What are you doing? You’re there, wasting precious moments of your life waiting for someone who might never make up his mind.
I used to believe that patience was always rewarded with something beautiful.
If I was just patient enough, he’d realize that I was the one for him.
If I just waited a little while longer, he’d realize that no one would ever love him like I did.
Imagine spending your life waiting for someone to make up his mind.
Instead of that, why don’t we believe that if they don’t make us their first choice, we shouldn’t wait for them at all?
“If you really loved me, you’d wait for me.”
This is straight-up emotional manipulation. You’re raised to believe that in order to show someone your love, you need to be patient with them.
You need to know that people can’t give you their love until they’re ready, and if he’s making you wait, what exactly are you waiting for?
Are you waiting for a romantic confession of love, where he’ll ask for your hand under the moonlight?
Or are you waiting for him to show up under your window and declare his undying love for you?
At what point did we say that it was OK for us to let someone treat us like we’re not important?
If you’re confused by this question, just look around yourself.
You’re waiting for that declaration of love, avoiding anything that might make him believe you don’t want him anymore, just so he can do whatever he wants.
Just because you love him doesn’t mean that he obviously feels the same way in return.
A man who wants to be with you doesn’t just make you wait for him for ages or treat you like you’re not important.
With this, you’re just telling him that you’ll wait for him, so he can do whatever he pleases.
Why don’t you respect yourself enough to move on once you see that someone just doesn’t care about you enough?
You’re choosing to ignore the obvious truth. If someone really wanted to be a part of your life, they would never leave you wondering.
If you want to show your loyalty and love for someone, you don’t do so by waiting for them forever.
Otherwise, you’re just showing that however badly they treat you, you’ll still wait on the sidelines.
By waiting for him to make up his mind, you’re just letting him see you as another option on his list and that he’s welcome to hit you up when he decides to.
Be honest with yourself and say how many good guys you’ve rejected.
How many men who actually wanted to be yours have you turned down, simply because you were hoping he would come back?
You’re losing opportunities for happiness, one after the other, simply because you believe that one day, you’ll mean something to him.
I’m sorry to be so blunt, but that man does not care about you one bit. It doesn’t matter what he says.
He will come to you, begging you to take him back, time and time again. You’ll take him back, you’ll think that it’s different, but it’ll always be the same.
“I just need some time to figure things out.”
“I’m just not ready for something serious right now.”
How many of his lies will you believe before you’ve had enough? How many more times will you watch him walk away?
You’re setting yourself aside for a man who obviously doesn’t see your worth. On top of that, you don’t value yourself either, because if you did, you wouldn’t wait for this man to make up his mind.
He’s somewhere out there, keeping someone else’s bed warm.
He’s kissing and hugging another woman and telling her the same story he has told you a hundred times.
That man will not realize how precious and deserving of love you actually are, because you don’t believe it yourself.
Are you actually all right with a man going out of his way to touch another woman every single night, just for you to make excuses for him?
I don’t believe that you understand that he isn’t abstaining from other relationships, just because you’re waiting for him.
No, dear, he’s out there living his life to the fullest.
If you’re going to wait, at least wait for the right man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Wait for a man who won’t be able to stay away from you.
Wait for a man who will only have eyes for you and who will be so scared of losing you that he will never leave your side.
A man like this won’t just walk away whenever it’s convenient for him to do so.
He won’t pretend like you’re nothing more than a girl he’ll settle for after he’s looked through every other option there is.
You will be his only option.
Waiting for a man who obviously doesn’t care about you enough to spend all of his time and energy on you isn’t worthy of you.
You can’t just sit around and wait for someone who couldn’t care less.
However, a man who will love you unconditionally and a man who will see your worth will do everything to show you his admiration for you.
Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t pretend like this is normal, because it isn’t.
You should be rewarded for your patience, but that’s not always going to happen. I’m sorry to be harsh, but you truly do deserve someone so much better.
So wait for a man who will treat you like you’re his entire world instead of a man who pretends like you don’t even exist.
You shouldn’t give someone permission to treat you like that, especially not when there is another man who won’t be able to keep his eyes off you.