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A Letter To The Girl Who Doesn’t Know How To Leave Her Abusive Relationship

Is that just another glass or your heart that’s being shattered?

You’re trembling, I know you are. Can’t you feel the way your heart picks up its pace to the point where it completely drowns out the noise of his yelling?

He sees the tears running down your face, but all you see is the face of the man you love, so distorted from anger that it’s almost unrecognizable.

He sees your agony and your misery. You’re afraid of him, you’re terrified, but he thrives on that. The man that you claim to love doesn’t care that you flinch whenever he tries to touch you or that you’re drawing into yourself when he turns to face you.

You’re petrified of the things he’s going to do to you if you speak up for yourself. That’s why you probably haven’t left him yet.

You have your own reasons for staying this long.

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It frightens you to walk away from him as you fear things would only get worse from that moment onward. You feel like you can put up with his moods in order to have just one moment of laughter with him.

You’re patiently waiting for that one tender kiss, that one gentle hug. You’re ready to suffer through these tough times simply because you know that there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Your tunnels are just a little bit longer than the ones other people are describing. And the light doesn’t seem to seep through to where you are.

You don’t see an end to this and that’s the issue here. You believe that as long as you stay with him, things will get better, but the truth is that you’re hoping for something impossible.

Do you truly believe that a man who loves you would treat you like that?

He’s not broken. He’s not confused. And he doesn’t need more time.

You’re not obligated to stay by his side and wait for the moment he realizes that he’s treating you like trash. He won’t change.

Everyone’s worried for you. You try so hard to hide the bruises – physical and emotional alike. But people aren’t blind. Your friends see them. They notice that you’re not the same person you were before.

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They know that something’s awfully wrong.

Your family wants to bring you back home to them so that they can show you that you don’t need a man.

But I want you to know that your worries are completely valid. You worry that he may do something once you leave. He’ll threaten to come after you or do something to himself. Those thoughts make you even more petrified.

You don’t want to go home just for him to follow you and injure someone else you love. You don’t want to be the reason he does something to hurt himself.

He’s obviously mentally and emotionally unstable – anything can trigger him at this point. The smallest change in your mood can set him off into a rage.

You’re wondering if this will ever stop.

What you have to do right now is get up, pack your things, and just leave. Don’t give yourself time to think about this.

If he hasn’t taken all your money and if he hasn’t taken your phone away, make sure to pack everything and get the heck away from him. He’s not worth the pain you’re going through.

You’re responsible to free yourself. You owe this to yourself.

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I know that you probably still love him. You still remember the first time you met and the things he did to capture your heart. He wasn’t always like this and you stay because of the good memories you’ve made!

But that time’s over. It’s done.

The first time he raised his voice at you should’ve been reason enough for you to leave. You don’t have to stay just because you haven’t left until now. You have the right to change your mind at any given point in time.

Only you have the power to make this decision for yourself.

He will continue to abuse you. He won’t stop just because you plead and beg. You’ve spent all of this time begging him to stop doing this to you and he hasn’t. If anything, it keeps getting worse every single day.

Is this the life you want to lead? Is this what forever looks like?

I don’t believe so.

I believe that there’s someone out there in this world who’s the perfect match for you. You’re just blocking your blessings by staying with this man. You’ve learned your lesson, there’s nothing else to search for in his presence.

Please leave him. I’m begging you.

There are so many people in this world who will help you stay safe. They’ll be there for you, they’ll talk to you, they’ll understand you. If you need to, get a restraining order for him. Just leave right away.

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No human being deserves to spend their life with someone like that. You don’t deserve to be treated like trash by someone you’ve given everything that you have to.

You have to heal from all of his abuse. I know that it’s a scary thought because the process will be anything but short and sweet. You’ll have to go through many ups and downs.

You’ll watch yourself fall apart and you’ll put yourself back together again. But it’s worth it! I can guarantee you that it’s worth it!

I won’t lie to you and tell you that it won’t hurt. It’ll hurt like hell, but it’ll hurt less than the impact of his hand meeting your skin. Your bruises will heal. Your heart will put itself back together again.

It’ll take time.

But you’ll be fine.

Just leave him right now and don’t overthink it. You know that this is the right thing to do!

A Letter To The Girl Who Doesn't Know How To Leave Her Abusive Relationship

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