A breakup is one of the most painful experiences anyone can go through. It can break even the toughest heart.
Your heart can’t take this much agony and you only hope for him to come back.
The breakup happened after so much effort and time was put into your relationship.
You imagined how you two would grow old next to each other. You wanted to have kids together!
The only thing that is on your mind these days is sorting things out with him and getting back together.
However, he doesn’t seem too enthusiastic about it. Is this really the end?
Is he actually moving on or does he just need more time to figure things out? What if he doesn’t want to get back together?
There are signs you can look out for when you’re trying to figure out whether you and your ex are going to get back together or not.
If any of these signs apply to the way your ex has been treating you or behaving toward you, then you won’t get back together.
I know that it’s heartbreaking, but you need to know the truth.
1. He doesn’t contact you first
A sign that your ex wants you back is when he continues to contact you in various ways because he can’t stay away from you.
However, if he doesn’t even try to contact you after you break up, things look a bit different, especially if you’re always the one to initiate conversations.
He’s being polite by replying to you, but he never contacts you first.
He doesn’t feel the need to talk to you or to know how you’ve been doing. That’s why he never reaches out first.
You always have to send the first text or call after days of no communication. He may well have already moved on.
2. He doesn’t invite you to hang out
A very clear sign that your ex has moved on and doesn’t want to get back together with you is when he doesn’t invite you to hang out anymore.
Even if he’s going out with your mutual friends, he doesn’t mention it.
Of course, if your ex still wants to try and rebuild your relationship, he will want you around.
If he doesn’t initiate seeing each other, the message is quite clear.
Even if we don’t want it to be true, social media has a huge impact on our relationship nowadays.
Because of that, if your ex chooses to unfollow you on Instagram or block you on other social media accounts, it can only mean one thing.
Even in the no contact period, you can still follow each other and see each other’s posts.
However, if he decides to block you, then all contact has been cut off.
He’s doing this to put a not-so-subtle barrier between you two. It’s his way of cutting off all contact with you and moving on with his life.
4. He demands all his stuff back
Of course, during a relationship, we tend to borrow things from our partner, we get gifts from them and all of that stuff is precious.
Your ex knows that already.
If he brought you your stuff back and demanded to get his things back too, then his mind is made up.
He wants to remove all reminders of you from his life and he wants you to do the same.
He doesn’t want to have his stuff at your place anymore. It’s his way of removing himself from your life and removing you from his.
If he wanted to get back together with you, he wouldn’t ask for his stuff back.
He would let you keep it for a while so he’d know he’s safe to return whenever he wants.
5. When you do talk, he’s friendly
When you see your ex on the street, he’ll come up and say hi, but that’s about it.
He’ll generally ask you about your day and if you’ve been doing all right. However, he doesn’t bother to ask deeper questions.
You want to ask him to meet up and talk about your relationship again, you want to know if he’s dating anyone, but he continues to just be friendly with you.
He wants to be kind toward you, so he doesn’t push you away, but you can see that he’s hesitant.
6. He isn’t jealous
When you do happen to see each other again, he doesn’t seem bothered if you’re dating someone new.
He genuinely seems happy for you and wishes you the best of luck.
If he wanted to get back together with you, you would see the jealousy and the sadness in his eyes.
However, he doesn’t show either. He truly seems happy for you.
He might even ask you if your new guy’s treating you well and will reassure you that he will love you dearly.
Someone who wants to get back together with you doesn’t do this sort of thing.
7. He doesn’t make an effort to get you back
If he wanted to get back together with you, he would have made a move. He would have come to you and begged you to take him back.
It doesn’t matter what the reason for your breakup was, a man who wants you back in his life will make an effort.
On the other hand, a man who wants to move on with his life without you won’t make that effort.
A clear sign you two won’t get back together is if he doesn’t reach out at all. He doesn’t seem to mind the fact that you have broken up.
8. He doesn’t flirt with you
When you’re in a setting where you can talk to each other for a bit longer, you see that he doesn’t flirt with you.
Even when you try to flirt with him, he only laughs or changes the subject. He doesn’t reciprocate.
When you text him, he’s just being nice, but never flirty. It drives you crazy, but it’s a sign of the thing you fear the most.
If he doesn’t even try to flirt with you, you two won’t get back together.
9. He already has someone else
Of course, you might think that your ex will start a relationship to make you jealous. Somehow, many people think that this is a way to get your ex back.
However, it has been quite some time since he’s been with her. They really seem happy together.
Another sign that he won’t come back to you is if he’s engaged or if he got married.
A man doesn’t commit to another woman like this just for show. He loves this other woman and is with her now. He has moved on.
And you should too.