For those who are unfamiliar with the silent treatment, it’s when your partner consciously decides to ignore you when you can’t see eye to eye on a particular matter.
It doesn’t matter if the cause of it was a small fight or something more serious such as cheating or disrespect. The point is that it’s not nice when someone gives you the silent treatment. In fact, it can even be called a form of emotional abuse or manipulation.
That’s because your partner doesn’t have the intention of talking to you and making a compromise. Instead, they want you to know you’re not worthy of their efforts. Their desire is to inflict as much pain as possible on you and they’ll do anything they can to see you suffer.
If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, there are a couple of things you can do when your partner chooses to give you the silent treatment.
1. Try to find the root of the problem
Even though you’re going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now, when your partner decides to give you the silent treatment, you have to pause for a second and try to find the cause of your problem.
Both of you need to take a step back and examine what happened before he decided to give you the cold shoulder.
By doing so, you can prevent him from using the silent treatment ever again. If you know which buttons you shouldn’t push to make your partner mad, you’ll know how to communicate with him next time something bothers him.
I’m not saying that you should break your own rules just because it makes your man sad, but if you know that you have made a mistake, then be the bigger person and admit it.
Also, try to correct it in any way you can and if he genuinely loves you, then he’ll certainly appreciate your effort.
A relationship is a two-way street and both of you will have to make an effort to keep your relationship alive.
2. Wear your heart on your sleeve
In most cases, if we’re hurt by someone close to our heart, most of us tend to build walls around our hearts so that it never happens again. We suppress those emotions and refuse to deal with them.
But sooner or later, those feelings will resurface and you won’t be able to escape them. That’s why you have to face them.
So, if you want to prevent your boyfriend from giving you the silent treatment, then you need to talk to him.
Don’t just isolate yourself from him, hoping that the problem will solve itself. Or even worse, run after him – that will only make things worse.
Instead, when everything calms down, ask him to sit with you and have an honest conversation about your problem.
Open your heart up to him and let him know how you feel. Try to create a safe environment where both of you won’t be judged in any way so that he can express his emotions freely too.
By doing so, your relationship bond will only get stronger.
3. Find a common ground
Granted, relationships require much effort on both ends, but it’s really up to you to determine whether your partner is really worth it.
If you always fight about little things, then have a conversation with him and try to find a common ground.
Even if he’s giving you the silent treatment now, I bet he still wants to find a compromise.
If you carry on along the silent route, then both of you will feel bad and the problem will still be there. So instead of ignoring each other, have an earnest heart-to-heart about all the things that upset you.
Trust me, love is stronger than anything and you can overcome your troubles if you’re on the same page.
4. Give both of you some time to cool off
If you’re the one who’s receiving the silent treatment, then don’t go chasing your partner and trying to talk with him right away. Instead, give the both of you some time to cool off.
Believe me, you’ll need that time to think about the cause of your fight and if you can really get over it.
If you jump right into a discussion with your boyfriend, then you’ll just end up yelling at each other. At this stage, both of you are hurt in some way and due to the raw feelings, you won’t be able to solve the problem immediately.
On the other hand, if you take some time to calm down and figure out what you’re going to say to him, then perhaps you can save your relationship.
5. Be polite to each other
There are different types of communication. And yelling and screaming at each other is one type, but it won’t help you solve anything.
If he really did hurt you, remember that you can always go your separate ways – but you have to do it with dignity.
Don’t resort to cursing and climbing into your partner’s character, And whatever you do, don’t ever use physical force or violence to make him talk to you.
Good, regular communication with your partner is key to a healthy and successful relationship. That’s something every one of us should strive for. And even if your partner still refuses to talk to you, at least you’ll know it wasn’t your fault.