You have read about men with commitment issues before and every single time, the signs seemed too obvious.
You know that when a man tells you he doesn’t want to get married, he actually means it and it’s just a heartbreak waiting to happen.
However, what happens when you’re not able to see these big signs? Something still feels wrong!
He’s not telling you he doesn’t want to get married, but he’s dragging it out.
You feel like commitment isn’t something he’s made for, but you’re still not losing hope!
So even if you do try to deny the fact that he doesn’t want to commit, here are all the undeniable signs he’s still not ready to put a ring on it:
1. He still mentions his ex-girlfriend
In the beginning, you just thought that he was heartbroken and he needed time to recover from his last relationship.
Now when you look back on it, it’s really not healthy.
Does he still love her? Does he see you as a rebound even after all this time you’ve spent together?
Even if he doesn’t love her anymore and he thinks that you’re the one for him, he’s not ready to commit.
No one should be starting a new relationship if they’re not over their ex, so the fact that he’s been finding all kinds of excuses to bring her up is just a red flag.
You don’t deserve to be compared to someone from his past. If he’s not ready to move on from her, then he’s not ready for you.
2. He doesn’t commit to other things in his life
A very obvious and undeniable sign he’s not ready to commit to you is the fact that he’s not ready to commit to any other part of his life.
Does he change jobs quite frequently? Does he change his phone too often? Even his friend groups?
He simply can’t seem to commit to one thing and it’s starting to bother you.
First of all, commitment brings you the feeling of security.
So when a man avoids committing to anything, you are able to spot it. The sad truth is that he isn’t able to commit to you either.
3. He has higher standards for your behavior than for his own
A clear sign that a man isn’t ready to commit is when his standards for you are too high, while he slacks off.
He wants you to always look put together, but he doesn’t mind going out in the same things he wore yesterday.
He might even go as far as to ask you to ditch your friends for him, but he would never do the same thing in return.
You feel like you’re at a constant low because you’re putting in so much effort, without it being reciprocated.
He always tells you that if you don’t want to do something for him, then he doesn’t need you in his life.
This is manipulation, but it’s also because of the fact that he has crippling commitment issues.
4. He shuts down when you bring up a problem
Whenever you want to confront him about an issue that you have been facing in your relationship, he shuts down.
He leaves the room, says you are worrying too much, or even calls you annoying.
You are a caring woman who wants to make things work, but how are you supposed to do that if he behaves like this?
He doesn’t like uncomfortable situations because they make him think this is too real and his fight or flight response is activated.
He doesn’t want to confront you, because it’ll mean that he cares too much and that is scary to him.
If your man actually avoids confrontation like the plague then he truly has commitment issues.
5. He doesn’t want you to meet his family
A man afraid of commitment will do anything to prevent you from becoming a constant in his life.
Because of that, he will find any plausible excuse to keep you away from his family and his close friends.
He’ll cover up this fact by telling you that he thinks it’s just too soon or that his parents don’t want to meet you, but the truth is that he’s avoiding it.
You shouldn’t be too harsh on yourself with this, as it’s not your fault. You are good enough.
It’s him who should be worried, because you’re not going to wait around forever.
6. He says you’re pressuring him about the dumbest things
Whenever you try to bring up a conversation about your future, he freaks out and tells you that you’re pressuring him.
He says that you’re annoying for bringing it up again, even if it’s just something like moving in together.
If you’ve been together for quite some time, then it shouldn’t be an issue.
He shouldn’t feel pressured to do basic things for you, like be romantic and communicate.
Pressuring him would be something like you threatening to leave him if he doesn’t do certain things for you.
However, asking for a normal conversation about your future shouldn’t be that big of a deal.
7. He doesn’t make plans for the future with you
On that note, his commitment issues are most obvious when he avoids making future plans with you.
Whenever you want to talk about plans for your future, he tells you that it’s too early to think about it.
He might even go as far as to say, “Who knows if we’re going to be together by then, people change.” This is a huge red flag that you should be looking out for.
8. He doesn’t come to you for advice
When you truly love someone, your first instinct is to want to talk to them when something bad happens. He doesn’t seem to want that.
You will find out about issues in his life days after, when things are already settled.
You try to tell him how important it is for your relationship to share your hardships, but he keeps on ignoring you.
Instead, he looks for security in other people, rather than you.
If that doesn’t scream commitment issues, I don’t know what does.