Think aloud
At some point, we’ve all wanted to make a guy grow up and commit to us. Sometimes, we’ve all wondered whether that makes us selfish.
When you’re trying to make a guy commit to you and he doesn’t want that, it’s only going to hurt you more. That relationship won’t work out.
But what about those men who simply don’t know how to grow up and need a little push? There are so many of them who don’t even know what being committed to one person means.
Are you going to be the one to show him how to do that?
Of course, a woman isn’t and never will be a rehabilitation center for badly raised men. But love is stronger than that.
When you love him, you want to help him. You know that you’re not doing charity work, but you’re helping your partner.
You’re not obligated to do that, but you want to help. You want him to understand that growing up and being in a committed relationship aren’t bad things.
So if you want to help him become more mature so that you can be in a committed and loving relationship, here are some tips to do just that.
1. Ask him what it means to him
Sometimes it’s hard for a guy to recognize the boundaries we’ve created in our mind.
When you fear growing up, you don’t look forward to it, which is why you have to talk to him about this issue.
Men usually think that growing up means giving up their video games and that they have to stop seeing their friends. None of that is true!
We all have our own wants and needs and he doesn’t have to give his up.
However, growing up means holding yourself accountable for your own mistakes. It means understanding what your responsibilities are and working to be independent.
When he understands that he doesn’t have to leave the things he likes to be an adult, he’ll understand that it’s not that scary.
2. Show you understand him
The thing he needs the most right now is someone who understands him.
When he talks about his fears, don’t invalidate them, and show him that you’re there for him.
For someone who has run away from these things his entire life, he will only be confused by everything. So you need to be his support system, his shoulder to lean on.
You want to keep him in your life, so you have to prove that you won’t back away at the smallest problem.
This will also make him commit to you because no one understands him as well as you do.
No one knows what makes him tick, or his biggest dreams and fears, better than you.
He’ll cling to you and he’ll stay because he’ll know that you’re worth it.
3. Embrace your confidence
You might believe that men are more into submissive, sweet women, but that doesn’t mean that it’s true.
Embrace your confidence and be assertive! Let him know that you know what you want from your life.
If he wants to be a part of that, he has to know. He can’t be in a committed relationship with someone who’s unsure about their own future.
If you’re insecure about everything, how can you show him that growing up and commitment are good ideas?
Don’t hold back your opinions, wants, needs, or boundaries.
Let him see who you truly are and watch the way he falls in love with you with every breath.
4. Show him you need him
Let’s be honest, no woman needs a man in her life. You can want him for all he is, but you can just as well live without him.
But there is this hero complex each man has inside of them. They need to feel needed, so they can provide for you and help you.
You need to activate his hero complex by letting him help you.
You can ask him to assist with your studies or with a project you’re working on, or simply to help you repair something.
Men love to be of service, so when you tell him you need him, he will feel more like a man around you.
He’ll stop being a boy and he’ll be the man you need him to be – utterly in love with you, but still extremely manly.
5. Give him space
Space isn’t really something you want right now. You want to have him around all the time and never leave his side.
However, space is crucial for him to understand what it means to be a man and stop being a boy.
That same space will also help him understand how important you are to him.
When you give a man enough space instead of being clingy and whiny about it, he’ll come to you.
That time is needed for him to mature and understand his emotions better.
You can’t force those things in just a few weeks, so when he’s ready, he’ll reach out to you.
This also means that you need to create boundaries, so that you don’t wait around forever.
Make your boundaries clear and let him see that you mean business.
6. Have good relationships with his family members
It’s a huge sign of commitment when a guy invites you to meet his family. It’s also very special when he meets yours.
When you have good relationships with each other’s family, it means that things are going in the right direction.
He’s scared to let you meet them because that means that things are getting too serious for his liking.
However, when you show him that it’s nothing scary, he’ll understand what you meant when you said that commitment is beautiful.
Also, when he sees how comfortable you are with his parents, he’ll love you even more. He’ll make a move to grow up before you know it.
7. Make him earn it
When you grow up, you have to learn how to work for the things you want. Nothing is given freely.
Let him earn your commitment, let him earn having you in his life. Don’t let him have you easily just because you’re head over heels for him.
I know that playing hard to get is kind of going out of fashion but this isn’t the same thing!
You’re not playing games with him, you’re actually just showing him that you know your own worth.
So let him earn it. Let him work to obtain your heart and show him that there’s always something great at the end of working hard for it.
