Dating an artist can be one of the most difficult tasks you’ll face in your life. But I guarantee you, it will be the most interesting one as well. Whether he’s a musician, painter, dancer, producer, photographer, or actor – you name it – being his girlfriend has plenty of benefits!
I can bet that the first thing that came to your mind is that you could become his muse, and yes, that’s true. There’s also a saying that if an artist falls in love with you, you’ll live forever – what a privilege that is!
A lot of things can get your attention when it comes to this creative type of man – their humor, intellect, or passion they have. You can also appreciate that artists can express their feelings, especially through their work.
However, there’s also a dark side to this possibly exciting relationship. Are you ready to read both pros and cons of dating an artist? Is it as enjoyable as it seems to be? Time to find out!
Dating an artist: what is it like?
First of all, you have to understand that no relationship is alike and all artists are unique. So, what works for one girl, may not work for you. I’m sure that, if you ask around a bit, you’ll hear different testimonials about dating an artist, yet neither is similar to the color palette you’ll use in your relationship.
You’ll be the one drawing lines on that white canvas and painting blank spaces as you go through the relationship with your creative lover.
Be prepared to hear a lot of stereotypes about artists such as “they’re depressed“, “they hate life“, “tell him to get a real job“, “art’s not bringing food to the table“, and many more. Don’t believe any of those. Write your own story.
Dating an artist is going to be challenging, but who said relationships are easy?!
This may be your most meaningful relationship that can last a lifetime if you learn how to treat him right and he agrees to compromise from time to time. It can also be an overwhelming experience some can’t handle. It’s up to you to figure out which way your relationship will go.
Dating an artist can, and probably will be messy at times, since inspiration doesn’t check the hour, but they make this crazy world bearable. You can rest assured that it will never be boring and you’ll have a lot of stimulating conversations with your lover.
He’ll open his heart to you and make you feel things you never knew you could. In return, you’ll be expected to respect his work and give him space when he desperately needs it. So, why should you date an artist?
13 reasons why dating an artist is a good idea
As an artist, I can tell you that there are more reasons why this relationship is a blessing, but here are the most important ones. Get ready to see the world from a different perspective and be understood like never before.
Dating an artist will be a blessing and a burden at the same time, but opt to see the good and learn how to handle bad situations and you’ll have the most beautiful relationship. That being said, let’s go through the reasons why you should be with an artsy person.
1. He has a different perspective
Your view of the world will drastically change. He sees it differently than most people so dating an artist will help you see things from his perspective. You’ll start paying more attention to details and you’ll enjoy learning about those colorful flowers in a botanic garden where he took you on a first date.
I can bet that you’ll enjoy listening to his stories about the universe, people, and all the places he finds inspiration for his artwork. You’ll notice new details on something familiar, like a theatre building that’s been there for ages. And you’ll see yourself differently, I promise you that.
2. He’s creative
Do we have to state the obvious? I hope you’re ready for the most creative relationship of your life because he’ll include his creativity in it. He’ll buy you thoughtful gifts, or even make you some. He’ll take you on memorable dates and you’ll definitely feel special.
Expressing his creativity will come in many shapes and forms now when he has you. Your life will be more interesting than it was.
3. He’s honest
He’s being honest with the world, so why wouldn’t he be sincere with you? Pure feelings are intertwined in every piece he has ever created, so you can expect him to be open with you. He’ll be completely honest and leave you no place for doubt.
Sharing his opinion with you will come naturally, and he’ll tell you the truth no matter how bad it is. There’s no sugarcoating in his vocabulary. He’ll never say what he thinks you expect to hear or just to make you feel better, but he’ll rather speak his mind. You’ve asked for honesty, right?
4. He’s vocal about his feelings
I mean, the whole point of being an artist is expressing your feelings – on paper, canvas, or through the music you create. Even though your relationship may lack communication, rest assured that he’ll be vocal about his feelings (or convey them through his artwork).
He may check out other women, but artists are one of the rare men who know the difference between casual dating and a serious relationship. If he chose to be committed to you, it’s highly unlikely that he’ll cheat.
5. He’s passionate
Of course, he’s passionate about his art. Therefore, dating an artist will help you reveal what true passion is. When he speaks about his art, observe how eagerly he shares his thoughts with you. He loves what the does even though he got wounded on his way.
You may see some scars that he doesn’t want to talk about. He’ll take you on a rollercoaster of emotions and you’ll feel extreme pain and intense happiness. You’ll feel everything the way he does, deeply and vividly and I hope you’re ready for that.
6. He’s not giving up easily
Determination is his natural state. He’s going to do anything in his power to get what and where he wants. What does this mean for your relationship? He’ll go out and about just to make you happy and he’ll succeed in that every single time.
He’s going to fight for his ideas, even if it’s risky. An artist will support what he believes in and won’t compromise. If he decides that he’ll play his song at the most popular music festival this year, he’ll make sure that happens.
7. He’s open-minded
Dating an artist means there is no judging in a relationship. He’s completely open-minded and he won’t criticize you for your deeds or mishaps. Thinking inside or outside the box? He’s not aware that there is a box at all!
He won’t try to change you, there won’t be dos and don’ts in a relationship. Unnecessary jealousy is not his cup of tea and he’ll let you live your life the way you want. Hell, he’ll even encourage you to push your limits.
8. He’ll make you feel loved
He is going to appreciate everything about you and that’s why dating an artist is going to be a true blessing. He’s an ardent lover of everything that surrounds us and you’ll enjoy spending time with him. Constant compliments may make you blush, but hey, that’s his way of expressing the love he feels.
He’ll encourage you to love your flaws and you’ll grow as a person. You may feel neglected when he’s doing his thing, but I assure you, once he’s done with his artwork, he’ll dedicate as much time to you. He’ll love you unconditionally and he’ll show you that.
9. You’ll get creative as well
One of the biggest benefits of dating an artist is this one – you’ll get creative as well! Maybe you won’t be as good as all those famous painters right away, but practice makes perfect, right? He’ll share some tips and tricks with you and you may even get a little corner at his atelier.
You’ll start thinking differently and you’ll find inspiration everywhere you go. Dates will be unusual, so forget about dance clubs and night bars. He’ll take you to museums, art galleries, and music festivals. You’ll learn so much from him and I’m sure you’ll enjoy it completely.
10. You’ll meet a lot of people
His enormous network is another perk of this relationship. Being the way he is, talking with people is never a problem. You’ll meet a lot of different individuals, with unconventional thinking. Learning about people and their behavior will get easier with time.
Every person in his social circle is unique and you’ll learn to appreciate that. You’ll broaden your knowledge on various topics and you’ll get to see some ordinary things, like a wine glass for example, from a different angle (without moving it around, of course).
11. You’ll be his muse
Exactly, you’ve read that right! You’ll be his muse. Is there anything more appealing than this?
You’ll be remembered as someone who inspired some great works of art. He may paint your portrait, or write a poem or two about you. Maybe he’ll dedicate a whole song to the woman who changed his life.
He may get crafty and make you a unique engagement ring to express his love in his way, you know like Picasso created one for his lover and inspiration, Dora Maar. His love for you will be so profound that it may scare you from time to time.
12. You may travel the world with him
If you’re dating an artist, you’re probably already familiar with his random and sudden trips all over the world. There’s a music festival where he’ll play his music, a new gallery is opening and his artworks will be displayed, he has a photo exhibition, or he’s seeking inspiration…
Just point a place on a map and he’ll tell you he’s been there. So, another thing on this list of benefits is that you may enjoy all of it with him. You know, VIP places, special treatments, room service; all of it for simply being his muse. I mean, it’s a busy and demanding job.
13. You’ll have the privilege to enjoy his art before others
If you ask me, this is going to be the greatest perk of dating an artist. I may be speaking this way because I consider myself to be an artist, but you’ll definitely have the privilege to enjoy his art before others. You’ll get to feel the magic with all your senses before someone else does.
Checking out raw photographs with him, listening to the first beats of his new song, watching how he’s carefully spreading the paint on that canvas – it’s going to be absolutely priceless. He’ll share some of the most intimate things with you and make sure you do the same.
5 reasons why you shouldn’t be dating an artist
Now that we’ve checked all the important reasons why you should date an artist, it’s time to go through some cons as well.
Keep in mind that not a single relationship is all sunshine and rainbows and there will be struggles, you just have to find the person who’s worth all of it. Once you find your person, hold on to him tightly (not literally though).
Artists can be pretty unpredictable and unreliable at times, but is that something extremely destructive for the relationship? Are his personality traits something that you need to pay attention to, or there is something else? Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t be dating an artist. Ready to find out?
1. He won’t have a lot of free time
This is inevitable. If he’s dedicated to his career as an artist and he deeply appreciates every piece of art he creates, you know he’ll spend a lot of time in his zone. Whether it’s his atelier or studio, you know where you’ll find him.
Yes, he won’t have a lot of free time, but that little that he has, he’ll spend with you. He’ll treat you like you deserve to be treated. You may miss him being around, but at least you’re sure he’s being faithful and that he respects and appreciates you.
He doesn’t have a schedule, so he may get up in the middle of the night because he figured out which beat fits perfectly to the section he was assembling before bed. Or, he remembered which colors to mix in order to get that lime-green he needs for one detail.
2. He knows a lot of beautiful women
As good as it is for him to have a wide range of connections, this means that he knows a lot of beautiful women. If you have jealousy issues, dating an artist may not be the best choice for you. He’ll never give you the reason for doubting his commitment, but you may feel threatened.
The problem with this is that he sometimes has to be charming and even flirt to get what he wants. This may be destructive for your relationship if you’re someone who has low self-esteem and need reassurance almost constantly. I may disappoint you, but he won’t be able to provide you with that.
Even though it’s widely thought that these creative souls are prone to having flings, that’s not necessarily true, so don’t doubt him or his love.
3. He can be pretty stubborn
Talking about stubbornness, artists have it in abundance. Do you know that saying “stubborn as a mule”? Well, that mule had been taught by an artist. I’m not exaggerating. They’ll make you feel like you’re talking to a brick wall!
You may struggle when having a conflict with him, but I’m sure you’ll be able to endure it. However, this means that you’ll rarely be the one winning an argument, so if you’re a sore loser, it’s better to avoid dating an artist altogether.
He’ll blindly follow his passion and he’ll fulfill his goals, come hell or high water. Since you won’t be able to influence his decisions as much, it’s safer if you admire him from afar and cheer for him. If you feel like he may fail, make sure you’re ready to be his support.
4. He needs time for himself
It is believed that artists are mostly introverts and lone wolves which is not completely true. Undoubtedly, he’ll require a lot of alone time, and honestly, you have to be ready for that. He needs that time to recharge himself and think about new ideas.
When creativity finally finds him, solitude will be his best friend in those moments. He may spend hours looking at that blank canvas, just to fill it with color in a couple of minutes.
Don’t think that you did or said something wrong, sometimes he simply doesn’t need your presence. I know this sounds harsh, and I’m sorry. Dating an artist is not going to be a piece of cake and you either have to accept that or move on.
5. He sometimes has (extreme) mood swings
Profound feelings and deep thoughts call for extreme mood swings as well. You have to be ready to put him in his place if he takes it too far. It takes two to tango, so you too do have some say in that relationship. You have a choice and you don’t have to suffer.
He may be exhilarated one moment, and in another, he may feel depressed. Inspiration will move him and he’ll be happy which means you’ll be content in his surroundings too. On the other hand, when he’s sad and utterly desperate, it may also affect you.
If this bothers you, talk with him. You know that he’ll listen carefully and he’ll try to find the best solution possible for the given situation. He’s a sensitive human being, so what makes you think that you can’t openly communicate with him?
In the end…
Dating an artist is a wonderful thing. He’ll make you feel loved, appreciated, and valued. You’ll be showered with unique compliments and thoughtful gifts. He’s going to take care of you and he’ll provide you with anything you want.
Things may get a bit rocky occasionally, but if you love him, you’ll learn how to handle that. This relationship is going to be liberating and it will immensely help your self-growth. You’ll learn to look at the world from a different perspective and you’ll treasure small things.
In the end, I can tell you one thing… Dating an artist will definitely have a lot of good and bad times, but all relationships are like that. You’ll experience serenity and storm, but I guarantee you – you’ll have the time of your life.