Are you pretending to be happy in a relationship? Only you know the reason behind your behavior but deep down, you simply noticed that something isn’t right.
You’ve been with this person for quite some time now but all you know is that you’re too scared to leave. You don’t know what’s waiting on the other side.
I guess it’s easier to pretend to be happy in your relationship and pretend to love your partner but you’re not even sure what you feel. You just know that it doesn’t feel like love.
1. You don’t share your feelings
The first sign that you’re pretending to be happy in your relationship is that you don’t talk about your true feelings. Whenever someone asks you how you’re doing, you always say that you’re fine, especially if they’re asking about your relationship.
People may ask you about it but all you have to say about the matter is that you’re okay or that you’re happy. Everything within you will be protesting that statement at the time but you can’t help yourself. You don’t want anyone to speculate that you may not be okay.
2. You’re nicer to your partner when people are around
I’m not saying that you act badly toward your partner., just that you act better toward him when there are other people around you. When you go out together, you smile at him all the time, you involve him in conversations, and you constantly hug him or hold his hand.
That’s nothing weird, as you’ve always been like that with each other. But in this situation, you know that you’ll be exhausted once you get home, as you’re pretending to be happy for the sake of the audience.
3. You’re dreaming about another life
Are you pretending to be happy in a relationship? You feel like you’re stuck with your partner but you don’t know how to move on, so what you end up doing is daydreaming about another life. You spend your days dissociating and imagining what life would be like if you made a move.
This is a coping mechanism, as your relationship makes you so miserable that you need an escape. In your case, you’re escaping into your imagination.
4. You avoid his touch
You don’t want him to touch you anymore. Whenever he reaches out to touch you, you flinch because you don’t want him to.
Intimacy has become a huge issue for you because physically, you simply don’t feel attracted to him any longer and that’s because you’re not happy with him. You’re just pretending to be happy in your relationship for the sake of your partner or for some other reason and you simply can’t stand to feel his touch.
However, as mentioned, when you’re in public, you’re all over each other and that’s simply because you need other people to think that everything’s fine.
5. Your heart feels heavy
We all know how heavy a heart can feel. When you’re not happy, you feel like you’re completely broken and bruised. The sadness starts to tug at your heartstrings and it ends up being extremely painful.
It’s worse than heartbreak, which is a very strong feeling that never lasts this long. This hurts more, so you cry your eyes out.
Now, your heart just continues to hurt more with each passing day but it’s not enough pain to make you cry. It’s the type of pain that makes you feel numb. It borders on depression.
6. You hide his bad traits
When you hide his bad traits, you do so because you’re pretending to be happy in your relationship. You don’t want people to know just how badly he’s been treating you or how miserable you are because of his behavior.
You just want to be happy enough to stay with him. If you think about the bad things he’s done or the things that annoy you about him, it’s just going to make you feel awful about yourself.
That’s why you haven’t told your friends about the way he treats you or his annoying ways. You’d much rather make them think that you’re okay than tell them what you’re going through.
7. You can’t let go of the past
The past keeps haunting you. You remember the time before you met your other half as the prime time of your life. There’s nothing that you’d rather do than go back to that time and experience it all over again.
You’re pretending to be happy in your relationship because if you were honest with yourself instead, you’d dwell on how much happier you were before. Even the beginning of your relationship was such a happy time that your current situation seems like anything but a happy ending.
When you think about the future, you remember that you’re stuck with your partner, so you simply think about a time when he wasn’t around.
8. Deep down, you know that you don’t love him
You can be sure that you’re pretending to be happy in your relationship when you know that you don’t love him. There’s no reason for you to deny it because deep down, you know it’s true.
You tell him that you love him and you tell everyone else just how lucky you are to have him. However, something within you always protests at these words.
When you love someone, there’s not an atom in your body that tries to fight you. You just know that it’s real. But right now, you’re not so sure. You just know that you have to put a smile on your face when you tell him you love him.
9. You feel lost and lonely
It doesn’t matter that your partner is always next to you, you still feel lost and alone and there’s nothing that he can do to make you feel better about yourself. There’s no path that you can follow because everything has become so blurry since you got into a relationship with this man.
He’s not that bad so you stay but you’re not happy with him. You need to pretend like you’re happy in your relationship but you feel so lonely.
Even at times when he’s there to talk to you, you still feel like you have no one to talk to. You stay in the relationship, you act as if everything’s fine, but deep down, you know that you feel hopeless about being with him.