We all know that the first kiss you two share and the moment he gets down on one knee and asks for your hand in marriage are important.
Those milestones make your relationship special and you appreciate them for the happy memories.
However, big moments like that are engraved in our mind as the most important parts of our relationship.
What if I told you that there are even more important milestones that we unintentionally move past without giving them the appreciation they deserve?
You and your partner have been through so much that you have moved past some of these so easily.
There are huge moments in your relationship that cast a shadow over the little things. You shouldn’t let that happen.
You need to look at the entire relationship. There are so many more important milestones. So let’s appreciate them for what they are.
1. The first apology after a fight
It’s normal for couples to disagree on things and have minor fights. Relationships are a lot of work, you and your partner know that.
However, let’s go back to the first argument and the first time one of you apologized afterward.
You were so exhausted from fighting with him and then he came around and apologized.
It brought a smile to your face, when he apologized, and you felt that weight drop from your chest.
You actually didn’t think that you two could get past it, but he surprised you.
This milestone should be remembered because you were vulnerable with each other. You made the effort to move past your mistakes.
He made sure to show you that he still cared enough. How is this not the perfect milestone to remember?
2. The first time you cried in front of each other
You might not remember the reason why you cried back then, but you must remember his face.
He looked crushed by the fact that he had to see you so sad.
He wanted to protect you from all the evil in this world, but there you were in front of him, with tears streaming down your face.
However, the first time he cried in front of you must have been even more painful. Men don’t cry that often. They are taught to hide their feelings.
Seeing a man cry is heartbreaking. You can remember the reason why he cried, the way his face contorted in pain, and the way your chest constricted.
You remember that milestone clearly. It is that important! You should remember it.
3. The first picture you posted together
You might not even think twice about posting a picture of your partner today, but back then, it was a huge deal.
When you start to date someone, the first picture you post together is very important.
It’s a huge milestone for your relationship because the photo is out there for everyone to see.
You and your boyfriend might not even think much of it; you were cute, you announced the relationship.
However, it is a big deal. It’s a milestone for the both of you because you literally went public with your relationship for everyone to see.
4. The first time he went to you for advice
When the puppy love stage of a relationship is happening, you see everything through rose-colored glasses.
Your relationship is all about laughter, stolen glances, and hand-holding. However, the real world is still out there.
A very important milestone in your relationship is when he comes to you for advice for the first time.
This is when you truly realize your importance in his life.
Your relationship is more than just giggles and kisses.
This is when it gets real. He asks for your support, your opinion. He asks you to be the shoulder he can cry on.
You shouldn’t move past this milestone without acknowledging the meaning behind an act that might seem simple at first.
5. The first time you got mad at him
When you’re in love, you let certain things slide because you are too scared to lose this person.
However, it is a very important milestone when you actually do get mad at him.
You had enough trust in your relationship to go up to him and call him out on the things he did wrong.
Your heart was beating so fast, first out of frustration, but also out of the fear that he might interpret it in the wrong way.
You had never fought before, so you didn’t know how your boyfriend would react.
That’s why this is also an extremely important milestone in your relationship.
6. Talking about your ex-partners
At the very beginning of the relationship, you might feel extremely uncomfortable asking each other about your exes.
Ex partners are a sensitive topic.
When the relationship progresses and you get to a point where you trust each other enough, the conversation will happen naturally.
We have all talked about our exes with our partner, but it never seemed like something important. However, it is a huge milestone for both of you.
You got immediate insight into your partner’s life before you came along. This is a huge sign of trust and the seriousness of your relationship.
You shouldn’t look at this as something mediocre or unrelated to your happiness today.
It was a very serious moment in your relationship that could have broken you apart, but it didn’t.
7. Giving him a copy of your apartment key
How is this not a huge milestone? This happens further into your relationship and only if you two are extremely serious about things.
You shouldn’t move past this milestone like it’s nothing special, when in fact it is one of the most important moments in your relationship.
A copy of the key to your apartment is a clear indication of your love for the other person.
They now have the possibility of coming over whenever they want (as long as the boundaries are clear).
No big milestone in your relationship is more important than the other little ones.
The first time you exchange, ‘I love yous’ and the first big trip that you take might seem more special, but it’s the little things that build your relationship to where you’re at right now.
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