You should never lower your standards.
When you have been single for a long period of time, you start thinking that you are the problem.
You might think that your standards are too high or that you come off as too strong. It’s just too much for men to deal with so they don’t even try to.
All of this brings you into a very dark mental space, where you start to believe that you should lower your standards to please the men around you.
When you find yourself in this situation, you think that you should let go of your values and simply settle for less.
You find yourself looking longingly at your friends and their relationships. They seem happy and you envy them.
These are very toxic thoughts you are having and I am here to tell you that you should NEVER lower your standards.
You shouldn’t lower them for anyone, especially not a man. Not even when you have been feeling lonely for too long.
Here are a few reminders as to why you should NEVER lower your standards, just in case you need them.
1. High standards help you stay away from toxic relationships
Be honest with yourself; how many times have you seen a woman in a toxic relationship just because she lowered her standards for a man?
Your standards keep you far away from the people who aren’t good for you.
They have saved you from awful experiences and a lot of heartbreak. Just because you’re lonely, you shouldn’t want to stay in a toxic relationship.
Be proud of yourself and your high standards, because they helped you figure out whether someone would love you and treat you the way you deserve.
Don’t let yourself believe that your loneliness is a good enough reason to lower your standards.
2. You should never lower your standards because there is someone out there who is worthy of you
Yes, there is. There is someone who will love you wholeheartedly.
Just because you have to wait for them a little while longer, don’t lose your faith. Don’t let yourself get stuck in a loveless relationship.
There is someone worthy of you out there. That person will meet your standards perfectly.
He will understand that you can’t and don’t want to lower your standards for someone else and he will meet them without uttering a word.
He won’t even ask you to compromise them or call you high-maintenance.
This is someone who knows you’re worth showing that he really is someone who will do anything and everything to stay by your side.
You shouldn’t lower your standards, because there is someone who will meet them head-on.
3. You shouldn’t sacrifice your happiness
Lowering your standards means sacrificing your happiness in order to have someone mediocre by your side.
How can someone worthy and caring find you if you’re out there wasting your time on a man who doesn’t deserve you?
You will be miserable, sad, and broken, and will have to force a smile on your face.
All of this because you were too scared to wait just a little longer to find the right one.
Believe me when I tell you that you are sacrificing your own future happiness if you lower your standards for a man.
4. You should never lower your standards because you can learn a lot by being single
Keep your standards high and focus on yourself. There is so much you can learn by being single.
Everything you wish you could do with the love of your life you can just as easily do by yourself.
Treat yourself to all the things you want to do in your life. Spoil yourself.
No one is telling you to stop dating. You can date and still enjoy your single life.
Be open to meeting new people, but just don’t lower your standards for someone who is almost good enough.
Find out what you want and what you don’t want in a relationship so you can have that dream-like romance you were always hoping for.
5. No one’s path is the same
Your friends are getting engaged and married. You are always the bridesmaid and that simply doesn’t sit right with you.
You want to be the one wearing that white wedding dress and walking down the aisle.
Is it really that hard to find someone suitable for spending the rest of your life with?
That’s exactly it; why would you want to hurry up the process of finding someone suitable for yourself and lower your standards just because everyone around you is getting married?
Everyone’s path is different. Your friends may have found the loves of their lives, but you don’t have to lower your standards just to settle for anyone.
You are on your own path and that is more than enough.
6. There is nothing wrong with being picky
Is everyone telling you that you’re still single because you’re picky?
Does that bother you? Let me tell you that there is nothing wrong with being picky!
So what if you look to see whether he has basic hygiene standards, works out to maintain his health, and if he will remember to buy you flowers every once in a while?
If your friends think that your standards are too high or that you’re picky because of this, then that’s their problem, not yours.
Being picky only means that you are saving yourself from a heartbreak and you’re looking for the real deal, not just a quick fix for your loneliness.
7. Your time is valuable, so don’t waste it
Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t able to see your worth or someone who isn’t able to meet your standards.
We only have this one life and it’s limited. Do you want to spend it miserable in the arms of someone who doesn’t know how to love you properly?
Or do you want to spend this lifetime in the arms of a man who knows that you deserve the world?
Don’t waste this one opportunity you have been given to find true love.
It’s better to wait and spend time working on yourself so that you can receive the love you deserve once it appears in your life.