Is there a possibility of getting back together? Does he still love me?
Are you asking yourself these questions?
Whether it’s your current boyfriend, husband, or ex, there will be signs this person loves you if he still does.
However, that isn’t the only thing you should be considering.
When I wondered whether my boyfriend still loved me after we broke up, before answering the question of whether he still had feelings for me, I had a more important question to answer.
Did I really want to get back together with him, even if the answer to the question of whether he still loved me was yes?
Even if there are signs he still loves you, you should be asking yourself the same.
When I wondered whether he still loved me, the signs showed me that he did, but was it really enough?
Instead of asking myself whether my boyfriend still loved me, I needed to figure out whether I really still loved him, and if it was possible to fix all the problems we had.
Also, the signs that he still loves you don’t mean that the reason for your break-up has disappeared.
When I wanted to know whether he still had feelings for me, it was all I could think about.
However, it’s important to remember that you need more than that to actually have a successful relationship.
Maybe you don’t really love him and only want him back because of your bruised ego.
It could also be true that he still loves you, but isn’t willing to put in the effort needed to make the relationship work.
What I’m trying to say is that you shouldn’t just be wondering, “Does he still love me?” and think that it will solve all of your problems if he does.
The signs that he still loves you will give you some comfort, but your love can only work if you’re both willing to work on your relationship and fix the problems that made you wonder, “Does he still love me?” in the first place.
The signs that he still loves you need to be considered when you’re wondering if your ex still has feelings for you, but you can consider them even if you haven’t broken up.
Here are the signs your boyfriend loves you despite everything that happened, which will help you figure out whether the two of you still have a chance:
1. He’s genuinely glad to see you
What happens when exes run into each other? Most of the time, they aren’t so glad to see each other, or at least their faces don’t really light up.
However, if a man loves you, he’ll be really happy when he gets to see you, even if you have broken up.
When he is even ready to flirt with you, you can be sure that he’s open to giving your relationship another chance.
This doesn’t apply to the no contact period, when everything is still fresh, because you shouldn’t try to run into each other then.
Both of you will be emotional, and things won’t be clear yet.
You’ll probably even find signs he still loves even if he doesn’t, because you’ll see what you want to see.
Wait for after the no contact period to see him, and you’ll be able to think clearly and interpret the way he acts.
If he’s genuinely glad to see you when you run into each other, it’s very likely that he still has feelings for you.
2. He has an intense response to you
Do you know what the opposite of love is? It is indifference, not hate.
When he runs into you, does it feel like he acts the same as he would if he ran into anyone else?
If he acts like he has run into the postman, and doesn’t even care about finally seeing you, it’s a sign of indifference, which means he doesn’t love you anymore.
How strong are his emotional reactions regarding you? If he has an intense response to you, it could be because he still has strong feelings for you.
Those strong feelings can be shown in many ways.
Maybe he seems really angry, but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you anymore; he could be angry because he has heard you’re seeing someone else.
If he is extremely sad, he probably misses you a lot.
All in all, when it comes to you, he won’t be able to be cool if he still has feelings for you.
You won’t feel like you’re just an old acquaintance to him when he runs into you.
3. He does things to make you notice him
Have you looked at his social media profiles lately?
If a man loves you, he’ll want to get your attention and make you notice him.
He could be posting things on social media that he knows will get your attention, such as pictures with other women or simply pictures from parties with his friends.
All these pictures are attempts to make you notice him and get you to reach out.
He could also be posting some sad songs or quotes to show you how much pain he’s in without you.
If he used to share everything with you, all he wants is to keep doing that, even if it has to be done indirectly.
Those pictures and songs are actually secret messages for you.
He doesn’t care whether it will cause a negative or a positive reaction as long as he gets your attention and makes you notice him… so that he can feel connected with you once again.
4. He remembers you fondly
Is he focused on the positive when it comes to your relationship and does he tend to bring up the happy memories and the good times you had?
He could post a photo of you that you know he always cared about, or send you a reminder about the happy memories you have.
When you run into each other, he could ask about your family or refer to some inside joke that used to make both of you laugh.
All this shows that he hasn’t gotten over you.
5. His friends let you know that he’s depressed
Is your ex miserable without you? If he is, chances are that his friends will let you know about it.
His friends are concerned about him, and they know that you’re the only person in the world who could get him to be his old self.
They want the two of you to get back together because they know how happy he was with you… and they see how depressed he is without you.
Of course, the only thing that matters is what the two of you think, but friends can give you objective and intuitive opinions and they can even help you realize if he still loves you.
Even if his friends don’t let you know that he’s depressed, maybe you’ll notice it in the things he posts on social media, or you’ll see it when you see him.
6. He tries to run into you
Wherever you are, he somehow happens to be there. He used to go to the gym in the morning, but now you see him there at night when you go there to work out.
There are some events he knows you’d go to, and he makes sure he goes as well, while he would avoid them if he didn’t want to see you.
The store you shop in is far away from his place, but now he shops there all the time.
He’s hoping he’ll run into you because he wants to get back together, and that is why you see him in places he never used to go.
7. He is in a rebound relationship
Rebounding is all about numbing the pain and helping us not think so much about the person we love and aren’t with anymore.
Maybe he is dating a few girls at the same time, or he got into a new relationship right after the two of you broke up.
Either way, this just shows he’s unsuccessfully trying to get over you and even make you jealous.
He probably still loves you, but you shouldn’t stop him from rebounding, because he has to go through this on his own.
Maybe it will get him to realize what he has lost, or it will make you so angry that you won’t want to get back together again.
Whatever happens, this behavior shows he still loves you, and your love still has a chance if you want to try to patch things up.
8. He hasn’t yet started to date again
If a man loves you, he might avoid getting out there and starting to date again.
There are a lot of reasons why he hasn’t started to date yet, even if it has been a while since the two of you went your separate ways.
Perhaps he thinks no one could compare to you, or he’s just so hurt and sad that he can’t even imagine it.
He could also be worried that he won’t get the chance to get back together with you if he starts dating again.
Whatever the reason is, if you’ve been broken up for a while now and he still isn’t seeing anyone new, it’s very likely because he still loves you.
9. He breaks the no contact rule
You’ve asked this man not to contact you, but he does so anyway.
Now, this could simply be a sign of disrespect, but it could also be just about making a dramatic effort to win you back… or he simply can’t help it because he has to contact you.
Men believe that they have to push the boundaries because romantic comedies taught them that it’s how you win a girl back, so maybe it doesn’t have anything to do with disrespect and he contacts you against your wishes because he thinks that he’s supposed to.
You’re the only one who can figure it out because you know if he has been disrespectful of your wishes and wants before.
If he always respected your boundaries in the past, it could be the fact of you initiating the no contact period that made him realize that he wants to get back together because he misses you a lot.
However, I suggest that you stick to the no contact rule because it will show the truth.
If he moves on during that period, he doesn’t really love you, but if he can’t, he still loves you deeply.
The best-case scenario is if he lets you have your space during these 30 days, and contacts you right after, because it shows that he loves and respects you at the same time.
10. He calls you when he’s drunk
Alcohol isn’t a truth serum, but it brings out all the feelings we have and lowers inhibitions.
Maybe he’s strong and quiet about his pain when he’s sober, but when he gets drunk, he wants to let you know about it.
If your ex calls you when he’s drunk, he probably still loves you, and if he does so on a regular basis, he can’t deal with his buried emotions when he is sober.
Of course, if he gets drunk a lot, you shouldn’t be happy about it, no matter what he tells you while intoxicated.
Did he have a habit of drinking too much when you were together?
If he has a problem with alcohol, he isn’t someone who’s at a time in his life when a relationship is a good idea.
However, if he didn’t usually drink too much when you were together, and it started when you broke up, it could be his way of dealing with heartbreak.
His friends are probably also trying to help by taking him to parties all the time.
Keep in mind that this isn’t a healthy way of dealing with things but it shows that he thinks of you when he’s emotional, and that’s one of the signs that he still loves you.
11. He finds excuses to contact you
He uses all sorts of excuses just to reach out to you, including asking you questions that anyone else could answer and sending you random memes or other things you need to check out like songs and articles.
He used to share everything with you, whether it was his thoughts or experiences, and he wants to keep doing that.
Whenever he gets some news, he wants to tell you about it, whether it’s good or bad.
He misses the deep connection you used to have and isn’t ready to give up on it.
When he reaches out to you, it shows that he isn’t indifferent but exactly the opposite.
He doesn’t want to move on if he keeps contacting you and shares everything with you, and it’s one of the signs that your boyfriend still loves you.
All this still doesn’t mean that he’ll give you what you need or that the reason for your break-up is gone.
Maybe you wanted him to commit, and he wasn’t ready for that.
Now he wants you to be a part of his life again because he still cares about you, but it doesn’t mean he’s ready all of a sudden.
Keep in mind that he can love you and still fail to meet your needs. Love is great, but it sometimes isn’t enough.
However, if he reaches out a lot, and wants to connect, he still has feelings for you, and there’s a chance you’ll fix what was wrong and get back together.
12. He watches your every move on social media
He likes all your posts on social media and comments on them because it’s a less risky way of reaching out to you.
If he watches all your stories on Snapchat and Instagram, comments first whenever you post something or even sends you a message about something you posted, you don’t have to ask yourself, “Does he still love me?”
He isn’t indifferent, and it means the two of you still have a chance to get back together.
The reason why he watches your every move on social media could be that it isn’t as risky as reaching out, or he simply isn’t sure about what he wants.
13. He keeps in touch with your loved ones
What’s the reason for staying in touch with the friends and family of your ex?
No one does that; except, of course, if they want to get back together with the ex in question.
He wants to stay a part of your life if he stays in touch with your friends and family.
Of course, there are exceptions to this rule. If the two of you have kids or were together for a very long time, and he has relationships with your loved ones that are independent of you, it could be normal.
However, most of the time, when you wonder, “Does he still love me?” the signs he does are in those calls to your family and friends.
14. He can’t help it, so he lovingly touches you
He can’t keep his hands to himself when you see each other and seems somehow drawn to you.
Whether he gently squeezes your hand or you notice his hand on your lower back or on your shoulder, it could mean he still cares about you.
That loving touch is his way of trying to be close to you again, and it will be caring and affectionate, not inappropriate.
His body language isn’t uninviting or stiff, like it would be if he had moved on. He would keep his hands to himself if he didn’t want to get close to you.
The way he warmly touches you makes you feel cared about, and you don’t feel the need to wonder if he still cares about you.
15. He wants to discuss what went wrong
He wants to talk to you about your relationship, rehash everything, see what went wrong, and get you to see his point of view as well as hear yours.
When a man wants to talk about your relationship and everything that went wrong, it’s one of the clear signs that he still loves you.
Men don’t want to talk about these things when they think the relationship is over.
The reason why he wants to discuss what went wrong is that he wants to try to fix it.
All he wants is to work things out and fight for your love because he knows that you don’t give up on someone you love.
Women sometimes want to have this kind of talk for closure, to feel heard, or simply to say what they wanted.
However, men usually just move on once the relationship is over.
The only reason a guy would want to talk to you about your relationship is that he wants to be in that relationship… and that is because he still cares about you deeply.
16. He still opens up to you
When he needs some advice or has some news, you’re the first person he calls.
You’re maybe even the only one he wants to open up to about these things.
He trusts you even though you’re not together anymore, and he still opens up to you, which means that the intimacy you had means a lot to him, so he isn’t ready to let go of it.
Men don’t easily open up to girls, at least not truly, and it’s hard for them to do that… so when they do, they aren’t ready to give up on the relationship so easily.
Of course, he could be opening up to you out of habit, so it’s not guaranteed that you’ll be able to work things out.
However, it is one of the signs that he still loves you.
The foundation of every good relationship is trust, so, as long as he still trusts you, there’s something you can build on.
I hope that this article has helped you stop wondering, “Does he still love me?” and gave you what you were looking for.
Now it’s up to you whether you’ll give this man a second chance or move on and start afresh with someone new.