Sometimes it’s tough to avoid toxic people. But the year 2020 gave me a reason to think about getting rid of them.
I’ve never been someone who believed people would change just because it’s the end of a year.
They promise themselves that everything will be different the next year and try to stick to that.
But this year was really difficult for me.
I reached my breaking point, so I’ve decided to promise myself to let go of those toxic people who try to ruin my life.
Finally, I’m taking matters into my own hands.
I always found it tricky to cope with toxic people. It was never really my specialty.
Be that as it may, I’ve experienced enough toxicity not just from my family, but also from my partner, to realize when it’s for the best to cut ties.
In 2021, I’m focusing on myself and on my own mental health.
I’m allowing myself to realize just how strong I am and not be bothered by anyone else.
Those toxic people in my life have allowed me to recognize what I’m truly grateful for.
They’ve crossed their lines with their bad behavior and all the broken promises they made.
I’ve had enough of their mind games and them only thinking of their own well-being.
I’ve reached my tipping point. I knew it was coming, but I was afraid to let go.
They’ve tested my patience and love too many times, so I’ve finally decided I’ve had enough.
I’m not giving my love so easily in 2021. It’s not a toy that everyone can use and toss around.
I know it’ll be a process to get rid of toxic people, but I’m ready to tackle it.
Those people never respected my boundaries, so why would they behave differently in 2021?
They won’t.
That’s why it’s for the best to eliminate them and focus on me.
I’ll know they’ll try to weasel their way back, but I have to persevere.
Getting rid of them will be a gradual process, I’m aware of that, but I’ve promised myself not to let them manipulate me anymore.
I know I don’t owe them any huge explanation.
I’ll simply tell them how I feel, and it won’t be open for debate.
In 2021, I won’t anyone tell me what I did was wrong.
I’ve tried to satisfy their needs and in the process of doing that I’ve lost myself. I refuse to do that next year or every year thereafter.
They always pushed me harder to please them, and I ignored my own needs and always compromised myself for them.
But never again.
Eventually, it came down to whether I had the energy to continue or not.
They drained my very soul, so my New Year’s resolution is to get rid of them.
I’ll know I have to establish and maintain the boundaries I’ve set.
I’m not going to let them pull me into one crisis after the next anymore.
Many times they’ve told me they “need” me, only to find out these were crises of their own making.
They intentionally create drama to get my attraction and try to manipulate my emotions.
But no more!
2021 will be different. I’m not going to act as a hero to someone who isn’t a genuine person in distress.
I’m focusing on myself and on my own mental health.
I know it’ll be deeply painful because I profoundly care for some of these people, regardless of how hard it is to have them in my life.
I have to put myself first. From now on, I’m only keeping friends who make me feel happy and cherished.
I’ll create healthy relationships and friendships with them, and I’ll remind myself what did I choose to get rid of the toxic ones.
I’m not going to lie, sometimes it feels like I’m digging my own grave. The insecurities that I’ve developed came mostly from these people.
That said, I’m thankful that they’ve allowed me to grow stronger.
I have only myself to blame for not stopping them sooner.
I’ve decided to live a better life, right here and right now.
I know how resilient I am. I won’t let them get the best of me.
I’m silencing those bad thoughts that are swirling in my head and replacing them with new positive ones.
And guess what, I’m genuinely happy now.
I’m finally able to look at myself in the mirror and say how proud I am of myself.
I have a bright future ahead of me, the only thing I have to do is to get rid of those toxic people.
I embraced my flaws and imperfections as they’re a part of me.
I feel contentment and serenity.
The year 2021 will be my year.
There isn’t a goal that I can’t accomplish. I’ll become the best version of me and no one can stop me.
Focusing on me was the best decision I’ve made in years and I’m sticking to it.
I remain positive that God will bring me joy and surround me with people who love me for who I am.
I know some may classify this as a New Year’s resolution, but it isn’t.
I’ve completely changing my life – call them life resolutions, if you will.
Each day that I wake up, I feel more like myself because I know that those people won’t affect my happiness.
They won’t be able to influence the way I’m living my life because I decide who gets to be part of it and who doesn’t.
So, bring it on 2021. I’ve got so many things in store for you.
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