Sometimes, the truth hurts and you would much rather lie to yourself than admit the facts. Sometimes, it takes a whole heap of effort to realize that you can’t run away from reality, no matter how hard you try.
This is one of those moments where you’d rather hide away from the world and pretend things aren’t happening to you. You’d much rather fake your reality than stare truth directly in the eye and say these words to yourself:
“If he wanted to be a part of my life, I wouldn’t have to beg him to stay.”
To say these words and truly accept them requires a whole bunch of honesty and an even larger amount of courage.
Once you’re brave enough to openly say where you stand, you end one chapter of your life and open another – one where you’re expected to heal.
To heal from the pain of a failed relationship and all of the emotions you once felt for the person who won’t ever be a permanent part of your life.
That’s how things work, and it’s hard to admit them at first. But unless you do that, there’s no way you’ll be able to move on.
You can decide to keep him in your life even though he’s not good for you. You can do whatever you want. You’re allowed to make your own choices and do as you like.
But before you make that final call of staying with him or moving on for your own good, know one thing:
If he wanted to be with you in the first place, you would never have to beg him to stay.
You would never have to drive to his place in the middle of the night because you have no idea if he’s okay since he hasn’t texted you for three days straight.
You would never have to beg him to have a talk and try to work things out between the two of you.
If he wanted you in his life, he’d know what he needs to do. He wouldn’t need you to explain to him that you should discuss your issues. Instead, he’d be the one to initiate the talk.
If he wanted to be a part of your life, you’d never have to worry about his feelings for you. He’d be open with his emotions and never hide them from you.
You wouldn’t spend sleepless nights wondering if he’s seeing someone else or if he’s stopped loving you completely. These would be the furthest things from your mind if you truly knew he’s the right one for you.
If he wanted to be with you, you’d never have to beg him to stick around. You’d never have to think about explaining to him all of the good aspects of your relationship.
If he loved you, he would know what he’s supposed to do and wouldn’t ever give up on you.
Real love knows no excuses of how he needs some time to think about everything or that he’s afraid of commitment. These are things you’d never question and thoughts he’d never entertain.
Love is supposed to feel right. There’s no need for him to analyze your relationship and think about whether he should choose you. If it’s real, he’ll know it and there won’t be second-guessing.
He either wants you or he doesn’t. End of story.
I’m not going to sugarcoat it: It’ll be hard. You’ll have to learn to move on after him on your own, without anyone’s help. You’ll have to take it step by step because that’s the only way you can make things work.
But you have to make that one final decision. You either stay with him or you walk away.
And for the sake of your own happiness, don’t let him walk into your life as he pleases and leave when things get hard.
That way, you’re the one who ends up hurt. You’re the one who’ll wait for him on your knees while he won’t even think about you.
Don’t let him ignore your feelings and think of himself only. If he wants to do that, then you better walk away from him as he won’t make your life any better.
Once you get over him, you’ll realize how amazing life can be when you get rid of all of the people who don’t bring you happiness.
You’ll realize that you should’ve chosen yourself a long time ago – because that’s the only person who never gives up on you.
In a month, a year, or two, you’ll finally be able to move on after him and say with conviction that you did the right thing. You’ll finally be able to breathe and realize all of the possibilities that life serves in front of you.
But it’s up to you to make a decision about what you want to do. It’s up to you to decide for yourself where you want life to take you.
But while you’re trying to think of what’s best for you, make sure to never forget that one thing. Keep repeating it to yourself until you realize the power it holds:
If he wanted to be a part of your life, you wouldn’t have to beg him to stay.
Sounds simple, but you need to really think about it carefully if you want to grasp its full meaning. I hope for your sake you’re able to.
For the sake of your own happiness, for the sake of your well-being.