Are you finally happy that you’ve met an awesome guy who seems like he’s a perfect match for you? A guy who isn’t afraid to show you his emotions?
I bet you are, but something feels weird about him. You blame yourself for not dealing with his emotions the proper way, and you think that your man might be a tad too sensitive. So, you’re wondering whether or not he’s a manipulator in disguise.
Your gut is telling you that something’s off about him, but you just can’t pinpoint what. You think that it’s your fault you can’t understand his feelings and that you should be more compassionate.
But that’s exactly how manipulators get you into thinking that it’s all your fault and not theirs.
And being in a relationship with a toxic manipulator can be devastating. They’re only thinking about themselves and don’t care about your emotions or needs at all.
Manipulators lure you into their trap by saying and doing all the things you want to hear or see. But that’s exactly when they have you in the palm of their hand. Once their ego is boosted, they’ll swiftly move on and leave you as if nothing ever happened.
1. He’s always lying to you
Does your guy do all the stuff you want from him? Does he always seem to say the right things at the right time?
He may just be a manipulator in disguise and you fail to see it. Manipulators are usually people-pleasers and they’ll do whatever it takes for you to believe them.
But what if your gut tells you that something’s wrong with this guy? Pay attention to his facial expressions to figure out whether or not he’s lying to you.
And if the things that he does for you seem a bit overdone and planned out too carefully, then you’re likely dealing with a scheming puppetmaster.
He rarely will make any mistakes and he’ll be the perfect boyfriend at the beginning of the relationship.
If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.
2. He’s an attention seeker
Let’s say that you’re getting ready to go out with your friends when suddenly you receive a text from your boyfriend. He says that he’s feeling sick and asks you to come to see him.
Like the good girlfriend that you are, you cancel your plans and go to his house immediately. And that’s perfectly fine and normal, but what if you notice that this keeps repeating over and over again?
Eventually, you recognize a pattern. He does it on purpose to keep you from having a life outside of your relationship. He wants you to focus all your time and energy on him and not your friends or family.
3. He plays the victim card every time
He might tell you a soppy story of how everyone hurt him because he’s such a nice guy, but you can sense that something’s not right there.
He’ll make every scene look like everyone else is a bad person and not him, no matter what the truth is.
He’s forever playing the victim card and saying that he’s the one who got hurt in almost every situation.
4. He always makes himself look good
To someone who isn’t experienced enough, it may look like he made a compromise because he cares about your relationship being happy and successful.
But in reality, he uses every opportunity he can get to make himself look good and like he’s doing you a favor.
He might say that he made plans for a get-together tomorrow evening even though you already said that you have work to do.
In fact, he knew that you wouldn’t make it, but still, he invited everyone and now when he cancels the plan, he’ll make himself look flexible and good.
5. He pretends that he cares about you
He’s only telling you things and giving you advice that serves him. He’s sneaky with his words so that it seems as if he cares about you, when in reality, he’s trying to get you to do what he wants.
So, if he wants to prevent you from doing certain things, then he might say for example, “I really care about you, I just don’t want you to get hurt.”
The first thought that goes through your mind is that he’s actually sincere and honest, but your gut is telling you otherwise.
And every time you listen to his advice, it only makes the situation worse and he leaves you feeling confused and empty.
6. He cries a lot
It’s always nice to see a guy not being afraid to show his emotions in front of his girlfriend. But if your guy cries all the time, especially when things aren’t going his way, it could be a sign that he’s a manipulator in disguise.
He’ll be extra emotional and cry every time he senses that you’re going to mention something that he doesn’t want to hear. It’s like he can cry on command whenever it suits him.