You should learn to love yourself first before you love anyone else, right?
Well, some people have a hard time loving themselves and as a consequence, they treat other people poorly.
But why does that happen?
Is it because a person who doesn’t love himself has a hard time accepting other people’s compliments? Or does he simply not believe them?
I know you thought your boyfriend was perfect at the beginning.
He did everything a gentleman should do in a relationship.
He opened doors for you, called you to say he misses you, and was honest about his emotions.
Your guy made an effort to make your relationship beautiful. He gave you his utmost attention.
Then as soon as you thought you were living the perfect dream, something changed about him.
He started behaving differently.
You racked your brain wondering if it was you who should take the blame, but you felt that wasn’t the right thing to do.
And trust me, you had nothing to do with his change of behavior.
You are still a perfect girlfriend that knows how to love a man. It’s just he doesn’t love himself anymore.
Him treating you poorly is just a reflection of his lack of self-love. Don’t take it to heart.
The way a man treats his partner depends on his emotional maturity.
If your man has learned to love himself, he’ll transfer that love onto you.
A confident man knows that if his emotions about his lady change, he immediately speaks about them with her.
He doesn’t make any excuses to hide the truth from his partner.
Honesty plays a big part in a relationship, and if he doesn’t know that, then he doesn’t love himself.
He treats you poorly because he doesn’t know how to communicate properly.
Yes, he listens to you when you talk to him, but he always assumes the worst.
I know it’s frustrating because he tries to project his own flaws onto you.
The difference is, you learned to embrace your flaws. Don’t blame yourself for something that you didn’t do.
Even if he complains about your words, saying they’re lies and they’re mean, don’t blame yourself – you’re just being honest.
His lack of self-love is just a reflection of his past, not you.
His low self-image was almost certainly a product of some bad experience he had with another person.
That’s why you shouldn’t blame yourself if he treats you poorly.
Keep in mind you’re being the perfect girlfriend to him. You’re trying to make his life better and not worse.
But his lack of self-love might come from a severe wound that he experienced in his previous relationship.
Instead of talking to you and working on those issues, he treats you poorly.
Never blame yourself for his lack of courage to tackle the problems at hand.
While you’re hoping he’ll change and giving him countless possibilities to prove himself, trust me he won’t.
Men like him don’t change.
It will only get worse as time passes.
But don’t take the blame for his behavior.
You were simply blinded by the love you felt at the beginning of your relationship.
You couldn’t have predicted that something like this would happen to you.
He was so warm and sweet at the beginning, that it’s difficult to understand how a person can change in such a short time.
Despite everything, you believe that he’s a good man.
You sit alone in your empty room and replay all those beautiful moments you had with him. You hold on to them as they will never happen again.
Don’t do that!
Don’t blame yourself just because he taught you to do so.
He was always manipulative and trying to play the role of the victim, even though he had no right to do that.
The sad part is you started to believe his words. Those broken promises meant something to you.
It’s no wonder he used that against you to lower your self-esteem. That’s what a man does if he lacks self-love.
He wanted to feel like the “alpha,” so he needed to make you emotionally weak.
Never trust him when he says he loves you. How could he possibly love you when he doesn’t love himself?
He treated you poorly countless times, so why would you believe him when he says he loves you?
Why would you fall into his arms once again when you know he can’t love and accept himself?
Trust your gut.
Do you feel like you should give him another chance?
To give him another opportunity to break you down once again and then leave you because he can’t stand the guy he sees in the mirror?
You have to trust yourself and think what’s best for you.
Stay truthful to yourself and walk away from him to make space for the person who’ll know how to treat a lady.
As you know, men express their emotions through actions.
If his actions failed, why should you stick around? He clearly doesn’t love you if he’s treating you poorly.
Don’t just believe in his words, especially since they’ve hurt you so badly many times.
Take time to heal from the one who wasn’t meant for you and make yourself available for a man who already loves himself.
Such a man will fulfill your every need and desire. He’ll treat you right.
He won’t break you down so he can feel superior to you. He won’t make your life a living hell – quite the opposite.
A man who loves himself knows how to support his woman.
It’ll feel like a breath of fresh air, and you won’t hesitate to tackle life’s challenges head-on.
You’ll finally feel like you have a partner in crime.
A guy who loves himself will never make you feel lonely.
So, never settle for a partner who treats you like you’re unworthy of love. You’re just allowing yourself to be tortured by a man who lacks self-love.
He doesn’t know what true love means because he doesn’t know how to love himself.
And that’s why you should accept the truth and walk away from him.