Do you think you’re asking for too much?
Now that you have grown up and are a woman, everything you are and everything you desire is considered too much.
You know it’s true. Whenever you laugh, people will tell you that you’re too loud.
Whenever you talk about your views, people will tell you that you’re talking too much or that you’re too opinionated.
You’re always too much for some reason and you have grown up to believe that it’s the truth.
Your ‘too-muchness’ has been perceived as a bad thing. You let yourself believe that whatever you’re asking from your partner must be too much too.
There have been times when you had to bite your tongue in order to keep yourself from talking.
At times, you would even dress yourself in a way that wouldn’t catch anyone’s eye, just so you wouldn’t be perceived as ‘too much’.
Things like this have brought you to a point where you stopped asking for anything in your relationship.
You are scared he’ll tell you that you are high maintenance or that you are always asking for too much.
That’s why I’m here to tell you that you are never asking for too much. If he tells you that you are, then he is not the one for you.
You are not asking for too much if you ask for his attention.
He is your significant other. However, you feel like you’re asking him for too much when you ask for his undivided attention.
You go out of his way when he’s on the phone or when he’s playing his video games.
Somehow he’s always busy and he always makes you believe that what he’s doing is more important than you.
This has led you to believe that you ask for too much when you ask for his undivided attention.
You are entitled to his undivided attention whenever you need it.
Your stomach might be in a knot, as you feel like you just read something forbidden, but, you are entitled to it.
He agreed to it when you became a couple.
If you are more than able to set aside time and give him your undivided attention then he should be able to do the same thing for you too.
Don’t let him make you believe that everything is more important than you are, because it’s not.
You should always be his top priority.
You are not asking for too much when you ask him for effort.
I have seen my fair share of men thinking that they can take a woman for granted the moment she falls in love with him.
But let me be the first one to tell you that it’s not true.
A man can’t take you for granted just because you served your heart on a silver platter to him.
He needs to put effort into your relationship every single day in order to keep you by his side.
If you ask him to put more effort into your relationship and he tells you that you are asking too much of him, then make sure to tell him that you are only asking for the basics.
You are not asking him to give you all the stars from the sky, you are asking him to plan a date for you two, you are asking him to remember to give you a present every once in a while.
These things should never be considered too much.
Even if you’re asking him to always open the door for you or to come pick you up whenever you’re going somewhere, you are still not asking for too much.
These are your standards and your boundaries, and he should respect them.
You are not asking for too much when you ask him to take care of you.
Whenever he’s sick, you’re right there next to him, making him tea and giving him medicine.
However, when you’re the sick one, you always tend to take care of yourself.
You don’t want to burden him with your needs, so you just get up on your shaky legs and make your own tea.
To many, this might seem like common sense, but there are some of us who believe asking our partner to also take care of us is a sin.
You believe that you should be able to take care of both of you. No, dear, you don’t have to do that.
It’s OK to ask for help. You are human too and if he tells you that you’re asking for too much then just walk away.
You are not asking for too much when you ask him to skip a night out with the boys.
How many times have you needed him by your side but he left you to deal with things on your own so he could go out with the boys?
How many times have you been alone in your room, crying your eyes out, wishing for him to be by your side?
Even if you tried to ask him to stay with you, he still made you believe that you are selfish.
What is selfish is putting his enjoyment over your mental health.
If he is always going out with his friends and you have never said a word about it, why would it be a problem to set aside some time and stay home with you?
It’s not taboo to ask for help when you need it and if you always deal with things on your own, he is obligated (as your partner) to stay by your side.
Don’t lower your standards just because you’re scared someone might perceive you as ‘too much’!
We lower our standards too often for people who do not deserve it.
You have lowered your own standards and you’re not even asking for the things that would make you happy out of fear of being lonely or out of fear of being perceived as too much.
Let me tell you that you do not have to do that anymore.
If your significant other tells you that you’re asking for too much when you’re asking for basic human decency then that is not a man you want in your life.
You shouldn’t have to lower your standards for a man. You have the right to ask for the things you want.
If he doesn’t want to meet your standards then that is on him and you should leave.
You deserve so much better than a man who isn’t even ready to give you what you’re asking for.
You are not asking him to move mountains for you. However, there is someone out there who would do that for you if you asked him.
The difference between these two men is that the right one actually loves you.