It’s very difficult to find a person who’s going to be pretty straightforward and confess his feelings for you from the very beginning.
You think that he likes you, only to find out that he isn’t serious about you at all. In today’s world, it’s pretty common not to know where you stand with a guy.
You don’t know whether you’re exclusive or you’re just seeing each other. Does he want a casual relationship or something a bit more serious?
However, that’s the way dating goes if you agree on these terms. You never know whether the guy you’ve been dating is going to be faithful to you or if he expects to be in an open relationship with you.
I’m not someone who’ll judge you if you decide to have an open relationship with the guy you like. But you have to prepare yourself for the worst if it happens and no matter what, always keep your dignity.
You shouldn’t allow a guy to treat you as his second choice. Never settle for that; you have to be his one and only choice.
Not everything is black and white.
The good side of today’s dating is that you have the opportunity to take things slow and not jump into a serious relationship right from the start.
You don’t have to commit right away.
On the other hand, you shouldn’t allow him to have a dozen other girls besides you either. And the thing is, guys consciously do this.
They like to be seen by others as players who can have any girl they want and that you aren’t that important to them.
He wants you to know that you have competition and that you should work even harder to keep his attention.
He thinks that he’s your Prince Charming so you should fight for his love as if he’s some kind of a trophy or prize.
The ugly truth is that many women fall for this trap.
They engage in these competitions, thinking that they have to put more effort in to keep a man by their side.
And if they lose the guy, such a woman thinks she will be labeled as less worthy or weak. So, they fight even harder.
They see those other girls as their enemies and they’re willing to go the extra mile just to keep their guy’s attention.
Let me tell you something…
You don’t have to fight for him! If he’s unsure whom to pick, let him pick one of the other girls and not you.
If you want to come off as the winner in that contest of yours, stop fighting and walk away.
It doesn’t mean you’re a loser if you do that. On the contrary, it means that you reclaimed your dignity and that you’ll walk away gracefully.
You won’t be perceived as weak by others. Women, as well as men, will see that you’re a person who knows her worth and knows what she wants.
And she wants to be the only choice, a priority! If he doesn’t make you his only choice, then he deserves neither your love nor time.
Don’t fall into his trap believing that you have to fight. Don’t feed his ego by giving him all that he wants when all that you receive from him are humiliation and lies.
If you walk away from him graciously, he’ll be devastated for sure.
Why? Because he’ll see that he’s replaceable and that he was just another guy to you.
He might think that he was the one who got to choose, but that isn’t the truth. You made the decision for him.
If he’s uncertain whom to pick, let him pick one of the other girls and not you.
You get the privilege to choose whom you want and you can choose to be happy on your own. Show him that he’s not worth your time or effort.
Show him that you’re above all the other girls he’s been dating.
Don’t feel sad for the other girls and don’t be angry at them. They probably don’t know about each other and that’s why she plays his silly games.
Don’t try to intensify their flaws and don’t compete with them because the only competition that’s going on is inside your head.
You’re actually not competing against each other because he already knows whom he’s going to choose. He just likes the attention you’ve been giving him.
The others aren’t there to take him from you and when you think about it, one of them actually saved you from having your heart broken by this guy.
They did you a favor, honey.
After all, these girls are in the same situation as you are. All of you are being manipulated by this awful guy.
He’s the only one who should feel guilty but he’ll never admit playing with your feelings or theirs, as he’s not that kind of guy.
He’s just another boy who failed to mature the right way. And he’s not a real man.
He thinks that you’re his toys and that he can play with your hearts and minds.
So, your job is to teach him a lesson. Don’t let him do that to you!