People confuse too often “a strong woman” with “a woman who hates men”. It’s true that an independent lady finds more happiness within herself as opposed to in a relationship. But it doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to find love.
I can call myself a strong woman and I’ve been in rewarding, fulfilling relationships. They’ve all ended abruptly. I was broken and I needed to get back in touch with myself. A breakup leaves me feeling profoundly hurt, confused, and rejected. I needed to move on from my pain. I needed to take care of myself.
My experience has been slightly depressing. I was searching for something good in each of guys with who I’ve been. But the thing is that all of them made me feel miserable.
I have the constant conflict of wanting to find love, but not wanting to compromise my values. I easily got attached to guys who used to lure me, I thought they were better persons than they were actually.
No one is perfect all the time, but why are you pretending that you are something that you’re not? You have to introduce yourself as the person you are. Don’t lie to me. Don’t make me believe that you’re perfect because at the end I realize you’re far from a perfect guy. You don’t have to be perfect. I just need you to be honest, compassionate, and to respect me the way I respect you.
In general falling in love is scary. But for a woman who understands how serious it really is to invest time in someone, it’s terrifying.
She has passed the point of dating for fun, she is grown.
She doesn’t want to take the time to get to know someone romantically if they’re not ready to live up to the same standards she does.
Her real fear isn’t ending up alone, it’s ending up with the wrong person. That’s the reason why falling in love is hard for a strong woman.