Relationships can be quite difficult. Even when you’re in a long-term one, there comes a point when you might be wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?”
Well, the answer might surprise you, but maybe you’re missing out on the signs that he loves you, even though they’re there.
Love isn’t all about saying, “I love you,” all the time, and expecting your partner to believe it. There’s much more to it.
Many of us have this idea about what love should be, how should it look, and how it should feel. And the truth is that many of us have a hard time accepting the fact that those are just ideas and not reality.
Love is all about the little things – those morning coffees and hugs during tough times that mean everything.
Ideas of what love should be might be caused by our grand visions that have been embedded into our mind.
On the other hand, they may have been caused by bad past experiences that pushed us to build walls around us, so that we aren’t able to give or receive love.
Are you wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?”
Well, you must pay attention to his behavior and actions. Most of his emotions are going to be expressed through them, since men are creatures of actions rather than words.
True love is a tricky thing. A guy can say that he loves you and not really mean it.
On top of that, a guy might genuinely love you, but not be ready to express it through words.
It’s not uncommon for a woman to ask herself whether he loves her, even when she’s in a healthy relationship. After all, you can’t read someone else’s mind.
However, there are signs showing that he loves you. They may be hard to recognize if you don’t shift your attention to his behavior and body language.
1. He genuinely listens to you
You’ve heard this before, but let me remind you – men have a shorter attention span.
Listening to what your partner has to say is crucial if you want to have a healthy and lasting relationship.
So, if you’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?” the answer is quite simple – he will listen to what you have to say.
But he won’t just do that, he’ll also remember everything you said to him.
It’s like he hangs on to your every word because he truly respects what you have to say.
It’s not that he tries hard to listen to you, but it comes naturally to him.
He’s mesmerized by you so he can’t do anything but take note of every little thing you say.
Do you know how your best friend waits for you to tell them everything? That’s how he will act as well.
Also, if a guy genuinely loves you, he’ll listen to you without anything else grabbing his attention.
You’ll have his utmost attention and he won’t interrupt you at all.
So, an important sign that he’s truly committed to you and that he wants a loving relationship with you is when he listens to you.
2. His eyes say everything
So, if you’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?” pay attention to his eyes.
Does he look at you like he can’t believe that you’re real? Do his eyes shine every time he looks at you?
If your answer to either is yes, then that’s a sign of love. He may even be direct and say that he can’t believe that someone like you exists.
This type of look isn’t your ordinary you-look-hot kind of a look. Instead, it’s filled with passion, love, serenity, and inner calm.
It’s his look that gives you security that you’re the only one for him. He makes prolonged eye contact because he loves you.
That kind of a look is reserved only for the right person. And you’re the right one for him.
When a guy loves you, he’ll never stop looking for you. Even if you’re on the other side of the room, his gaze will often be focused on you.
3. He’s really interested in your personality
We all know that physical appearance is what attracts two people together at first. However, the inner attraction is what keeps you together.
So, if you’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?” ask yourself this – does he seem more interested in your personality or looks?
When a man truly loves a woman then he’ll go out of his way to know everything about her; her past, present, and future.
While most men are pretty good with knowing just a couple of facts about the woman they’re dating, a man who genuinely loves you will actively try to get to know your inner self (your personality).
He might even ask you a couple of unusual questions that no other guy has asked you before.
If he’s head over heels about you, then he’ll also compliment your inner beauty.
Men are visual creatures. Usually, they’ll compliment you more on your looks than your personality, but not this guy.
He won’t be like the rest of them. He sees your inner beauty and that means only one thing – he loves you.
4. He makes plans for your future
If you’re serious about someone and you want to have a lasting relationship, you’ll make plans for your future together, right?
It’s the same when a guy loves you, as he’ll also make plans for your future.
Maybe he has a family gathering in a couple of weeks and asks you to go along or perhaps he plans a fun trip just for the two of you.
There’s a good chance he’s going to be yours forever if he makes plans for your future. After all, you’re his happily ever after.
5. He’s all about giving and not taking
A true soulmate will never ask for anything in return but rather always give his love to you and no one else.
When you love someone, you want that person to have all of your love, and everything you have belongs to them.
I’m not talking about material possessions. I’m talking about your heart and soul that are reserved only for those who you truly love.
When a man genuinely loves a woman, he’ll put in extra effort to make her happy and he’ll try his hardest to prove to her that he loves her.
So, if you’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?” try answering this question first: Does he do everything he can to make you happy?
Love is best shown through actions. It’s not just saying those three words, “I love you,” and thinking you’re done.
The best indication that your man loves you is when he’s all about giving and not taking.
6. He appreciates your input
Men are odd human beings. When they don’t love you, they’ll simply discard your opinions and do whatever they want.
He won’t even take into consideration what you just said and he’ll often prioritize his needs, emotions, and desires over yours.
However, we both know that his way and his opinions aren’t always the best option.
You also have a brilliant mind and sometimes you’ll come up with a better solution.
So, a guy who genuinely loves you will appreciate your input and he’ll often do things your way.
He’ll listen to you carefully, take your advice seriously, and then he’ll apply it.
If he loves you, then he’ll be excited to follow your advice instead of his own.
He’ll finally discover that he has an amazing and intelligent woman by his side and he’ll start to listen to you more often.
7. He shows you off
Family and friends play a significant role in a man’s life. He’ll introduce them to a woman who is close to his heart.
So, if you’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?” tell me this: Have you met his family and friends?
If your answer is yes, then he loves you more than you originally thought.
However, those family members and friends won’t just know you.
They’ll also know personal things about you and they’ll accept you into their family circle even before you tie the knot.
Another thing worth mentioning is that if he really loves you, then he’ll talk about you over and over again at family meetings or when he hangs out with his friends.
If you’ve never met his loved ones, the chances are that he doesn’t love you enough for the long haul.
You should take that as a red flag that he might have someone else on his mind.
On the other hand, if he loves you, then he’ll make sure to show you off whenever he can to his friends and family.
It means that he enjoys spending time with you, which is why he’ll invite you to family gatherings and when he and his friends go out.
8. He shows his vulnerable side
Everyone is scared of being vulnerable and showing their partner their emotional side.
At the beginning of a relationship, that might be a hard thing to do, since everyone tries to show themselves in the best possible light.
One of the signs that he loves you is when he starts to share his emotions and feelings with you.
Men are not usually ones who love to talk about their emotions, we all know that.
However, a man who truly loves you will show you his vulnerable side.
He won’t have any problem answering all of your questions about his feelings because he trusts you.
He trusts that you won’t hurt him like other girls did.
Also, a man who loves you won’t hide things from you. He’ll be like an open book because he won’t have any trust issues.
He’ll be comfortable telling you all of his secrets because he knows you won’t disappoint him.
He wants to make you a part of his life. And if you know all the bad things that he did in the past, then he already considers you a part of his life.
9. He’s invested in being a part of your life
So, how do you know whether he loves you or not?
Well, just as much as he wants you to know everything about him, he also wants to be part of your life.
This means that he wants to be completely immersed in it.
He’ll insist on meeting your family and friends and his behavior will be on point so that your loved ones will like him.
In addition to that, he’ll make extra effort to make himself available when you want him to spend time with the people who matter to you.
If he really loves you, then you won’t have to doubt yourself when chasing your dreams because he’ll be there for you.
He’ll always try to cheer you up and give you the support you need to achieve your goals.
Even if you want to go to a yoga class and need a partner, he’ll immediately volunteer because he wants to be a part of things you’re passionate about.
He won’t be just interested in your life. It’ll be much more than that.
He’ll start participating in your life because he wants to become a permanent fixture in it.
Someone who is irreplaceable, someone who’s always there for you.
10. He misses you when you’re not with him
Sometimes, it’s hard to explain a man’s behavior and his feelings.
But men typically become aware of their feelings toward a woman when she’s absent.
It’s always a good sign when he showers you with compliments when you two are together, but what do you think he’s like when he’s not with you?
Does he miss you? Does he send you a good morning text when he’s not with you?
Does he keep in touch with you via text messages? Or does he disappear and you don’t hear from him for days on end?
If he really loves you, then he’ll miss you when you’re not with him yearn for your presence.
This doesn’t mean that he thinks about you every waking minute, because that would be an unhealthy obsession.
However, you’ll be on his mind for the most part of the day.
That’s when you know he really loves you. He’ll always keep in touch no matter how busy he is.
He’ll send you funny videos or jokes just so you know that you’re on his mind.
He’s there to stay, and you know that because you don’t wonder where he’s been or what he’s been doing.
You just know that you miss him and he misses you.
11. He embraces your flaws
Showing your flaws and quirks at the beginning of a relationship can be tough.
However, that won’t be a problem around a man who really loves you.
You won’t be afraid to show your true self when you’re around the guy you love.
It doesn’t matter if he sees you at your worst, as he’ll still love you the way you are.
Why? Because his feelings for you are genuine.
He’ll embrace your flaws because he knows everyone has them.
He already noticed your idiosyncrasies and ticks, but he didn’t pull away; he stayed because he really loves you.
A man who truly loves you will know that you’re not perfect. No one is.
However, a man who really loves you won’t care. Instead, he’ll see it and he’ll value you more for it.
Even though your previous boyfriends might have left you because of those flaws, this guy won’t do that.
He’ll embrace those not-so-glamorous things about you and he’ll love you for them.
12. He showers you with compliments
Guys who honestly care about your feelings and emotions go out of their way so that you know that you look good.
Let’s face it, everyone has their bad days, but a guy who loves you will find something nice to say about your looks so that he lifts your spirits a bit.
He doesn’t just shower you with compliments because he knows you like them, he makes sure you know that you’re the most attractive woman he has ever met in his life.
If he does that, then you know he really loves you.
13. He doesn’t hold grudges against you
Every couple fights from time to time and arguments can have a positive impact on a relationship.
They create space for two people to give their honest opinions on certain matters.
This can certainly improve things for the better and can also help both of you let go of your frustrations that might have built up over quite a while, as you can get things off your chest.
But let’s say that your argument escalates. How does your man behave in this situation?
Is he stubborn? Maybe he’s too controlling and tries to avoid the problem altogether or is he the type of guy who’ll make sure to resolve any issues at hand?
A man who really loves you will listen to what you have to say and try to see the issue from your point of view.
He won’t have a problem if he’s the one to blame.
He also won’t have a problem saying sorry and he won’t hold any grudges against you if he loves you.
Trust me, few men are willing to do this, so if he acts this way, then he’s definitely a keeper.
14. You connect on a deeper level
When you find the one, it doesn’t mean he’s just your boyfriend and nothing else. It also means that he’s your best friend, your partner in crime.
And if he really loves you, then he’ll make sure that you two connect on a deeper level.
You’ll share jokes, you’ll have pet names, and you’ll laugh at silly things together.
Simply put, you’ll enjoy each other’s company and you’ll make sure that you spend every available minute together.
Also, he’ll search for opportunities to touch you, such as by stroking your hair or having you rest on his chest.
He’ll find any excuse to get up close and familiar with you.
You’re his reason for happiness, which is why he’ll constantly make plans for your next date night.
15. He’s always there to help you
You’re wondering, “How will I know if he really loves me?”
Well, if your man is always there to share your burdens with you and to try to solve any problems together, then he really loves you.
One of the most obvious signs of love is when your partner is selfless enough to do that, to be there for you no matter how difficult the situation might seem.
If he treats your problems like they’re his own and doesn’t back away every time push comes to shove, then you know your love is real.
His emotions for you are genuine and you don’t need to worry about whether he’s pretending or not.
16. He doesn’t give up
A guy who really loves you will stop at nothing to make it work. He’ll fully commit to your relationship and won’t back down when problems arise.
If he loves you but simply doesn’t want to try anymore, then it probably wasn’t true love after all.
When you feel the beauty of love, you don’t give up so easily. Instead, you put everything you have into making it work.
So that’s why if a guy really loves you, he won’t ghost you or leave you just because you stumble upon a problem in your relationship.
Instead, what he’ll do is have an open conversation about it and he’ll put in the effort to solve the issue at hand.
This list of signs hopefully helped you get an idea of whether or not he loves you, although the truth is that he may not even know the answer to your question yet.
It doesn’t mean that you must see at least four signs or so to know for sure that he loves you. That’s not how love works.
However, if you recognize the majority of these signs, then it likely does mean that he really loves you. But it’s up to you to recognize them.