We’ve all been there. We’ve given second or even third chances to people who never deserved them.
Instead of walking away from him the moment you had to ask him to do something that was common sense, you let him stay in your life, thinking he’d change.
But the very first time he rejected you and you didn’t do anything about it, that’s when he realized that he can play with your feelings for as long as he wants.
You’ve been dating for some time and, naturally, you want to take your relationship to the next level. You want it to be official, to talk to your friends about him without taking a minute before answering the question, “Are you in a relationship or what?”
Instead of hiding him from your family because you don’t know how to explain to them your current status, you want to feel free to mention his name, without feeling instantly stressed.
You want to call him your boyfriend, but every time you bring it up, he leaves the room and finds an excuse to save himself from “the talk.”
The first time you asked him “What are we?” it’s like he had his response already planned beforehand. The excuses, the past traumas, and that cliché story that he’s not ready for a relationship right now.
Of course, you fell for his sweet words and played the good girl. You didn’t want to pressure him into doing something he wasn’t ready for.
So, you gave him time and tried to convince yourself that relationships aren’t supposed to be about labeling.
As long as you’re having a nice time with him, you’re fine with not being official.
But no matter how hard you tried, your thoughts kept haunting you.
You wanted to be serious with him, and you couldn’t understand why he didn’t want to take the next step.
You had a great time together, laughing at each other’s jokes, being there to support each other.
Isn’t that what everyone wants from a relationship? To have someone on whom they can rely all the time, in happiness and sadness?
You just couldn’t understand where he was coming from, so you had to ask him once more.
“Please let me know: What are we? Do you have any plans of getting official with me? Am I ever going to be your girlfriend?”
But then, you heard the same excuses – the same lame story you already knew by heart.
If only you knew that you were stuck in a relationship that would keep going into circles, things would’ve been so much easier.
But you made a mistake. I’m sorry to say that, but it was you who messed up.
The moment you asked him twice to give you something that was common sense, you showed him that you’re ready to beg.
And strong women never beg, no matter how badly they want something.
Strong women provide an option – either we’re official or I’m leaving you. There’s no other sitting on the fence.
They know what they want and they’re not willing to compromise for guys who only care about playing games.
And you’re a strong woman yourself. You’re a woman who knows what she wants, so why would you then let him string you along?
Why would you let him have control over you when you can do so much better than that?
Begging him to give you chance, asking him more than once to make your wish come true – to be a loyal and committed boyfriend – is that what you need?
Do you really want to be with a guy who needs to be begged to give you things that are normal when it comes to dating?
Or would you rather want someone who’d show you his feelings from the very beginning and who you’d never have to beg for anything?
Someone who you won’t have to ask where you stand because it’ll be more than obvious.
From the moment he meets you, he’ll want you to make you his.
He’ll give you his world and make you a part of it. You’ll be the only woman he wants in his life.
Are you really willing to lose that one for the sake of a guy who’ll never love you the way you’re supposed to be loved? For the one you’ll constantly be moving back and forth with?
Strong women never settle for guys who aren’t loyal. They don’t settle for guys who have to be begged to make a move.
So, instead of letting him be the one who’s in lead, take the wheel and show him that you’re no joke. Let him see that you won’t tolerate his behavior.
Don’t let him play games with you because that’s not what you want or deserve from a guy.
You need someone serious – one who won’t have an issue showing you that you’re the only woman in his life.
One who won’t need other options to run to because he’s not used to being committed.
That’s a sick game only immature men love to play.
You’re a strong woman who needs a strong man. A man who’ll show you what real love is supposed to look like.
And begging a guy who’s wrong for you to magically become a guy worth your time is a fruitless endeavor.
So please, don’t waste your effort on the one who has to be begged for love. Don’t waste your time on a guy who’ll be gone by sunrise.
You’re a strong woman and strong women never beg for love. They never ask twice to get what they want.
You state it once, and if he’s not ready to follow your lead, he can go and find himself someone who’ll tolerate his games.
But you sure aren’t going to.