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How to make him realize he needs you after he has completely forgotten the ways you fulfill his life?
A relationship gets to a certain point where you realize that your partner has forgotten how important you are in his life.
So what happens then? He starts becoming distant and takes you for granted.
Feeling like your partner is staying by your side out of convenience more than love is a painful realization.
It’s normal that you don’t want your partner to wake up one day and realize that he doesn’t need you in his life anymore.
We simply forget to fight for each other and we get too comfortable with our partner, thinking that there is nothing we can do to lose them.
Of course, everyone wants to feel appreciated and loved next to their partner. We want to feel like we’re a necessary part of their life.
So what will happen when you feel the pain of loneliness while you’re sitting right next to him?
How to make him realize he needs you?
I’d be lying if I said that there isn’t a way to make him realize he needs you.
There is a little list of things that can help you out when you want to achieve this goal.
We are presenting you with a bulletproof guide and we’re sharing our secret tips and tricks for when you feel like your partner doesn’t appreciate you any longer.
If you want to make him realize that he needs you, you will have to put a lot of effort into it.
Men are usually very hard to understand and you won’t have the easiest task when it comes to making him see your worth.
Men simply don’t look at people in their lives the way we look at them.
He might not even realize that he’s hurting you or that you don’t feel loved in the relationship.
It might take you some time, but the moral of the story is to not give up until he finally realizes your worth.
1. Show him he can trust you
Of course, it’s not as easy as just telling him to trust you. He has to see it for himself.
What is the first thing you do when you want someone to trust you more? Well, you share things about yourself.
When you throw just a crumb of valuable information into a conversation, he will start to open up to you more.
You can’t expect him to trust you and want to talk to you unless you talk to him about your life first.
You can share whatever it is that you’re comfortable with to make him realize he needs you.
He needs to have someone reliable to talk to, someone who won’t take his vulnerability and turn it against him.
That’s what everyone is looking for and your man is the same.
If he does open up to you more and becomes vulnerable in front of you, don’t just take it for granted.
You have to keep his secrets and show him that you’re a trustworthy person.
2. Be his best friend
You are so much more than just a body to keep him warm at night. You are a wonderful, intelligent human being who can bring so much more to the table.
If you want to make him realize he needs you, make sure to be his best friend first.
Be the friend he turns to whenever he feels down or whenever he has a joke to share.
Of course, you’re his girlfriend or wife, so you are more than a dude he’s friends with.
However, being someone’s friend means that you enjoy spending your time together and that you two can have fun with each other.
It’s not just about the physical aspects of your relationship, but rather the intimacy you share outside of that.
Instead of just being physically intimate all the time, tell him the stories about your life you feel most comfortable with.
Tell him about your problems and ask for his advice. Ask him questions about how his day went and give him space to share his own stories.
You can also plan dates that are more than just romantic dinners. Go out together to a bowling alley and see how his behavior shifts for the better.
3. Be independent
Show him that you don’t need him. Make him realize that he is the one who needs you.
Your independence is your most valued attribute, because you are more than able to take care of yourself.
Men aren’t taught to always take care of themselves, so he will always look to you for guidance when it comes to basic tasks.
Because of that, show him that you don’t need him in your life, but rather that you want him there.
He will see you as a safe haven. He will know that you are not a burden and appreciate you even more for that.
I know that you will have moments when you will need him to be there for you and that is completely fine.
You will have times of weakness where you will be the one who needs someone to help you get back on your feet.
That is completely normal, but that doesn’t mean that you are any less independent.
4. Show him how confident you are
Aren’t we all subconsciously always looking for a confident partner? A partner who knows what they want in their life?
That is what you should portray with every move you make.
Confidence isn’t something that comes naturally to us, but you might as well fake it till you make it.
Get that dress out of your closet, the dress that makes you feel like the queen you are, and rock it.
You feel like it’s too much and he might not approve of you wearing it? Well, that is his problem, not yours.
You should be more than able to remind him that you are your own woman who looks absolutely stunning!
If he doesn’t doubt your loyalty, he will only be focused on how lucky he is to have such an amazing woman next to him.
Did you get that promotion at work? Let him be the first one you share the news with.
Show him your confidence because you have worked hard to be where you’re at right now.
He will be inspired by your confidence and he will be proud to have you by his side. It’ll make him realize that he needs you.
5. Pay more attention to your appearance
Continuing with the last tip we had for you, your appearance speaks volumes!
If you don’t care how you look around him, he might take it as a sign that you don’t care about what he thinks of you either.
Pay more attention to your appearance and he will notice your efforts.
Of course, the way you look is not everything.
There are so many different things that go into this relationship, but it is obvious when you want to impress your partner.
As it should be, of course, if you want to make him realize that he needs you.
Why? Well, no one else will put that much effort into everything the way you do.
You’re the only one who takes these things into consideration and he will appreciate you even more for your efforts.
6. Don’t always be available to him
I’m not telling you to avoid him and not answer his calls, but what I am telling you is to keep him on his toes.
Don’t just jump at every opportunity to spend time with him.
I know that you want to be near the man you love as often as possible, but it’ll just make you look desperate in his eyes.
Especially if you’re still in the dating stage, don’t let him believe that you will always be available whenever he calls.
By being a little bit mysterious and unavailable, he will want to pursue you even more.
You will make him realize that he needs you because you will always have plans that don’t include him.
It’ll show him that you have a life besides him and it’ll make him want to become a bigger part of your life in general.
7. Show appreciation for the things he does
What makes a man feel better than when someone acknowledges his hard work and efforts?
He needs to know that someone sees how hard he works on bettering himself and he needs the assurance you’ll be able to provide.
Show how much you appreciate him with compliments and/or gifts. Tell him how proud of him and his efforts you are.
Don’t just take him for granted. He’ll start thinking that you don’t notice his hard work and he will become more closed off from you. You don’t want that.
You will make him realize that he needs you, because no one is able to appreciate him the way you do.
8. Learn to say no
If you do anything and everything for him, he will start taking you for granted and that won’t make him realize that he needs you.
It’ll do the opposite because he won’t even be aware of how much you do for him, as it has become something so normal.
Learn to say no, as it’ll teach him a valuable lesson. It’ll teach him that he can’t just expect things from you without giving anything in return.
Once he starts to see all the things you’ve been doing for him, he will know that he needs you in his life.
Don’t just take care of him, the house, and the kids all by yourself. He won’t be able to see your efforts unless you stop doing things for him in general.
He has to put effort into this relationship as well.
When he sees that he really can’t do things without your help, he will know how important your involvement in his life is.
9. Give him space
If I’m being honest, no one needs as much space as men claim they need.
They just want to have space so they can go ahead and do childish things without you judging them.
However, you get to spend time by yourself too if you give him his space.
You will show him that you’re not clingy and that you don’t need him to be around you all the time.
Because of that, you will make him realize how much he needs you. No one else would give him that much time to spend by himself or with his friends.
He will see this as you understanding and supporting his needs. Why would he want anyone else besides you?
10. Initiate physical intimacy
Before I even start with this one, I need to tell you that physical intimacy is not nearly as important as the rest of the things on this list.
However, it is a crucial part of most relationships.
Of course, men get sick and tired of always being the one to initiate physical intimacy. So play your little games of hot and cold when it comes to this topic.
Instead of doing the deed like you always have, try to find ways to make it more interesting.
He will constantly want more from you, but he won’t get anything until you initiate it.
This is when you’ll make him realize that he needs you. He only needs you.
11. Stop making excuses for him
You’re doing so much for this relationship and he should be aware of that.
Don’t make excuses for his behavior, no matter how much you want to.
Love blinds us and it makes us excuse behaviors that we would never let slide in other scenarios.
He’s the one who needs to adjust some of his bad traits and work on them if he wants to keep you around.
You will make him realize that he needs you when he sees how much you have impacted him positively.
If you’re upset about something he did, confront him about it. Make him see that he won’t be able to push you around.
You do not deserve a man to treat you like he doesn’t care, simply because you made excuses for his behavior more than once in the past.
12. Make plans without him
You are not obligated to include him in every plan you make in your life. Your friends want to spend a weekend away with you at the beach?
Pack your bags and get your swimsuit ready because you are going!
Your friends want to go out to a club and dance the night away? Get your heels out and have a fun night!
Just because you’re doing things without him, it doesn’t mean that you’re cheating on him, not at all! It also doesn’t mean that you’re avoiding him! No.
It means that you have your own life and your own friends who you have to tend to.
When you’re waiting for him to go out with you, you probably have to compromise on the time and place.
He’s constantly out with his friends, isn’t he? So what’s keeping you from doing the same?
You will make him realize that he needs you because he will see how much you love your life and that he can’t control you.
13. Make his friends love you
How is a man going to ignore you or not appreciate you when his friends are always talking about you?
He is going to want you around constantly because his friends always mention you or mention you a lot.
When his friends start talking positively about you, he will listen to their opinions of you.
You will make him realize that he needs you because you’re the one everyone wants around.
You should be fun and you should know how to take a joke. Give them all the juicy stories from your past.
On the other hand, be a friend when they need one. Give them advice when they ask for it and an ear to listen.
This will make his friends love and respect you as well, so they will always put in a good word for you.
14. Have friends outside of the relationship too
When you don’t put all your attention on a man, he will do whatever it takes to get that attention himself.
You will be busy with your friends and he won’t be able to always call you to be by his side whenever he needs you.
Because of that, he will just want you more.
Even if you’re in the same group setting, don’t just turn all your attention to him.
He will talk to the people around him while you follow him like a lost little puppy. You don’t want that.
Show him that you can have just as much fun without him. Talk to other people and engage in different conversations.
15. Post your fun life on social media
Unless you’re someone who’s trying to use social media minimally, this is a great way to make him realize he needs you.
When we post on social media, we post the highlights of our life. Your posts will be filled with fun times you have experienced with or without him.
Everyone who follows you on social media, including him, will see how much fun you’re having and how exciting your life is.
You might think that it’s trivial, but social media has become a huge and crucial part of our daily life.
16. Don’t dumb yourself down for him
Even if men do need the validation and superiority that comes with being who they think may be the more intelligent person in the relationship, do not dumb yourself down for a man. Ever.
You will make him realize that he needs you when you’re the one who inspires him to learn more and work on himself more.
Not every man is prepared to be in a relationship with a woman who’s smarter than him.
Because of that, you will know if you need him in your life. It’s really time to consider this side of the story too.
Is he someone you need to feel needed if he makes you dumb yourself down for him?
He will see this as a challenge and he will work with you on intellectually stimulating each other.
17. Become your own priority
He got so used to you taking care of him and doing everything he asks of you that he would lose his mind if he had to do something himself.
Once you make yourself your biggest priority, he’ll realize how important you actually are to him.
It’ll be obvious that the vast majority of things in the household are done by you.
What you have to realize is that there is no bigger priority to you than yourself.
How much does he contribute to your life? How much does he do for you?
When you stop respecting his wishes, he’ll understand how much you did before.
Neglecting themselves is something a huge number of women do when they fall in love and turn their entire attention to the man in their life.
Let’s stop doing that. You’ll make him realize that he needs you if he’s truly the one.
18. Just be yourself
None of these tips and tricks that you can see in this article take away from the person who you truly are.
You are worthy of loving yourself. You are worthy of being needed and wanted.
However, you can feel appreciated if you’re in the right relationship, with the right person.
No one has to change who they are just to appeal to a man who can’t see your true worth.
You are a strong and beautiful woman, who has her life together. You know what you want and you’re going after it.
If he’s truly the one, a man doesn’t have to be chased! Ever!
