When you fall in love, you let it lead you. You give yourself fully to it and you ignore all of the red flags that life throws at you.
Blinded by the thought that you may have found the one, you don’t notice that your relationship maybe isn’t as perfect as you perceive it.
Don’t worry, you are not the only one who does this!
We’ve become too drunk on the idea of love.
We romanticize it to the point where we don’t even know anymore whether what we have is real or not worth the fight.
All of the beautiful words he tells you sounds like poetry and you don’t want it to stop. EVER!
But sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you can’t deny the fact that maybe, just maybe, he’s not the real one.
The idea of love sounds amazing but sometimes the execution of it is not that great at all.
Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered! If you want to be sure that he’s the real one, then you should ask yourself the following questions.
If you can’t reply with YES, then I’m sorry to say, but he’s not the real one.
1. Are you feeling happier since you’ve met him?
Do you feel like you are finally walking on sunshine? Does the air smell better since you met him? Does the rain even feel nicer since he walked into your life?
If you feel that your life has improved for the better, then he might be the one.
The real one will never suffocate you or make you feel like you can’t truly express yourself. Instead, he will support you through good and bad.
He will make every situation feel easier than it really is. “How?” you may ask. It’s simply because you are destined to be.
And when you meet the one who is meant for you, everything finally gets the desired result.
Things become easier and life becomes better when you hear goodnight and good morning from the one who is yours, and only yours.
2. Do your eyes twinkle every time someone mentions him?
They say that the eyes never lie and that you can see your real feelings through them.
If your friends and family have told you that your eyes shine a special way whenever someone mentions his name, it suggests that he may be the one.
Your eyes will radiate all of the emotions that are hidden inside you.
Even if you are not walking down the street yelling how happy you finally are, people will see it through your eyes.
They will get a new color – the color of love. And everything will seem right.
On the other hand, if you pretend that you are happy while a sad feeling of desperation shines out of your eyes, then he’s not the real one for you.
3. Can you talk for hours, without being bored?
It’s easy to spend hours constantly talking to each other when you are at the beginning of a relationship. But the question is can you still do that now?!
Can you change topics naturally; jump from one to another without making things seem awkward?
Can you be comfortable expressing your opinion, no matter what you are talking about?
There are no taboo topics – you simply talk about anything and everything.
If you can reply with YES to all of these, then he’s the real one and you shouldn’t let him go.
4. Is he there when you need him the most?
It’s easy to say, “I’ll be there whenever you need me, I promise.” But it is a bit harder to turn your words into actions.
Have you ever called him in the middle of the day because you really needed his help but he couldn’t make it?
Or have you asked him for advice about something because you couldn’t decide on your own but he told you that he didn’t want to interfere?
A real man would never do that. He would always make time for you and he would always support you, no matter what.
So, if you can’t reply with YES to these questions, maybe it’s time to walk away.
5. Has he been vulnerable with you?
If he has shown you his real vulnerable self and let you into his life without any boundaries, then he’s the one.
Otherwise, he might be treating you like a side piece who he can leave anytime in the future.
But once he shows his emotional side and lets you see what’s hidden under the surface, you can be sure that he’s ready to commit.
If he avoids creating a bond between the two of you, then he’s probably not ready to give himself fully to the relationship.
6. Do you feel that he respects you?
Love can’t survive without respect. End of story. Are you able to say that he truly respects you?
Does he treat you with respect, no matter how angry he is?
Do you have problems expressing your opinion because you know that he won’t respect the way you feel?
If that is the case, then he’s not the real one.
A real man who is sincere about his feelings and who truly loves the person standing next to him treats her with respect. NO MATTER WHAT!
You should always feel respected in your relationship because that is the foundation of love. Without respect, everything else disappears.
7. Are you truly happy that you have him in your life?
Do you feel like you are truly happy that you’ve found him or is your gut feeling telling you that something is wrong?
Our instincts know what we are hiding behind a facade. You can trick other people into believing something, but you can’t trick yourself.
If you feel that you are pretending that things are going the way they are supposed to instead of actually feeling like that, then you might have to question your decision.
Sometimes, it’s easier to fool yourself than to admit the truth!
If you can’t reply with YES to these questions, I’m sorry to say, but he’s not the real one. Make up your mind and be true to yourself.
Do you really want to convince yourself that everything is okay or would you rather walk away and wait for the right one to come?
Pretending is not the same as truly feeling that what you are doing is right! Always have that in mind.