For most people, it’s quite hard to forget about their ex and move on. After all, we’re talking about a man you spent a large chunk of your time with.
That’s why you shouldn’t be surprised if you have recurring dreams about your ex.
Perhaps this can motivate you to keep a dream journal and dive more into dream analysis.
I understand that it may be hard for you to let go of your past even though you’re in a new relationship right now. And it’s understandable that you may feel guilty for dreaming about your ex.
But take a step back and calm down. You’re not alone in this, you know. Many women go through this even though they’re not ready to admit it.
Be that as it may, dreaming about your ex can have multiple meanings – from feeling anxious about your current and future relationships to some unresolved issues.
I hope that this article brings you clarity as we go through a couple of reasons this may be happening to you.
1. You need closure
Many people don’t realize that the need for closure is deeply embedded into our psyche. Whenever you get your heart broken by someone, you need to go through a process of accepting it and moving on from that particular person.
If you’re unable to accept what happened and you keep questioning what went wrong and who is to blame for the breakup, you’ll never be able to enjoy life.
The need for closure will be your only goal and it’ll be ingrained into your subconscious. As a result, you’ll start dreaming about your ex.
If those dreams keep repeating themselves, you may even get the feeling that your current partner isn’t enough for you.
2. You lack self-love
One of the reasons you’re dreaming about your ex could be that you’re actually breaking up with yourself.
Tell me this: Do you dream of reuniting with him even though you’re in a new relationship?
If so, then you’re probably having issues internally. Perhaps the relationship you have with yourself is suffering because you lack self-love.
You may not know it, but such dreams can definitely reflect your mental state.
In order to free yourself of that burden, you need to strengthen the bond you have with yourself. Do more stuff that satisfies your soul and spoil yourself. Be your best friend even though you have a boyfriend now.
3. You have unresolved feelings for your ex
The most common reason people dream about their exes is that they have some unresolved feelings for them.
Do you find it difficult to explain why you broke up with him in the first place? Or do you still think that things could have been better if he only knew how to express his feelings for you?
Maybe you think you’re crazy for thinking about your ex even if you have a new boyfriend, but once the unresolved feelings accumulate, they become part of your subconscious.
4. You have the need to reconnect with yourself after the breakup
Did you take enough time to heal before you jumped into a new relationship? Did those emotional scars heal before you let another man into your life?
A true indicator that you need to acknowledge your feelings and reconnect with yourself is when you’re dreaming about your ex.
If you’re feeling like you’re not the same person anymore or that you lost some parts of yourself in your previous relationship, then you should shift the focus from your new relationship to yourself.
It could be that you need to return to the things you used to do before your relationship with your ex. Trying to reconnect with your old self can be difficult and exhausting, but it’s the right thing to do in this kind of situation.
5. You’re afraid of being hurt again
Being hurt by someone you love can have a tremendous impact on your well-being. It damages both your emotional and mental state.
It’s a feeling that I don’t wish anyone to experience, but sadly it’s not something we can control.
So, if you have a new boyfriend and you’re dreaming about your ex, you might be scared of getting hurt by your current partner.
Perhaps you’re having lucid dreams about your ex and you can’t get rid of them. This is your subconscious’ way of trying to protect you from future heartbreaks.
6. You’re anxious about your new relationship
One of the obvious reasons you keep dreaming about your ex is that you’re feeling anxious and scared about your new relationship.
You don’t have to be a relationship expert to know that a bad breakup can cause you to be afraid about your current relationship or future ones.
For example, if you had an abusive ex and you keep having the same vivid dreams over and over again, then that means you have a fear of experiencing the same thing with your new boyfriend.
7. You’re not over your ex
Do you still check your ex’s social media profiles to see whether or not he’s dating someone new? Do you still think about him when you’re spending time with your current partner? On top of that, do you still have dreams about him?
If your answers are all yes, then this could be a sign that you’re still not over him. That’s why he’s been haunting you in your dreams for weeks.
Your best option would be to take some time and consider whether or not you should end things with your current man.