For me, the end of a relationship is mostly characterized by self-doubt and questioning what I did wrong, or whether I need to take all the blame.
For years, I put you and our relationship first. But thanks to you, I’ve finally found myself.
It took me time to see how unhappy I was and how unsatisfying our relationship was.
For months, I put up with the false image of being happy and joyful, and I lost sight of who I was.
All that time, you were dishonest about your feelings, and such behavior fueled my actions even more.
I was always there for you, trying to please you and satisfy every need of yours, while you only criticized me.
Don’t get me wrong, I learned how to live with your lies, and with every word of criticism you intended for me.
You attacked my insecurities, but you’re not the first one who did that.
I grew stronger and colder toward you, and my skin grew thicker.
Those gaps that we had in our relationship became holes that were irreparable.
Once I realized that, I knew I had to make one of the toughest decisions yet, and that was leaving you once and for all.
When I thought about my future, I only saw us there. It was always us against the world.
I thought that I could always count on you being a part of my life. Suddenly, everything changed and our love disappeared.
I don’t blame you anymore. I was broken, but after some time, I found myself again.
You taught me how to be strong enough to put myself back together.
I learned how to live without you and realized that my life was okay without you.
That’s why I wanted to say, “Thank you.”
Thank you for letting me fall, only to discover my true strength. You gave me a chance to start over without you.
I started to celebrate all the little wins. Walking a dog, who once was a pain in the butt for you, now brings me so much joy and happiness.
Going to the gym gives me energy that you drained me of.
I take care of my body and now, I feel great once I forget how much I gave myself to our relationship.
It’s something that everyone does, I know, but I picked up the pieces of myself and brought back the old me.
I sacrificed so many things because of you; I traded my values to satisfy your needs.
It was the wrong thing to do, but I did it nonetheless. I sacrificed myself for what love was and now I realize it was a false love.
One day, I found myself hiking again and doing things that I’d missed so much.
I made a list of all the things I’d stopped doing, and now I’m on a path to start them again.
The other day, I went to my favorite cafe and had a cup of coffee, alone. It filled me with so much positive energy that I hadn’t felt in so long.
Sure, my heart ached, but my happiness overshadowed the sadness. I never knew that the little things could mean so much to a person.
At first, after we broke up, I didn’t understand how much of an impact that decision would have on my life.
I felt lonely. My hands shook and my mind raced thinking about you. Eventually, it drained me of all my energy.
Although we’re not together anymore, I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry because you never appreciated me the way you should have.
That said, the breakup brought me happiness, as I started doing things that pleased me.
The awful things you loved to eat, I didn’t cook anymore, and I started eating healthily.
I quit my job and applied for a new one, and took risks because you said I would never have the courage to do so.
I also made new friends and got out of my comfort zone.
So, I proved you wrong.
I know that I’m one thought away from finding true happiness.
You may ask how I found myself after feeling broken and miserable.
Well, I surrounded myself with the right people, my people. Not yours, who always criticized and judged me.
When my friends invite me on casual nights out, I go and have the time of my life.
Without you holding me back, I have finally experienced my true self. I have grown into the woman I was destined to be.
Those gaps and holes of emptiness that you thought you left, I filled with my dreams, goals, and passions.
Ultimately, I learned that the best way to find myself was to be my own best friend.
I was afraid of being alone, but I found out that I could invest that time in my interests.
I’d always put you first before, but now I have learned to love myself.
I don’t blame you for choosing her over me. You might have found something in her that I lacked, but I realize you were never destined for me.
Your love wasn’t enough for me anyway.
Our love felt right at the time but at some point, I came to realize that someone can only be in your life for a certain reason.
The reason you were in my life was to help me recognize my own worth and strength.
Your absence made me a better person. I gained so much when we broke up, and I recognized that I had so much to offer – and I gave it to myself.
Besides my own love, I don’t need anything else. I’m enough and I don’t need a man like you.
You were the one who taught me how to become a stronger woman. I thank God for the experience because I finally found myself.