The signs that your friend doesn’t respect you may be ignored on purpose because you are afraid to lose them.
Friends are supposed to be there to help you in times of need and you want to know their feelings are genuine.
Still, you get the impression that something isn’t right.
A true friend will be your rock, someone you can always count on.
They will support you no matter what. You know that they will always listen to you, understand you, and guide you through every step of your life.
The bond between you and a true friend will be unbreakable. The time you invest in the friendship will make you inseparable.
The experiences you share will create a strong foundation that will act as a secure place for your future relationship.
You will stick together through thick and thin because you know each other well. However, not every person you meet will be your friend.
Not every friend you have will be a true one.
People are weird, and you can never be 100% sure whom to trust. One who seems angelic and genuine can turn out to be wearing a mask.
On the other hand, those who seem like they don’t care much may end up being more dedicated than any of the others.
Sometimes, you will stumble upon a great friendship and you two will just click. But as time passes, you feel that some things are not the way they are supposed to be.
Your communication will seem ideal, and you will share different details of your life with each other. But still, some things just won’t make sense.
You will get the feeling that the respect between you two is not mutual.
How do you know if your friend doesn’t respect you?
”Actions speak louder than words.” Apply this saying to your friendship and it will become clear whether your friend respects you or not.
It is easy to say the words, ‘‘I’ll be there for you,” ”You can count on me,” or, ”You can trust me.’‘
The problem appears when their words don’t have the support of their actions.
Usually, with a friend who doesn’t respect you, actions and words don’t correspond well.
Anyone can say that they love you. But when it’s time to prove it, they are usually nowhere to be found.
This is the best way to recognize that your friend doesn’t respect you.
If they are around only when you are happy, you can be sure that they are not worth your time.
Whenever you feel that something is wrong, try observing the actions of the other.
In their behavior, you will find the best answer to the thought that has been going through your mind… ”Do they respect me, or not?”
14 signs your friend doesn’t respect you!
If you feel that your friend doesn’t respect you, then you should keep looking for the following signs.
They are clear evidence that your friendship is not real. They are just disrespectful and a toxic ‘friend’ who doesn’t care about you.
1. They are not supportive
If you noticed that your friend never supports you, then it’s an obvious sign that they don’t respect you.
Sometimes you just need someone who will be there and listen to you when times are hard.
Usually, good friends come running when you tell them you are in some kind of trouble.
On the other hand, a friend who doesn’t respect you will never be there to support you.
A real friend will always make sure to support you in any way they can.
They will be your springboard toward success, as friends are the ones who always push each other toward goals.
However, if your friendship pulls you back and prevents you from growing, then you are stuck with a friend who doesn’t respect you.
Life in itself is hard, and you don’t need to make it even harder by being surrounded by toxic friends who don’t have your back.
2. They are envious of your success
Besides the fact that they don’t support you, a friend who doesn’t respect you will also be jealous of your success.
Behaving in a weird manner whenever you express your happiness is a result of their envy.
This kind of friend will never be able to deal with your success, as it can outshine theirs.
If you feel that you are left behind and that they are in any way better than you it will make them feel better about themselves.
A friend who doesn’t respect you will be jealous of everything you achieve.
They will hate to see you happy and thriving. Their goal will be to see you suffering and struggling as it makes them feel better about themselves.
Carefully notice your friend’s reaction to your success.
If you can see the green-eyed monster looming in their eyes, then it is clear that this specific person doesn’t respect you. And they probably never will.
3. They put you down
Real friends are there to help you grow and become the best version of yourself. They will support you all the time.
They will make sure that you notice everything valuable you carry within yourself.
Frankly, real friends are hard to find as most of the people who we believe are our friends are self-centered and don’t care about others.
That’s why a real friend will never put you down or tell you that you are not worthy of something.
However, a friend who doesn’t respect you will do this almost on a daily basis.
They will want to show that they are the one who matters and that your opinions are irrelevant or wrong.
Whatever you do, they will try to put you down. That’s just what they do to make themselves feel better.
They will do this in different ways, but never directly, as you could realize that their intentions are bad.
For example, you share an idea with a ‘friend’ and they seem to support you. They tell you it’s a great idea and that you should definitely keep working on it.
However, when you find yourself in a group of other friends, your ‘friend’ changes their opinion and makes negative comments about your idea.
This means that your ‘friend’ doesn’t respect you and that they only want to put you down in order to uplift themselves.
4. They talk behind your back
Whenever you two are spending one-on-one time together, it seems like you couldn’t ever wish for a better friend.
You understand each other well, and you feel free to express your opinions.
Later, you may start hearing rumors or lies about you, and you find out that your ‘friend’ is the one who started them.
This is an obvious sign that your friend doesn’t respect you.
If you notice that they constantly talk about you behind your back, then it clearly means that they don’t care about you.
This person should never have the title of a friend as they are far from that. Instead, they are your worst enemy, and they will never be able to change.
Once they’ve entered the dangerous zone of talking behind your back, there is no turning back.
After they have gained your trust, they will keep trash-talking you to everyone, but they will never be brave enough to say anything to your face.
This makes them feel better about themselves as they believe that they are the one in control.
This ‘friend‘ is envious and jealous of everything you do and obviously doesn’t respect you at all.
5. They reveal your secrets
A friend who doesn’t respect you will never have a problem sharing your private things with others.
You will tell them a secret and after a day or two, everyone in town will know it. This is even though they swore that they would never tell anyone.
If you confront them, they will start making excuses and saying they didn’t share the secret.
”I would never do that to you!” they will say. These toxic friends know how to manipulate you.
They are self-centered and they only care about their own goals.
If you notice that a ‘friend’ keeps telling everyone your personal information or details that you don’t want anyone to know, then it is obvious that they don’t respect you.
This will never change as they don’t see an issue with it.
6. They break their promises
Your friend doesn’t respect you if you are the one left hanging all the time.
Every promise they make, they will also break, so you will never be able to count on them.
Also, you will never be sure whether they will show up or call you at the last minute to cancel the arrangement.
You will feel that you can’t rely on them as they don’t respect you enough to stick to their promises.
They will often cancel your meetings, forget to keep their promises, and always make sure to convince you that it wasn’t their fault.
Something else is always going to pop up.
By doing this, your friend is telling you implicitly that they don’t respect you and that they don’t care about you or your life.
They are the one who matters and they will make sure you understand that.
These ‘friends’ are toxic, and they feed on any negativity that happens in your life.
7. They don’t help you
When a friend doesn’t respect you, they will never go out of their way to help you.
Your friendship is only valuable when they need something from you.
On the other hand, real friends come running whenever you need some kind of help. Toxic friends do the opposite.
They don’t care about your life issues as long as it doesn’t affect them.
If you ask them for a favor, they will probably reject you as they are too busy and really don’t have time for it.
Ask them again, and the answer will be the same.
A friend who doesn’t respect you sees you only as a way to achieve their needs and goals.
If they ever do you a favor, it is probably because they will benefit from it.
8. They don’t appreciate your time
When your friend cancels on you on a regular basis, it means that they don’t appreciate your time, and they don’t respect you as a person.
If they constantly make you wait, it means that they don’t care if you have anything else to do.
They want to be sure that you are the one kept waiting. In this way, they make themselves a priority.
This makes them feel powerful and puts you in a submissive position.
You may have canceled some other plans for them, just for them to call you last-minute and tell you they can’t come.
Then later, you see them out and about with someone else.
This is a sign of disrespect as they behave like you don’t have anything to do but sit and wait for them to contact you.
It can make you feel like you don’t matter to them, and truth be told, you probably don’t.
If you did, they would make sure to at least let you know earlier that they wouldn’t be able to keep their promise.
However, a friend who doesn’t respect you doesn’t really care about your feelings and they have no problem making you wait.
9. They don’t care about your feelings
A sign that your friend doesn’t respect you is when you feel like they don’t care whether you are feeling hurt.
We tend to feel like we are being dramatic when we don’t think they care.
If they make sure to tell us that we are ‘too sensitive’, ‘weak’ or ‘insane’ because of something we feel, then it is time to let them go.
These words hurt and they can make us feel even worse about ourself.
A real friend will never be able to let you go through this.
Your feelings will be acknowledged and they will genuinely want to know what is going through your mind.
They will support you and make you aware that they are there for you.
On the other hand, toxic friends will make sure to prove to you that your feelings are too much.
They will not care if they hurt you as long as it doesn’t affect them.
10. They interrupt you all the time
When a friend doesn’t respect you, they don’t care if you are talking about something.
Your words don’t matter as it is theirs that are important.
They don’t care if they interrupt you in the middle of a sentence as they probably aren’t even listening to what you are saying.
they’re not interested so they cut you off. This is highly disrespectful as it makes you feel like a ghost whose words are not heard.
It also makes you feel that whatever you are saying isn’t as important as something they want to say.
These people care only about themselves and it will always remain that way.
They are hard to change and even if you ask them to stop doing it, they will probably not listen to you.
11. They present your ideas as theirs
Have you ever been in a situation where you shared an idea with a friend?
You believed it was a great concept but your ‘friend’ told you that it was nothing special?
Eventually, you decided to agree with their opinion but some days later, you heard them talking to a group of friends, explaining your idea as theirs.
This should immediately make you realize that your ‘friend’ doesn’t respect you.
If they are able to lie to your face about something and then, later on, take the same idea and share it with others as a concept they came up with, then what else are they capable of doing?
This toxic breed of people make you believe that everything you do or come up with is wrong, while at the same time, they know that you are completely right.
They want to bring you down by telling you that something you do is not worthy even though they know this isn’t right.
They need to make sure that your self-confidence gets lower and lower as it then becomes easy to manipulate you.
12. They blame you for everything
When a friend doesn’t respect you, you become the reason for all of the problems and issues you two stumble upon.
It’s your fault you two get to work late, your fault if they fail their driving test, and it’s even your fault if it’s raining today.
When they do something that makes you feel hurt and you point it out to them, they will probably tell you that it is your fault because you pay too much attention to details.
You will always be the one to blame! No matter how much you try to prove to them that they are wrong, they will never see it as such.
13. They never apologize
If a friend doesn’t respect you, they will never see the mistakes they make.
Even if you point them out and tell them that you don’t agree with their actions or that their behavior hurts you, they will never take a step back and apologize.
Toxic friends don’t think that they are the cause of any mistakes. They believe that they are always right.
They think that you should apologize, because you are accusing them of something that is not their fault.
On the other hand, good friends will recognize their mistakes on their own. They will apologize immediately, as their intention was not to hurt you.
14. They give you the silent treatment
After you point out any mistakes that they made, a friend who doesn’t respect you will decide to give you the silent treatment.
They will make you chase them until they decide that it’s been long enough.
You will call them and text them but they will ignore you.
This is again their way of telling you, ”I am the one who matters and you will have to run after me.”
This could last as long as they want it to but you shouldn’t fall for it.
Chasing a friend who doesn’t respect you will end up hurting your feelings and your toxic friend will not be bothered by it.
However, if you let them go and decide that their toxicity and disrespect are not worth your time, things will change for you for the better.
What should you do when you notice the signs your friend doesn’t respect you?
After you’ve recognized the signs that your friend doesn’t respect you, you may ask yourself what you should do next.
Do you immediately cut ties or do you give them some time to change?
Like in every relationship, misunderstandings can happen. You two may not be on the same page but you can try to fix that.
The first step is to try to communicate your feelings and express the things that hurt you.
A friend who doesn’t respect you is not bothered by your words. they ignore them and continue to behave in the same way.
On the other hand, a real friend will understand that they are wrong and they will do their best to change.
Maybe your friend behaved that way unconsciously, without any intention of hurting you. If this was the case, they will be willing to change.
However, if a friend doesn’t believe that they should change and that whatever you are saying is nonsense, then they don’t respect you as a person.
And you won’t be able to find your feelings on their list of priorities.
This means that it is your time to leave.
It’s always better to go through life alone than with people who don’t respect you and who treat you like you are inferior to them.
Instead of sticking with them and emotionally draining yourself, work on finding the right people who will see and appreciate your value.
Not all ‘friends’ are real. Even fewer of them will stay in your life.
Remember, ”True friends are those rare people who come to find you in dark places and lead you back to the light.”