When we start dating someone, we overthink almost everything. However, sometimes this behavior is justified.
There are so many red flags women have to look out for, so many things to pay attention to and to make sure that we’re safe.
On the other hand, we’re also looking for signs that this is a man we want to see again.
We look at everything he does and make mental notes in order to know whether we’re going to reach out to him again.
That’s why it’s extremely important to know what women actually fall for and which behaviors just seem idiotic (for lack of a better word).
Believe me when I tell you that we can get a clear image of how the entire relationship might turn out just by the way a man acts on the first few dates.
So if you really want to impress a girl, please stop with these idiotic dating behaviors.
1. Talking about your ex
Exes should only be discussed somewhere down the line when you are both feeling comfortable enough with each other.
If you bring your ex up on the first date, she will only see that as a red flag. She won’t interpret it as you being heartbroken or sweet.
If you do choose to talk about your ex, she might just never text you back afterward and that’s why you need to avoid any trip down memory lane to where you and your ex were happy.
Don’t use the opportunity she has given you to charm her, just to then show her that she’s not even the girl you’re thinking about.
2. Not wanting to meet in public
Dates that are organized at home are absolutely adorable, as they’re in a controlled setting, where you two can decide about everything you’re going to do.
However, that isn’t the safest option for a girl, especially not on the first date.
She will think of you as creepy and she will think that you have some hidden agenda she doesn’t know about.
If you insist on meeting in private, she just might run for the hills before you even get the chance of meeting her, so instead, it’s better for both of you to meet somewhere in public.
At least show her that she can trust you first, then you can talk about whether you do or don’t want to meet somewhere more private.
3. Getting too tactile too soon
If the moment calls for it and she seems all right with it, initiating a hug or a kiss is fine.
However, touching her waist or her knee or even touching her anywhere at all during the first few dates is a huge NO.
She will only perceive you as a creepy man who wants to take advantage of her and that’s why you need to stay away from dating behaviors like this.
Unless you see her leaning into you or verbally telling you that touching her is all right, you do not have the right to do so.
You are not entitled to a woman’s body. Ever.
4. Dodging her questions to seem mysterious
When she asks you what you’re doing or where you’ve been, you really have to be honest.
She can’t trust you if you decide to always make her guess your response.
Saying things like, “I am thinking about you,” can seem cute the first time, but every next time you say something like this, she will start to wonder whether you’re leading her on.
If you want her, you need to be honest and open about these things, because she will walk away if you continue to play the mysterious guy.
5. Asking too many personal questions
Talking about things like work or hobbies isn’t an issue but asking about extremely personal things that you wouldn’t discuss with strangers is usually a huge deal.
You shouldn’t ask her about anything that she doesn’t feel comfortable telling you, so topics like her love life prior to you shouldn’t even be discussed unless you feel extremely relaxed with one another.
Also, it’s very important to avoid talking about income or emotional topics as they will leave a bitter taste in her mouth and she will not want to see you again.
6. Bringing her drinks
This might seem like an amazingly good move on your end.
You are getting her a drink and you’re even bringing it to her. How can that be a problem?
Well, women are becoming more and more aware of the dangers lurking when they go on dates, so she will just get paranoid and believe that you put something in her drink.
Even if you are just trying to be nice, it’ll be a red flag for her. And justifiably so, if I may add.
She just wants to be cautious, so let the waiter bring the drinks instead and I can assure you that she will feel much safer with you.
7. Making plans for the future
Instead of being very laid-back and taking your time to get to know this wonderful woman, you’re already making serious plans for the future.
She won’t think you’re weird if you decide to chat about the near future, so for example, talking about when you’re going to see each other again.
The problem arises when you don’t know anything about her and you’re already talking about getting old together.
I can’t tell you the number of times a friend got home from a bad date and told me how creepy they thought that man was, simply because he already saw them getting married from the first date.
Of course, you might think of her as the most wonderful woman ever, you may see her as your soulmate, but don’t scare her away with such poor dating behaviors.
8. Talking about yourself too much
Whenever you try to speak highly of yourself, it has the exact opposite effect on people.
If you are truly a catch then you won’t have to convince her of that, so instead have a healthy conversation dynamic that you can both enjoy.
Don’t just talk about yourself to prove to her that you’re this great dude and how lucky she should be.
If you truly like this woman and you want her in your life, show her that you are worthy; don’t just tell her that.
9. Commenting negatively on her outfit
You asked her out because you liked her and if she said yes, it doesn’t mean that you automatically have the right to comment negatively on her outfit.
Of course, you’re entitled to your own opinion, but telling her that she should have covered up more or showed more skin is none of your business.
This is one of the extremely bad dating behaviors you shouldn’t indulge in if you really like this girl.