With the things that have been happening in this world, I don’t think that you have time to waste anymore. If your relationship isn’t the fairy tale that you were hoping for then you should definitely dump him by the end of this year.
There are so many better things waiting for you in this world. Wasting your life on someone who’s not your Prince Charming is nothing less than torture.
You deserve so much better. So if you’re able to see any of these things in your current relationship, be prepared to pack your bags and simply walk out. You’re worthy of a pure love that makes you excited about life.
If your relationship actually contains the things listed below, consider it your wake-up call to get out of there ASAP.
1. You have the same arguments over and over again
How many times have you told him that you want to spend more time with him? And every single time, he makes promises that just evaporate the second you stop talking to him about it.
Then a few weeks later, you end up having precisely the same argument again. And again, you have to listen to his empty promises. At this point, you know things won’t get better.
Another example is when he continues to tell you what you can and can’t do with your life. Those arguments won’t just disappear. You’ll have to relive them constantly without ever finding an actual solution to them.
So let’s just go for the only option there is. You’ve tried everything, obviously, except breaking up. Face it, you’re just wasting your time.
2. You feel stuck
Life isn’t linear. It’s full of ups and downs and they all lead you into a more fulfilled life.
That’s why it’s so important to be with someone who will help you grow as a person. Someone who will always motivate you to become a better version of yourself.
When you feel stuck in your relationship, like it’s draining you, then you need to leave. You’re probably in a relationship with someone who makes you feel unmotivated to do anything. Like you’re stuck in one place and you can’t find a way out of the stagnant waters.
This will usually happen when you’re with someone who’s extremely lazy and doesn’t work on themselves, or doesn’t help you in any way, shape, or form. If this is the case, then it’s truly time to walk away.
3. You’ve been secretly interested in someone else
This one’s a no-brainer. You can’t be with someone if you’re interested in someone else. I’m sorry to say this, but it just doesn’t work like that. You’re cheating emotionally on your partner.
Even if that attraction is just physical and you haven’t done anything about it, how would you feel if you found out your partner was thinking these thoughts about someone other than you?
You would definitely hate for this to happen. So stop lying to your partner and to yourself. Leave that relationship – you have enough time to figure this out by the end of the year.
4. You’re scared to be alone
You need to learn how to be alone because otherwise, you will never be happy in your relationship. You’ll always depend on your partner and, even if you refuse to believe it, that’s a huge burden for them.
I’m not telling you to leave your partner just for this reason alone. But sometimes, we stay in relationships just because we can’t imagine being alone. In those situations, we settle for a mediocre love that has nothing to offer us.
You’re staying with someone who obviously isn’t right for you. That’s why it’s better to be alone than in an unfulfilling relationship.
5. You don’t feel respected
Your opinions don’t matter, your wants and dreams don’t matter, and you feel like you don’t matter. He obviously doesn’t respect you nor does he have any intention of changing his behavior.
Your partner is obviously taking advantage of your kindness. He feels like you’re going to stay by his side no matter what happens.
That’s the scariest thing in this entire world. You shouldn’t have to be with someone who so clearly doesn’t care about your wants, your needs, or making you feel heard.
Your partner doesn’t even listen to you when you want to compromise with him. It’s his way or the highway.
Well, listen, darling, you deserve so much better than that. Go find your happiness somewhere else. Because you sure won’t find it with this man.
6. He abuses you
There is no valid reason for you to stay with an abuser.
I know that many victims are bound to their abusers when they don’t even realize that they’re being abused.
But if you feel like you’re going crazy, if he touches you in ways that hurt you, and if he does things without your consent, then you really need to leave.
Get a restraining order. Go to therapy. There will be someone who will help you out once you decide to leave your abusive relationship. You shouldn’t have to endure this.
7. You’re happier when you’re not around him
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you dread seeing the person you’re in a relationship with? You feel like you’d rather not talk to him at all if you could.
Even when he comes to pick you up to go on a date, you feel like you’d rather spend time by yourself than with him.
Many of us face this issue.
When this happens, it actually means that you’re not in love with your partner anymore. You’re in a relationship out of convenience more than anything.
When you love someone, you can’t wait to spend time with them, even when you’re in a relationship with them for years.
So just the fact that you can’t endure his presence for too long and that you’d rather be elsewhere than spend time with him, says a lot about your emotional standpoint.
You need to leave him because this isn’t fair to either of you.
8. You can’t stand his touch
At one point or another, we all get less physically affectionate with our partners. That’s kind of understandable because the puppy-love stage of relationships doesn’t last forever.
But if you find yourself avoiding his touch, it means more than you’re ready to admit. You shouldn’t feel like this with your partner. You should want to be around them and hug them.
I know that many people don’t show affection this way, but they also aren’t repulsed by their partners’ touch.
If you are put off by his physical contact, that’s usually an indication of a mental strain between you and your partner. You can try to work this through, but you probably already have (or at least tried to).
So give yourself until the end of the year to find out what’s going on with you emotionally. If you can’t shake this feeling, then you can’t stay in a relationship with him.