The man of my dreams came along when I least expected it. I’d been in a really bad place before that, so I wasn’t used to great things happening at the time.
We all find ourselves in a dark place, at least once in our lives. It’s alright, although it can take you a few steps back. Just when you think you escaped the horrors of reality, something grabs you and throws you back in.
The most important thing is to not give up, no matter the consequences. It doesn’t matter what others tell you, it’s your life.
Once you grasp the fact that you’re the one setting up the rules and boundaries, only then will you find peace and happiness.
Being content is something most of us take for granted. It’s only when our world comes crashing down that the realization hits us.
In these moments, we realize how we didn’t appreciate all that we had before. However, we’re all humans and we’re allowed to make mistakes.
It’s way harder to deal with your struggles when you’re all alone, though. It would be a lot easier if you had someone to be your shoulder to cry on in times of need.
We all need someone to open our hearts to. I eventually gained that luck, but not before I went through my own struggles.
This is the story of how falling in love with my life helped me find the man of my dreams.
Some parts of it may not be that inspiring, but they’re real. Not everything in life is rainbow and sunshine and that’s okay.
It is through hardships that we earn some of our remarkable traits and qualities as human beings. And it’s the tough times that you find out who stood by your side all along.
Something had to change…
As humans, it’s normal to have certain boundaries set up and expectations to meet. But what happens when we get ahead of ourselves or, even worse, start comparing our life with others?
You’re bound to be unhappy and always dissatisfied with how things turn out for you. From personal experience, this can ruin your self-esteem and deteriorate your view of your life.
I was never content with how I did things, how I thought, or what I was. There was always someone better, stronger, prettier.
I had to learn that it’s okay. Everyone is different and beautiful in their own way, from physical features to mindsets.
The important thing to know is that you’re allowed to be different. Only dead fish go with the flow, right?
Don’t put yourself down just because someone disagrees with you or tries to control you.
I fell in love with my life the moment I recognized true values and beliefs. I fell in love after I accepted that that’s how it’s supposed to be.
How did I fall in love with my life?
So many people think about how they can use various tools to help them get the partner of their dreams. Women and men will try dating apps, blind dates, clubbing all night, or targeting certain places.
People tell you how your soulmate is right around the corner but you never get to them. It’s like playing an endless game of cat and mouse. Over time, you stop believing them and you begin to lose faith.
Hope is a natural thing for every human, but what if that fire distinguishes? How will you find the strength to start all over and eventually succeed? Is it even possible?
What I did first and foremost was I decided to stop listening to other people. It’s not that they weren’t helping me, no.
The thing is, change starts from within. If you think positively, positive things will happen to you. And it’s true.
Now, don’t get me wrong. You probably won’t make your dreams come true the minute you wish for something under a shooting star. After all, life isn’t a movie or book.
I came to realize that my life and happiness depend on me, entirely. Therefore, if I wanted something, I had to work for it. I wished to find the man of my dreams, but first I had to find myself.
I learned to trust myself more which made me capable of making some decisions I was dreading before. It helped me raise my self-confidence.
Is there a more captivating thing to a man than seeing a self-reliant woman?
I first had to learn to love myself in order for others to love me too. Life is a blank canvas and it’s your choice which colors you decide to paint with.
What helped me find the man of my dreams?
No, it wasn’t a dating app or a mutual friend. It was completely my newfound ability to trust and love myself.
If you want to win the race, you first have to participate. It’s simple as that.
It’s not only the goal that is important, as many of us think, the journey counts as well. Life is a journey and if you don’t learn to love it, you won’t be able to accept and love the goal, no matter what it is.
Falling in love with my life is still an ongoing process because I find out something new every day. It’s even better because now I get to share it with someone else.
The man of my dreams came along with all the positive changes in my mindset and life choices. Falling in love with my life helped me find him because I learned to appreciate myself and I discovered my self-worth.
It allowed me to come out of my shell and be who I am. This opened up a whole new world for me that I never got to encounter before.
It’s not easy changing your perspective of the world and yourself. But once you do, you’ll be thankful for it.
So, in a nutshell, here’s how you can do that:
- Give yourself some credit
- Stop thinking about what others have to say
- Believe in yourself
- Don’t try to rush things
- Cut yourself some slack