’t that great. Actually, all of your accomplishments are deemed as threats to his very existence. And all your success becomes a threat. That’s who he is, and he won’t change. He will not change, not for you, not for anyone.
For everyone else, he is a charming and charismatic person, because when he is in front of others he is pretending. So everyone else thinks that you are so lucky to have him by your side. But only you know who is he really because you are with him long enough to understand some things.
Once your opinion truly mattered, but now he doesn’t think that way. Your approval of him no longer matters. He needs someone else who will admire him, actually someone who hasn’t caught on to his narcissistic ways. And that’s not you because you now know who is he, so he needs someone else.
No matter how bad your day was, or how hard time you had, he will remind you that he has it worse than you. Actually, his empathy turns into apathy. Your emotional needs go unmet, and this is probably the hardest thing when you are dating a narcissist.
And one day your self-esteem will be gone, so you will be stuck there with him because you will think that you can’t do any better. Actually, you will be convinced that you can’t live on your own. You will depend on him, and that’s the worst part. All of you will belong to him, and you will be lost. You will be lost in that game which he is playing.
Your life will be gone because he will convince you that there is no life without him. And you will be afraid to leave him. You will be scared of his reaction because you maybe already think that he is worth more than you. He is smart and wise, and he convinced you that you are not. You think that he is a better person than you.
And if you find your man in those signs, you can help yourself.
Just don’t be afraid. If you leave him you will be still alive. You won’t die.You will live and be happy even without him.
You don’t need him in your life. Only what he cares about is himself, not you. He doesn’t love you or cares about you. He only needs you for his own needs. You can leave him, it’s not too late.
It’s never too late. If you are not happy beside him, you can choose to leave him. No one will blame you. It’s your life and you can do whatever you want.