It’s not your fault. You have nothing to the with the fact that both you and your relationship are in a bad place right now.
He’s the one who’s responsible for the pain you’re feeling. He’s the one to blame since he’s trying to tear you down completely.
I don’t know if you can tell but he’s gaslighting you. He’s trying to take control over you so he acts like you’re the one who made a mistake.
He pretends that you got yourself into this mess when he very well knows how awful he treats you. He’s aware of it but he simply doesn’t want you to know the truth.
I know how you feel right now as every time you try to talk to him, he always does the same thing. He puts the blame on you, even though you’re certain that none of the things happening is your fault.
But he’s persistent. He doesn’t want to give up on his idea that he’s the one who’s in power and you’re only a sad, naive victim.
“We already talked about this. I guess you don’t remember since you never listen to what I have to say. You always act clueless and then when there’s an issue, you try to make me responsible for it when it’s you who actually caused it!”
Do these words sound familiar to you? Does it sound like something he keeps telling you over and over again?
More often than not, you end up overthinking past events, trying to figure out whether some things were really your fault. You keep replaying scenarios in your head because you can’t remember doing any of the things he accuses you of.
Honestly, you probably feel like you’re going crazy. You feel like you’re losing your mind since none of these things make sense anymore.
Your reality obviously doesn’t match his and you have no idea how that can be. You have no clue what’s going on.
The truth is that he’s gaslighting you. He’s playing with your mind until you lose every sense of what’s right and what’s wrong.
He keeps hurting you and then blames you for it. And even if you keep trying to explain to him that he’s the one who caused you pain, it all ends up being in vain.
“I always need to repeat myself as you obviously can’t remember anything. You’re too emotional and I’m tired of going through the same arguments all the time.”
But as he says these words to you, he’s laughing internally. He knows very well that he’s just broken you down a bit more. He’s played with your mind once again and successfully caused you to doubt your own actions.
Trust me, he’s doing it on purpose because he wants to hurt you to the point where you won’t be able to trust yourself. He wants to see you suffer because only then will you fully rely on him. Only then will he have complete control over you.
He’s a manipulator and even though you know that something’s off, you’ll have a hard time walking away from him. He lured you in hard, with the intention of keeping you around only for as long as he wants. While you’re with him, he’ll keep gaslighting you because he wants to completely break you down.
“Do you even hear yourself? You’re upset with me even though I was only kidding. Grow up and stop crying about every little thing in life.”
These are some of the things he’ll tell you once you let him know that his behavior upset you. He’ll keep playing the card of innocence, acting like he’s done nothing wrong.
That’s why you’ll always be the one to blame. You’ll always be the cause of arguments even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
He’s manipulating you. He’s giving his best to ruin your self-confidence and cloud your judgment. Only once he succeeds at that will he feel like a winner.
So, if you’re going through this right now, this is your warning. This is your cue to pack your things and leave.
It won’t be easy, especially if he finds out that you’re breaking up with him. He’ll do whatever he can to keep you around for as long as he can. He’ll put on a mask of a nice guy and he’ll try to seduce you with his lies one more time.
But you must be stronger than that. Don’t believe in anything he says, since he’s only trying to make you play by his rules.
Open your eyes and look closely at what he’s doing to you. He gaslights you and then pretends like you’re the one who hurt him.
He’s playing games with your mind because he’s sure you’re not going to make it. He’s sure that you can’t win.
But this is your chance to show him how strong you are. This is your chance to save yourself from the pain he inflicts on you.
You deserve so much more than to be stuck with a guy who doesn’t even care about you. In his head, he’s the only person who matters. His life, his beliefs, his values – that’s all he cares about.
It’s obvious that he’ll keep tearing you down until you no longer know who you actually are. He’ll torture you emotionally until he’s the one who’s pulling all of the strings.
So, please save yourself from a man such as him. Reconsider your options and find a way out of this toxic relationship.
The guy you fell in love with isn’t real. He only pretended to be the exact man you were looking for. He was wearing a mask until he secured his place in your heart.
The version you see right now is who he actually is. This is the reality you’re going to be stuck in if you don’t look for a way out.
Maybe it won’t be easy but it doesn’t mean it’ll be impossible. You can do it! You can save yourself from him!
But first, make it clear to yourself that you’re a victim of gaslighting and that none of the things happening to you is your fault. He hurts you and then blames you for it, since that’s the only thing he knows how to do. It’s what he does best.