How do I tell a guy I like him? Are you ready to be completely honest with me and admit how many times did this question cross your mind?
Whether we’re talking about a secret crush, that guy you recently met, or your close friend, it’s always difficult to state the obvious. Are you afraid of his reaction, rejection, or maybe you’re not sure if you really like him?
(Un)fortunately, you’re not the only one. It feels horrible to be lost in that emotional labyrinth, especially when you’re not tall enough to see the path. Jokes aside, it can be super confusing, but the positive thing that came out of my experience is that now I’m able to share some advice with you.
I’ll tell you the truth and shame the devil right from the start – it’s not going to be an easy road.
Before you learn how to tell a guy you like him, let’s get a grasp on how you actually know if you like a guy, and what to do in those situations.
How do you know you like a guy?
I think the worst part will be done once you’re clear on whether you like the guy for real or if he’s just a temporary crush.
However, this is going to be tough. I know that for me this was the trickiest task because I hardly wanted to accept that I like someone. I was always finding excuses for the obvious signs that were showing me (and him) how much I care.
So, without further ado, let me break it down for you and help you to figure things out easily.
1. You get excited when you see him
Does your heart skip a beat every time you see him? Do you feel like your body temperature just broke every scale? Not only does he make you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach, but the whole damn zoo.
Yup, you like the guy. Either that, or you had some inconvenience with him earlier, and now you get anxious every time you see him.
2. You’re constantly thinking about him
Is there a second out of those 86 400 in a day that passes without you thinking about him? If your answer is no, or if he spends most of the time inside your head, sorry to disappoint you, but you like him.
Do you buy a specific snack just because it’s his fave? Do you check your phone often in hope that there will be a message from him? C’mon, be honest with yourself because it’s evident for the rest of us.
3. You get nervous when he’s around
Do your palms get sweaty when he’s around? Does your voice start shaking and sometimes you’re not even aware of what you’re talking about? You’ve guessed it one more time, it’s one of the hints you may like the guy.
Of course, the nervousness will eventually pass. It takes time to be comfortable with someone, but just keep being you. If he’s the right guy, you’ll know it.
4. You get dressed up to see him
Do you spend a bit more time getting ready when you know he’s going to show up in a local pub as well? Are you tactically placing the perfume on the places where you want to be kissed as Coco Chanel advised?
When a girl spends more time dressing up, it means she cares about what kind of an impression is she going to leave on a guy she likes. So, another yes, chances that you like the guy are really high at this point.
5. You would do anything to see him
Have you re-arranged some plans recently with your gal-pals and decided to change the location last minute just because he said he’ll be in a certain place? Are you ready to adjust your schedule only to be able to see him?
To go above and beyond only to see him (yes, I’m not talking about spending time with him) can only mean one thing, girl.
6. You want to spend more time with him
Are you canceling or delaying some obligations that you have in order to spend more time with him? When it’s time to say goodbye, do you wish you can stay longer? There’s nothing wrong with you enjoying his company and it’s perfectly fine if you feel like 24h are not enough.
I’d say it’s just our curiosity that makes us wish to stay longer; because we want to know as much as possible about the person we like. Everything they decide to share with us is interesting and makes us cry out for more.
When a girl feels safe in a guy’s company, she’ll be vulnerable and want to share personal details with him. Things like her favorite childhood memory, or the first time she hurt her knee are going to be some of the topics.
If you feel comfortable in his company, it’s not a clear-cut hint, but if you feel it along with something else from this list then yes, it’s a sign you like him.
8. You genuinely feel happy in his presence
Usually, when you like a guy you’ll feel genuinely happy in his presence. You’ll feel calm and protected like nothing can hurt you. You may be going through an emotional roller coaster, but when you’re in his company, nothing else matters.
If he’s calming all the storms occurring in your head and making them bearable, don’t let him be the one that got away – tell the guy you like him.
9. You get jealous when you see him with other girls
I know this is one of those cliche signs, but it actually discovers more than we want to admit. Jealousy is something normal (but in the right dose), so pay attention to what happens when you see him with other girls.
Do you feel your ears burning, your eyes twitching, and do you generally feel uncomfortable when you see him flirting or just talking with another girl? Try to stay away from those situations if you’re still not sure how to tell a guy you like him.
10. All songs seem to be about him
How many songs do you have on your playlist that somehow remind you of him? All of them? Are you thinking of him as soon as you hear the first tone of “I will always love you”?
If you’re dancing around to the beats of “Crazy in love” but you still don’t understand just how his love can do what no one else can – sing, I mean, speak no further.
11. He makes you laugh
Are you laughing at every joke he cracks? Have you started giggling in his presence for no obvious reason? Being with him makes you happy, but he also makes you laugh – that’s a quite good sign if you ask me.
I mean, the guy is taking care of your health, what’s there not to like?
12. Being away from him makes you sad
Do you miss him as soon as you part ways after a long walk? Have you started noticing those slight mood changes whenever he’s not around? Probably, you still have that smile on your face, but you somehow feel empty when he’s not by your side. It’s clear – you like the guy.
What’s the other reason? Exactly, I can’t think of anything either.
13. Other guys don’t matter
This one is the most obvious reason I’ve mentioned so far. Did a cute guy, that half of the girls you hang out with are crazy about, just asked you out? Did you brush him off?
You probably don’t even understand why your gal-pals are obsessed with him, nor why they started calling you foolish for not accepting his offer. Let’s be honest, it’s because you started developing feelings for another guy. Time to confess you like him.
14. You started thinking about your future with him
Daydreaming is something we all do from time to time and it’s never too serious. But, what if you started thinking with intent about the guy you like?
Did you start thinking if you’ll live in a house or a flat? Will you have kids? Where will you go for your honeymoon? This is one of the most genuine signs you have to tell a guy you like him.
The reasons why you should tell a guy you like him
Have you noticed some of the signs we mentioned in the first part of the article are repeating? If so, by now you are certain you like him but you’re still not sure whether you should tell him or not. What’s stopping you?
Are you afraid that he may not like you back? Maybe you’re not sure if there are enough reasons for you to even consider telling him. Let me help you out a bit. Here are 10 reasons why you should tell a guy you like him.
1. You can’t hold it back anymore
You know you feel something for him, but you’re not sure if you need to react. Does it feel awkward not saying it and spending time with him? If so, then do it. Tell a guy you like him.
The longer you hold it back, the harder it will be for you to eventually confess your feelings. They’ll eat you alive completely, and we don’t want that.
2. You have a strong desire to touch him or kiss him
When he’s next to you, do you have a strong desire to touch him or just to gently run your fingers through his hair? Do you feel the urge to kiss him?
If you feel like something is drawing you towards him and you can’t shake it off? Keep reading to figure out how to tell him you like him.
3. You’re texting or talking a lot
Are you spending hours, or even days texting with him? Are you calling each other just to see how their day went? Do you get excited every time his name pops up on your screen?
We do that with friends as well, but you’ll feel it’s different this time. Your gut will know the right answer, just ask.
4. You want things to get more serious
Besides daydreaming and imagining your future together, there is actually something deep inside of you that badly wants all of that to happen. Do you want to start a relationship with him and make things official?
Wait no more, because this is an undeniable sign that you’re falling for him.
5. You think he likes you, but is shy
Do you think that he likes you back, but is afraid to confess it? Then go for it girl, I don’t have to explain this one to you. Nowadays, there’s no expectation for the guy to make the first move, so go ahead, help him out.
6. You spend a lot of time together and it’s clear he enjoys your company
It’s easy to notice if someone is enjoying our company or not, you just feel their vibe. So if he’s being all playful and funny, seems eager to share his personal information with you, and he’s initiating the hang-outs, you don’t need any other proof. Trust me.
7. You subtly touch each other
Does he touch your shoulder when talking to you? Do you playfully punch him when he teases you? While you’re walking, do your hands touch and none of you feel uncomfortable about it?
This is your own special chance to learn how to tell a guy you like him.
8. When you’re out with friends, you sit close
Did you notice that every time you go out with your group of friends, you’re sitting close to each other? That can only mean that he is not trying to avoid you and wants you by his side.
He may also use this opportunity to lightly touch you, or sneak in a kiss on your cheek when no one’s watching.
9. You have a lot in common
Do you get along well and have A LOT in common? Could you endlessly talk about music or traveling, and the subjects to have a conversation about are just piling up?
You can use any of these as an ice breaker and initiate a conversation with your crush. That way you’ll be able to broaden the understanding of a specific topic instead of just scratching its surface.
10. His look makes you feel special
The Earth is calling you! Did you figure out the point yet?
If you’re still clueless (which is really hard for me to believe at this moment), this is going to clear it up. If he looks at you the way you look at the waiter who’s finally bringing your food out, that’s it!
To put it a bit differently, when he makes you feel special just by the way he’s looking at you, there is no denying that you should tell him you like him.
The reasons why you shouldn’t tell a guy you like him
No matter if you like a guy, there are certain situations that are a no go when you want to confess your feelings to a guy.
So far we named all the signs you like a guy and then we went through the most common situations that typically happen when the feelings are mutual.
However, in the next part, you’ll be able to find 5 circumstances in which I wouldn’t recommend you tell a guy you like him.
1. You don’t know him for too long
Have you met a couple of days ago at a random party? Or did you just start taking the same class? If you ask me, this is only enough to find him attractive. You still need to spend some time with him to know if you actually like him or not.
2. You don’t communicate often
Has he texted you to check what you did during a lecture he skipped? Don’t instantly think that he likes you and he’s only using this as an excuse to start a conversation with you. But don’t get me wrong either, this may be the truth as well.
What I’m trying to say here is that I don’t advise you to reach out to a guy if you just spoke once or if you don’t text regularly.
3. He doesn’t flirt back
If he doesn’t flirt back, don’t tell a guy you like him. Of course, you never know what’s the reason behind the way he acts. Maybe he’s shy, or he actually doesn’t know how to flirt. Not everybody was born a natural.
Whatever the reason, don’t express your feelings just yet. Give him some time to clear it up for you.
4. He made it clear you’re friends
You’re ready to let a guy advance from a friend zone because you finally realized that you may like him? Eventually, you decided to tell him and you were having a casual conversation where he made it clear you’re just friends. Does this sound familiar?
If I were you, I wouldn’t risk the friendship.
5. He already told you he doesn’t like you that way
Maybe there was a time that you guys actually talked about this, and he told you that he doesn’t like you that way. Or maybe he has a girlfriend and there is nothing to doubt there.
Whatever the reason, the only thing you can do is to respect his decision.
How to prepare yourself to tell a guy you like him
Okay, we cleared up some things, and now is the time to finally start talking about how to tell a guy you like him.
As I’ve told you before, the most difficult part will be to understand your own feelings. Now, the rest can be tricky as well but be yourself throughout the whole process, and things will turn out better than expected.
I assume that, since you came this far, you concluded that you indeed have feelings for the guy. In this part, we’ll talk more about how to get ready for the moment. Let’s do it!
1. Be clear about your feelings for him
What I need to emphasize here is that you have to be clear about your feelings for him – with yourself.
If you’ll constantly end up on a roller coaster, it’s going to be lethargic both for you and for that relationship. You need to be honest and comfortable with what and how you feel. Only then you’ll be able to accurately express your feelings to him.
You can even make a list of the pros and cons of confessing your feelings. Do whatever you think is necessary for you to decide. Hell, do an online quiz if you feel like it!
Take as much time as you’ll need, but once you get to the conclusion don’t overthink it.
2. Find out if he likes you
There are multiple ways you can do this. Go ask around about him, look for hints he may give you, or just try to figure it out on your own.
Do you know how we sometimes say “I know a guy who knows a guy”? At least one person from your social circle knows a bit more about him. Learn more about the guy (if possible even before you approach him) and if you reveal that he likes you as well, take a risk!
Honestly speaking, you’ve got nothing to lose, but something (hopefully) great to win.
3. Read his body language
How is he behaving around you? Is he smiling more often? Does he turn his body toward you even if his attention is elsewhere in the moment? Is he making eye contact with you often?
As easy as it is for him to read your body language (if he pays a little bit of attention), it’s going to be a piece of cake for you. You’ll notice if he’s touching you accidentally, if he’s fixing his clothes, or initiating the hug when you guys meet.
It’s going to be so evident even if he tries to hide it. He may casually strike a pose or smile at you flirtatiously. You may also notice his voice shaking a bit or you may catch a glimpse of his sweaty palms. That’s all normal and it may actually mean that the guy likes you.
4. Don’t set your expectations too high
First of all, you have to remember that your crush is a human being just like you and that he may have problems communicating his feelings as well. It’s not a big deal. I’m just saying it so you wouldn’t set your expectations too high.
If you keep thinking of him as if he’s one of the gods from Olymp, just write down any flaw you can think of. You can start with “he’s flawless”, because no one is, and go from there. This is to make sure you’re not making a big deal out of it.
Being aware of the fact that he has vices and virtues just like everybody else, will make it less stressful for you to approach him and tell him you like him.
5. Stop thinking that he has to make the first move
Please stop thinking that the guy has to make the first move. Yes, it may sound romantic and it mostly happens that way in movies. But sometimes, in real life, you have to be the one to take the charge.
I’m not saying that you should constantly initiate the contact, or ask him out. Rather that it became normal for girls to ask guys out. Be bold enough to tell a guy you like him and swipe him off his feet!
6. Make sure he’s not already dating someone
I know you wouldn’t like some other girl to hit on your boyfriend, so play fair as well. If you know he’s dating someone, try to stay away from him. I understand that you like him, and what I’m asking you may not be that easy.
But for you to have clear consciousness, try to listen to my advice. Every time you feel the urge to approach him, just put yourself in his girl’s shoes and think about how would you feel in her place. The right guy for you is out there, be patient.
7. Practice what you want to say
Anxiety affects a lot of things we have to do daily. If you feel like it’s going to eat you up, practice the speech before you talk with him.
Stand in front of the mirror and say all those words meant for him. You’ll be more confident, or at least it will look that way. Take your time to decide what will “your moment” look like. Are you going to mention you like him during a break at school?
Maybe you’ll ask him for a walk on the beach and then tell him you like him and make it all look a bit more romantic? However you decide to do it, good preparation is the key. Good luck!
8. Realize that “no” is not a big deal
Maybe I’ve mentioned it earlier and probably will mention it later again, but your worth does not depend on his answer. If he says that he doesn’t want to date you, his loss.
The word itself doesn’t define you, nor the person who said it. Don’t let yourself bend out of shape. “No” is truly not a big deal, just a two-letter word.
9. Don’t lose sleep over it
Whatever you do, do not panic, or lose sleep over it. It’s not worth it. You have to take care of yourself and your needs first. So pay attention that this doesn’t take away your me-time, nor your beauty sleep.
Yes, it’s going to be a bit stressful and you may be anxious. But just keep in mind that there is no valid reason why his decision, whether he should date you or not, should influence your life.
10. Be confident
Right now, I can think of a couple of possible outcomes when you tell a guy you like him. Neither of them is relevant to what I’m going to say next.
You have to be confident.
Don’t question his reaction at all, keep it cool. If he tells you he likes you back try not to shoot “really?!” right back at him. You may come off as insecure, or he’ll think it’s cute. I’m not sure I’d like to miss the target and hit the insecure part.
However, if his answer implies that he is not romantically interested in you, casually dismiss him.
Just keep in mind that his rejection doesn’t define you and, c’mon he’s not the only fish in the sea.
How to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off
Most of the time we are afraid of our own feelings, even more of someone else’s. There are a couple of ideas I have about how you could tell a guy you like him without scaring him off, so let’s go!
1. Small talk is the best talk (in this situation)
When you don’t know how to initiate the conversation, start talking about the weather. The best way to break the ice in this situation is to actually have a small talk with your crush. Eventually, you’ll start talking about other things.
For example, if you notice that he has a new phone (you don’t have to be tech-savvy to carry on a basic conversation about smartphones) ask him about the specifications. The talk about phone cameras can lead to the professional camera, then to photography.
Whatever you feel would be a good topic, just go for it. His earphones are blue and your fave color is blue, start talking about it.
So yeah, make the small talk your weapon of choice. It won’t feel awkward unless you start talking about astrophysics or something.
2. Talk about things you have in common
If you know that your crush and you have some things in common, start talking about them. Maybe you’re going to the same gym or taking the same class. Whatever it is, talk about those things first.
Later, you’ll communicate effortlessly and the topics will arise naturally. It’s always a great idea to talk about potential things you can do together and eventually fulfilling your plans can create a strong bond between the two of you.
3. Write him a note
Being a shy person can be a bit tricky, but don’t worry, there is a solution for you as well. Leave him a note in his locker, or in his backpack. If you’re too shy and you don’t want him to know who left the note, act naturally and leave it for him when he’s not paying attention.
You can also ask someone to do it for you if you think you’ll get too anxious. When you write him a note, you’ll trigger his imagination and he will think about you for a long time.
The only downside to this is that he may assume it’s from someone else if you don’t leave some clues, so pay attention to that.
4. Text him
Just send him a text. You can find a lot of interesting messages online if you think you’re not creative enough. And if you want to keep him guessing, use your siblings’ phone, but don’t lead him on for too long.
If you’re feeling bold, you can even confess you like him and then text again telling how the message “OMG, Jake is so cute!!” was meant for your best friend, not him. That way, if he feels the same way, he’ll have no excuse not to ask you out.
5. Send a gif
It became easier to express ourselves with the major growth of social media. Using gifs and emojis became an important part of our everyday lives.
You can use this to your benefit and actually share your feelings using gifs. Shift to a laid-back mode and search for the most convenient one.
6. Ask him for help
If you know he’s really good at the subject you need help with, ask him. You’ll awaken his hero instinct and he’ll gladly help you. It’s not only in fairy tales that the prince is saving a damsel in distress, they like to do it in real life too.
So next time you’ll need someone to change your light bulb or to move the furniture around, ask him. As a thank you gesture, you can prepare lunch. And well, you can thank me later for that cute little date.
7. Open up to him
Talk with him about your life, but don’t confess too much (at least not at this point). It’s okay if you share some details of your life with him, just make sure you don’t overdo it.
If you constantly talk about yourself and your problems, the guy may run away. So make sure that you’re keeping the balance by asking him questions as well. Ask for his opinion, or how his day went, and let him talk about himself too, so he feels valued.
8. Don’t ask him out in front of a bunch of people
I assume you wouldn’t like to be asked out in front of a bunch of people, so don’t do it to him either. That way he may feel pressured and even say and do things he doesn’t mean.
Rather ask him to go for a walk or wait for the most convenient moment to do so. He’ll appreciate it for sure and it will be easier for you to handle whatever the answer he may give you.
9. Be friends with him first
I know you may think that being friends first is not such a great idea because if the relationship fails, you’ll lose him. Partially true.
Being friends with a guy is not necessarily making it easier for you to tell him you like him, but it will help you get to know the guy better, and get an idea of how would it be to spend more time with him.
Yes, you may lose him as a friend, but that’s not always a bad thing. You may have a boyfriend and a best friend all in one!
10. Be straightforward
Most guys misread the clues and kinda hate to read between the lines, so make it easier for him and just be straightforward. He’ll appreciate it a lot more, than if you hesitate to tell him how you feel.
Imagine if you’d come to a guy and told him something as simple as “Hey, I like you.” He would be relieved because he doesn’t have to read all those subliminal messages and he won’t stay cold-blooded for your bold move, trust me.
Bonus tip: Make him ask you out
As it usually goes, the best is always saved for the end. The last tip I’m going to give you is to be yourself and be aware of the guy’s behavior, because he may show you he likes you. You could probably relate to most of the things mentioned earlier and that’s why you’re still here.
Pay close attention to how he’s treating you, if he’s making you his priority and if he’s genuinely happy in your presence. Don’t try to manipulate him, but use your knowledge as a superpower.
In the end, if you play your cards right, he may ask you out on a date instead! You’re welcome.
How to show a guy you like him
In the next part, we’ll cover all the ways you can show a guy you like him. So, now we’re talking about actions that can display your affection for him.
Hint: You can use these even if you just started your relationship.
You may be already familiar with most of them, but still, they are worth mentioning.
1. Flirt with him
Play with your hair, touch him gently, laugh at his jokes. Flirt with him and make it obvious.
Use your body language and break the touch barrier. Get closer to him if you want to tell him something and whisper it to his ear. The tingling feeling he’ll get afterward will be very memorable.
2. Do things he likes to do
If you know that there are some things he really likes to do, go ahead, ask him out, and do them together.
For example, if he likes hiking and enjoying nature, plan a date accordingly. Ask him to go hiking and then surprise him with a picnic on the top, or something like that. He’ll appreciate the effort and he won’t forget it for a long time.
3. Casually bump into him
Do you know which cafe place he visits often? Is he going to a specific club for the weekend?
Use all of it as an excuse to casually bump into him. That’s how you’ll constantly be on his mind and he’ll associate you with places where he feels comfortable.
4. Do something thoughtful
It’s all about little things that make us happy, so next time instead of buying him a super expensive gift, go with a shirt in his favorite color or leave his fave chocolate at his desk.
As much as girls like when a guy shows interest in her and pampers her, he’ll appreciate it as well. And you’ll be able to actually show him you like him.
5. Be playful
I don’t know if I mentioned this one earlier, but be playful. Bring some joy in his life and make him laugh.
Do whatever you find appropriate. Go to a local park with him and ask him to use the swing because that was your fave thing to do when you were a kid. Let him see you’re enjoying life and that you’re happy.
6. Do things you both like – together
By now you’re aware that you guys share some similar interests. You can use these as an excuse to ask him out and show him you like him.
Let’s say you both love basketball and there is going to be a very important match for your local club soon. You can easily use this opportunity to ask him to cheer together.
Or if he’s into art and you’ve always wanted to visit an exhibition, it could be a cool idea to go with him. You may learn something new from him and even impress him with your knowledge. Such a smooth move, girl!
7. Take pictures together
When you go out take that phone out and use it solely for this purpose. Take pictures together, smile, and make silly faces.
It will be a great memory later on. Trust me, my boyfriend and I really love our first-date photo. It actually reminds us how far we’ve come.
8. Eye contact
Eye contact is everything. If you want to show a guy you like him, just stare at him for a bit longer than usual and when you find it appropriate, share a smile with him as well.
I think people tend to forget how powerful body language can be and how something as simple as eye contact can tell a lot.
9. Compliment him
Who doesn’t like to hear a few words of praise? If you feel like it, compliment him!
Don’t be shy and avoid telling him how beautiful his new haircut is if you want to show him you like him. C’mon, be daring, you’ll make him smile.
10. Dance with him
If you get an opportunity, grab it!
Are you at a party or in a club together? Seize the moment and enjoy it. You can be silly or show him your inner queen of the dancefloor.
11. Wear a color he likes
For example, he really likes red. When going out with him alone or with friends, try to wear something red.
He’ll associate it with something he already likes and, honestly, who doesn’t look memorable in red?
12. Just kiss him!
Be fearless and just kiss him! This is such an obvious sign you like him and he won’t be able to miss it.
But do it only if you notice that the guy is into you; and that he’s maybe hesitating to kiss you first. Otherwise, you may make things uncomfortable.
How to react if he says yes
Woohoo! You got the positive answer and you’d dance it out or just scream from the top of your lungs how happy you are.
Let me give you some tips on how to react after you got that confirmation you secretly hoped for.
1. Don’t freak out
First things first – don’t freak out! Try not to do your happy dance in front of him and try to control your high-pitched squeaky sounds of excitement.
I know you’re happy, but act naturally and as soon as you get home, do whatever you want and scream as loud as you want.
2. Keep in touch with him, but don’t overdo it
After you’ve initiated the first date (or just arranged it) it’s important for you to stay in touch with a guy you like. However, don’t text him or call him all the time.
You don’t want him to start avoiding you and you just landed that date. Take it easy.
3. Plan a date
The time has come! You have to plan a date with him, are you ready? By now you’ve discovered certain things about him, so use them to your advantage.
When you start planning the date make sure to keep all of those in mind, so you could keep his attention and show him you like him.
Those extra five minutes to wing your eyeliner and put mascara on, won’t mean a single thing to you, but I guarantee he’ll notice.
So, take some time to dress up and get ready. You don’t have to go overboard and be something you’re not, I’m not saying that. Just give in some extra effort and dazzle him.
5. Be you
The most important part – be you!
You want a guy in your life who’ll like you for who you are, not who you pretend to be. So when out on a date with him, be your most beautiful self.
How to react if he says no
There can be plenty of reasons why he turned you down. Maybe he just broke up with his ex, or he still didn’t clear things up after the breakup. It can also be that the guy simply wants to be single and is not thinking of starting anything serious.
Here are 5 tips on how to react if he doesn’t feel the same way for you after you told him that you like him.
1. Don’t take it personally
We’ve mentioned it before, but I’ll say it again – your worth isn’t measured according to his words, so don’t take a no personally.
If a guy tells you he doesn’t like you back, it’s okay. Just be aware that it has nothing to do with your face, hair, or the way you’re talking about books.
2. Don’t make him feel sorry for turning you down
You don’t want him to go out with you out of pity, right? You want him to notice you for who you are and be with you because he likes you that way.
So, don’t make him feel sorry for turning you down, it wouldn’t be fair. Just because you’re at different stages in your life, it doesn’t mean you should cause him an inconvenience.
3. Don’t withdraw your words
What are you going to do now? You’ve prepared yourself mentally to tell him you like him and you got a cold shower right after you expressed your feelings?
If this happened, don’t try to explain yourself or tell him something like “That was a joke.” Just don’t.
4. Thank him
Yes, you’ve read it correctly. If a guy turns you down, thank him and move on. It’s as easy as that.
He’ll appreciate that, and you’ll show him how confident and a mature girl he just lost. A win, am I right?
5. Move on
Accept his answer and his decision and just move on. Take some time if you need it, to get back in the right track, but don’t beat yourself up because of what happened.
I believe it’s not the first, nor the last time you’ll get a no for an answer, so chin up!