You’re going through a hard time right now. Your chest feels like it will explode at any moment, with all the pain you’re feeling.
It’s kind of impossible to see past the hurt you’re feeling and you’re sure it has taken you so long to try and move on that you are starting to give up.
Isn’t it easier to dwell on the pain forever?
Believe me when I tell you that you will heal. You will go through all this and you will come out stronger than ever.
He’s gone from your life and he might never come back.
What does that mean for your broken heart? What will it feel like in a few years from now if you’ve been hurting for so long already?
You’ll remember your own value and that nothing lasts forever, and the pain will fade away.
For now, you need a few gentle reminders to get you through the hardest parts of recovery, so that why I’m here.
1. You are not weak for crying
People tend to believe that crying is a sign of weakness. Everyone tells you to stop crying because of him, that you should be stronger than that.
You are so strong for being vulnerable and showing your true feelings.
You shouldn’t let anyone tell you what you should feel right now because you need time to cry your pain away.
We can’t lie to ourself and say that crying doesn’t make us feel better, as it makes our chest feel lighter.
You are fully allowed to cry and to take your time healing. Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise.
2. You can’t control who stays and leaves
I know that life would be much easier if we could control who stays in our life, but sometimes life isn’t that kind to us.
We all need a gentle reminder that we can’t control how other people feel, no matter how much we would love to.
You shouldn’t want to get him back because he made the conscious decision to move on and walk out of your life.
You couldn’t stop him, no matter how hard you tried. His decision was made. He knew how much heartache you’d experience and he still chose to leave.
3. Let go
I’ll leave this here as a reminder that you need to let go. You won’t be able to move on with your life unless you do this.
It’s easier to hold onto emotions and memories, like they’re the only things making you feel safe right now.
Your memories give you a sense of security because they’re a reminder of a happier time for you.
You don’t have to forget everything that happened, you don’t have to forget the beautiful time you spent together, but you have to let go of the person you associate these memories with.
You need to let go of him. Your memories will bring back a sense of hurt even years after you’ve recovered, but that’s normal.
What isn’t OK is the fact that you’re emotionally holding onto the person. Just let go. He isn’t worth it.
4. You need to communicate
Please don’t close off from the people around you. Please don’t let all those emotions bottle up inside you.
They will come haunting you when you’re all alone and you won’t know how to handle them.
You need to communicate your emotions. You have to talk to people about how you feel and let yourself be human.
Your friends and family are worried about you. Don’t let them see you like this.
Let these people help you because they know that you’re going through a hard time.
5. Take care of your health
When your healing process takes too long, you forget to take care of your health.
We all tend to become a bit self-destructive. We will forget to eat or we’ll eat junk food.
I know that ice cream seems like the best thing to help you mend your broken heart, but please make a proper meal for yourself.
Your mental health will become better the more you start taking care of yourself because you will realize that you can look after yourself.
You don’t need anyone else to take care of you. You can do it perfectly fine yourself.
Please eat a healthy meal, full of necessary nutrients, and drink water instead of wine.
Go out for a walk or a run, stretch a little bit, as your body needs the love right now.
6. You are worthy of love
Break-ups can make us believe that we aren’t worthy of love or that we won’t ever find love again.
You have been left to fight on your own and the first thing that you thought of was that you deserved this pain.
You might have even brought yourself to think that you simply aren’t lovable. Let me tell you that this isn’t true.
Every single person in this world is deserving of love, and that includes you.
You deserve to be loved and treated the way you always dreamed of. You are worthy of being loved and that will never change.
7. You will be able to trust again
Yeah, you’ve lost your ability to trust people. You trusted your fragile heart in the hands of someone who you thought would keep it safe forever.
But what did he do? He shattered it into millions of little pieces without a second thought.
So why should you trust people? Well, not everyone is the same. Not everyone will be like this in your life.
I know it’s tough right now. It seems easier to put up your walls again and hide from everyone.
The right person will show you that they can be trusted, no matter how long it takes them to gain your trust.
8. If it was meant to be, it wouldn’t hurt this much
You thought that he was the one and you’re still so certain of it.
Even though his absence hurts like hell, you still believe that he was the one you were supposed to spend eternity with.
Let me tell you that the one will never make you feel like this.
The person who’s meant to love you forever will never let you hurt because of their absence.
Your forever person won’t let you cry without them being there to console you. If he was actually the one, you wouldn’t be this heartbroken.
9. There is someone out there who will love you with their entire heart and never leave you
I know it sounds like the biggest cliché out there. Like everything you’ve been told by the people in your life too many times.
This is your gentle reminder that it’s true. You will be loved more than you ever thought possible.
This person will show you that there is no one more precious to them than you are.
You won’t ever doubt them and they will never hurt you this much.
The only thing you have to do is heal and move on from your past relationship, to be able to let this person find you.
You will love again and you will be loved again.