Disagreements happen and they are a normal part of every relationship.
From time to time, you and your partner will find yourself in a situation where you will not agree with each other and when that happens, your goal is to find a solution and work on resolving the disagreement.
Just because you two are together, it doesn’t mean that your opinions will always match.
You are still independent individuals who can have their own attitudes and beliefs.
Running into a disagreement and successfully resolving it is an essential step that every couple has to take.
Keep in mind that disagreements are only results of different opinions, and that they are not signs of a lack of love.
The way you two handle the situation is a great way of showing that your relationship is (un)healthy.
When you find yourself in a similar situation, there are a number of things you can do.
Firstly, try to stay calm. The fact that someone’s opinion differs from yours may make you feel angry or misunderstood.
Keep in mind that being angry while trying to resolve a disagreement will never work out and instead, try to forget about it for a minute.
Also, never raise your voice as this is a desperate way to get attention and it is disrespectful toward your partner.
Fighting over something is not an excuse to treat your partner any differently than usual.
Disagreements are a normal part of a relationship and they don’t change the fact that you and your partner are in love.
Don’t forget that life will be full of troubles and issues that you will need to solve. Staying calm in situations like that can only help you.
Take a deep breath, think clearly, and try to stay focused.
This can seem hard or even impossible, but it is better to take a break and calm yourself down than to create an even bigger disagreement out of nothing.
Secondly, remember that they are not against you just because your opinions are different.
When we run into a disagreement with someone, we tend to take things personally and we start thinking that our partner doesn’t love us just because our points of view are not the same.
This is the wrong approach.
Every person has a different opinion about something, and it doesn’t mean that they will immediately hate you just because you are not on the same page.
It only means that all of us are individuals capable of critical thinking and forming our own opinions.
It’s the same when we speak about our partner. Just because we are in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that we always have to agree.
Always agreeing with your significant other and trying to conform to their ideas would be a sign of an unhealthy relationship and it would bring you more harm than good.
Remember that everyone has a fundamental right to express their opinion. Love or hate doesn’t have anything to do with it. It’s just the way things work.
Thirdly, communicate openly about the issue. Communication is crucial, especially when trying to resolve a disagreement.
If you stay calm, chances are you’ll avoid a heated conversation.
After that, the two of you can have a healthy conversation, which could be a solution to the problem.
Don’t try to express your opinions aggressively but instead, be open-minded. Listen to your partner and try to understand what they are saying.
Hear the words and think about them. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
Even in regular conversations, we tend to ignore what the other person is saying.
We ignore the words that are coming out of their mouth and anxiously wait for them to finish.
Instead, try to put yourself in that position. It is not a pleasant sensation when you are trying to express your feelings and thoughts while being ignored. Keep that in mind, and focus on everything that is being said.
Another important aspect when resolving a disagreement is to never bring other issues into the argument; instead, focus only on the current issue.
By bringing the past to the present, you make your partner feel attacked, which raises anger and lowers the possibility of finding an adequate solution.
Finally, find a compromise or agree to disagree and accept the other’s opinion.
All of us want others to agree with our ideas and opinions but it is not the way human relationships function.
Two different people will always be able to find something they don’t agree upon. But this is completely OK!
The best option for solving disagreements is to find a compromise.
You may seem like you are losing the argument because your ideas are not accepted by your partner.
However, keep in mind that through compromise, both of you are getting something.
This means that you appreciate your partner enough to know that their state of mind is more important to you than your selfish need to always be right.
Maybe the outcome of your disagreement will be different from what you expected, but in the end, both of you will walk out of it happy and content.
That is all that matters!
When both of you are satisfied, your relationship will become a happier place.
Serious decisions that are life-changing and that can redirect both your and your partner’s life should always be agreed upon.
For instance, you get a job which requires you to move five hours away from the place you two are currently living.
This is a huge decision and you can’t make it on your own, as it changes your partner’s life too.
If your significant other is not comfortable moving, try to understand where they are coming from.
Stay calm, get to the root of the problem, and finally try to think about a compromise that will work for both of you.
This way, you’ll feel content and happy as both of you have the right to express your feelings, which results in an adequate solution.
Life is too short to spend it living in a closed-off bubble, thinking that everyone else should agree with you.
No one is obliged to do that, not even your partner.
Pay attention, and be the kind of person who will get through a disagreement calmly, without making too much fuss about it.
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