I know it’s nice to dream about certain things, but there comes a time when we have to come back to reality and confront it.
The moment you simply must face the truth, no matter how much pain it brings you. The moment you have to stop thinking that giving him another chance will actually do you any good, even though you love him with all of your heart.
There comes a time where you have to make peace with the fact that some people aren’t meant to stay in your life, no matter how badly to want it. That you can’t keep living in this illusion and getting your hopes about someone who’ll never satisfy you in any way or give you the love you truly deserve.
I’m telling you that you have to stop lying to yourself. You can’t continue making the same excuses and giving him second chances because, quite frankly, he doesn’t deserve it.
Even if you give him everything you have, even if you put your heart on a platter, he won’t change. He won’t be the man you need.
He won’t change for the better and understand how much pain he’s causing you. And he won’t even try hard not to lose you because he doesn’t care about you at all.
And you can’t save him. There won’t come a time where he’ll miraculously come to his senses and see that he has to treat you better if he wants to stay with you.
Instead, what he’ll do is continue using your soft heart against you as long as he can. He’ll keep taking advantage of you and expecting you to give him yourself completely without you receiving anything in return.
He’ll carry on taking you for granted without appreciating any of your efforts. And he’ll always use his mind games to manipulate you and use you to boost his ego, while giving nothing.
And this is something that you have to understand and apply to every aspect of your life. This doesn’t just refer to your romantic partner, but also to that toxic friend or even toxic family members.
Remember, those who don’t love you back or appreciate you, don’t deserve to have your time. And if your partner doesn’t treat you the way you deserve, then he shouldn’t have a place in your life.
If your man, friend, or family member isn’t ready to love you now, then they won’t ever love you. And whoever disrespects you now will never give you the respect that you deserve to have.
You’re not someone’s consolation prize and you should never be one. Instead, you should be on top of someone’s priority list.
Whoever doesn’t value your time and your presence needs to know what it means when you don’t care about them at all.
So, why are you still in a relationship in which you’re the only one who’s trying? Why aren’t you putting an end to the relationship already?
When are you going to accept the fact that you’re wasting your precious time on him when he doesn’t deserve to have you at all?
It’s funny how many people accept the treatment we think we deserve.
Here’s a harsh truth: You’re the one to blame, not him. You’re the one who accepts his zero efforts and half-truths.
You’re the one who allows him to hurt you, by giving him endless second chances.
So, when are you going to finally realize that those are fake friendships and fake relationships, and move on in your new future? When are you going to put an end to it all and embrace the things you truly deserve to have?
It’s time to choose yourself over others and to start loving yourself more than anyone else.
I understand that cutting ties with the people you love is tough, but you have to if you want to keep your sanity. It’s definitely one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do.
But as they say, in every cloud, there’s a silver lining. And even though the ending may be devastating, you’re going to learn a valuable lesson from it.
It will help you grow and be a better version of yourself. It’ll also give you an opportunity to see your true inner strength.
At first, it’ll feel like someone stabbed you right in the heart. But that’s a choice you have to make for your own good.
There’s one thing to keep in mind and it’s that time heals all wounds. All of the pain you’ll go through will be worth it.
You’ll learn that you don’t need anyone besides yourself, that your mental health is the most important thing, and that your happiness doesn’t depend on some man who only knows how to play with a woman’s heart.
It will also teach you that you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you back. You’re strong enough to make it on your own.
And most importantly, it will teach you to be more careful next time and not to be in a relationship just because you’re afraid of being alone.
If he isn’t ready to love you, then you have to let him go.