Most of us have been there. You meet a guy who you truly believe is the right one for you. You think that you hit the jackpot relationship and believe with all of your heart that you’re going to spend the rest of your life with him.
But that fairy tale only lasts for so long before you realize that you made a huge mistake. You’ve given pieces of your heart to someone who doesn’t appreciate you at all.
If you’re one of the lucky few who have never experienced this, then I must tell you that these kinds of people really exist. Manipulators who try to seduce you only to use you whenever it suits them.
We’re all terrified of being used by the person we love most. Usually, we tend to ignore all the signs they’re not meant for us only to find out that they’re taking advantage of our gentleness later on.
And if you’re unsure if you can spot a man like that, then watch out for the following red flags. They can help you decipher a man’s intentions.
1. He never supports you in any way
Being blinded by love isn’t something that you haven’t heard about. It actually exists and it happens when you get so overwhelmed by your partner that you fail to notice that he’s riding on your kindness.
And one of the ways to know that is when he isn’t there for you when you need him. Whether it’s something big or small, he always finds an excuse not to show up and support you in any way.
He doesn’t text or call to ask you how your day’s been going. He doesn’t check up on you and help you when you’re not feeling well.
Instead, all you hear is his excuses about how he can’t make it and how he’s too busy to come and help you out.
And even if you need him to pick up something heavy for you, he’d rather sit around and wait for you to do it yourself.
2. He doesn’t compromise
Every time you, for instance, want to go out and see a movie, he tells you how stupid that idea is and suggests doing something else.
He won’t even bother to compromise with you. Instead, he’ll do whatever he wants and that includes leaving you behind.
You get infuriated when he does something like that. He’s just so stubborn that no matter what you say or suggest, he won’t take your opinion into consideration.
He’s always the one making all the decisions and isn’t interested to hear anything you have to say.
He’s taking advantage of your gentleness because he knows he can get away with it. That’s why he never consults you whenever something comes up that involves the both of you.
Does it seem as if your boyfriend only knows how to crack jokes and not hold a serious conversation with you? If so, then he might be taking advantage of your gentleness.
Every time you try to reason with him, he always says something funny or sarcastic because, deep down in his heart, he knows that he’s emotionally unavailable.
He doesn’t open up to you, even though you’ve told him a million times that he doesn’t have to be afraid to show his emotions. Despite that, he never talks about his personal life or his feelings for you.
When something’s bothering him, he would rather stay silent and deal with it on his own than tell you what’s going on.
He even goes so far as to not show you any affection and as a consequence, you don’t feel loved or needed by him.
4. He contacts you only when he needs something from you
I know hearing this hurts, but you need to. But if your man only calls you when it suits him and he needs something from you, then he’s taking advantage of your gentleness and doesn’t care about you at all.
He won’t even bother asking you if you need something, he’ll just get straight to the point.
And if that’s something that’s currently happening in your relationship, then you should definitely reevaluate whether he’s truly meant for you.
5. He bails on you
Whenever you go out with your friends, he always finds an excuse not to come or perhaps even tells you that he doesn’t fit in with your group and leaves you by yourself.
Also, if your boyfriend constantly cancels your dates and then calls you and gets mad at you for not going out with him, then he’s definitely taking advantage of your gentleness.
That’s selfish behavior and you shouldn’t have to put up with it.
Remember, you are worth so much more. Don’t ever settle for anything less than you deserve.
6. He isn’t shy to ask favors from you all the time
Does your boyfriend run you whenever he needs something because he knows you’re always going to help him? If so, then he doesn’t deserve you at all.
I understand that this is rather normal in a relationship, but if he’s contacting you for every little thing, he may just be taking advantage of your kind and caring nature.
If he’s always around your house searching for food or asking if you would loan him money, then you know what you should do with a guy like that.