Think aloud
What happens when you break up but your ex keeps sending you mixed signals?
He’s not directly saying that he still wants you but his actions may suggest that he’s not over you.
You find yourself thinking, ”Is it all in my head, or is he really hoping that the two of us could get back together?”
Sometimes, it can be hard to understand what is going on. Are you seeing things that are not real or is he really hitting on you?
The thing is that you two ended your relationship so if he wants to get back together, he will try to show you that through little details that you need to notice.
He won’t be loud about it as this would give you an opportunity to hurt him again, and his ego couldn’t take that.
So, if your ex is still not over you and if he wants you to get back together, he will send you little signals.
Your job is to notice them and I will help you with that.
Continue reading if you want to make sure that he’s still not over you.
1. He drunk texts you
If you get a drunk text message every time your ex goes out, it means that he’s still not over you.
Instead of partying and having fun with his friends, he takes out his phone and sends you multiple messages.
This most definitely means that he’s still thinking about you and that he can’t get you out of his head.
Being drunk makes it easier for him to send you a message. Now, it’s up to you to notice this little sign and respond to it.
2. He stays in touch with you
An ex usually avoids any type of contact with his previous partner.
He even deletes her number just to be sure that there is no crawling back when his emotions overtake him.
If your ex stays in touch with you and checks in on you on a regular basis, it means that he’s still not over you.
He will find excuses to text you or call you just to hear your voice. This means that he still misses you and that he would love to have you in his life again.
Still, he’s afraid to admit it as he doesn’t know how you would react to that.
So he instead keeps checking in on you, hoping that you will notice the signals he’s sending you.
3. He still follows you on social media
Unfollow and unfriend! Those are the first two things we do after we break up with someone.
If your ex still follows you on social media, it can mean that he’s still not over you.
Of course, this could also mean that he is mature enough to know that unfollowing an ex is a childish step and he’s not willing to behave like a child.
However, if he still follows you and likes a bunch of your photos, comments on your posts, and DMs you from time to time, it probably means that he’s still not over you.
Why would he spend his time on his ex’s social media profiles if he doesn’t care about her anymore? Makes no sense, right?
4. He makes time for you
He already said that he wants you two to remain friends and that’s perfectly fine.
However, if he always makes time for you, tries to hang out with you, and invites you to one-on-one meetings, it most likely means that he’s still not over you.
He wants to have you close to him and he will do anything to accomplish that. Call him in the middle of the night and he will come running.
It means that his feelings are still there and he wants you to notice them.
5. He makes you aware that he has changed
He will brag to you about how much he has changed and grown as a person if he wants to get back with you.
Plus, he will try to show you that he has improved all of the things you didn’t like about him.
He will have found a new hobby, started going to the gym regularly, and rearranged his apartment.
In other words, he will do everything you wanted him to do before you two ended the relationship.
This is his way of showing you that he’s willing to change if that means that he will get you back.
6. His friends constantly mention him to you
If you run into some of his friends, you can be sure that they will mention his name in a positive context.
They will praise him, wishing that you would give him a second chance.
If this happens, it means that he already told them that he wants you back and they are doing everything they can to support their friend.
Trust me, guys wouldn’t interfere with their friend’s relationship if he didn’t bother them like crazy with it.
7. He tells your friends that he wants to get back with you
If he’s still not over you, this vicious circle of getting you back will include your friends too.
He will try to stay in touch with them so he can hint to them that he wants to get back with you.
He knows that they will report everything back to you so he sees your friends as valuable mediators between you and him.
Also, your friends are a great way to keep him updated about your life.
Through them, he can get information about where you are, whether you are seeing anyone new, and if you still have feelings for him.
When an ex is still not over you, he will play all kinds of games to get you back. As they say, all is fair in love and war.
8. He asks you if you are seeing anyone
If he does this, it probably means that he’s still not over you.
The thought of hearing that you have someone would break him but it would be even worse if he accidentally saw you with them.
That’s why he wants to be prepared and wants to know what he can expect.
If you tell him that you are dating this new guy and he starts acting weird about it, it’s clear that he’s still not over you.
9. He tries to make you jealous
Sometimes, guys think that the best way to get us back is simply to make us jealous.
If you notice that he posts a lot of pictures with some random girls, makes comments about them in your company, and generally wants to show them off, it means that he’s still not over you.
He hopes that you will wish to get back together with him and he’s using his last weapon – jealousy.
If you are willing to give him a chance, then you should pay close attention to these signs. When he makes most of them, chances are he’s still not over you.
If you don’t react fast enough, he can get the feeling that you are not willing to try again and he could take a step back.
So, carefully observe his actions and decide what will be your next step.
Do you really want to get back with him or is it only because it feels good for your ego? Think about it!
