Do you ever feel like all of your relationships suck and you can’t seem to find the right person? I know modern dating is hard these days and it’s even harder trying to find your soulmate.
At times, it will feel like an impossible mission. If you’re constantly reaching a dead end with your partners, there may be something wrong with you.
This thought never crossed your mind because all of your previous boyfriends were kind of toxic. However, there might be a problem within you waiting to be revealed.
I’m not saying this is one hundred percent true. Still, there’s a chance you’re doing something that ruins all of your relationships.
Jumping from one to another relationship all the time isn’t a permanent solution. You’ll always be unsatisfied with how things turn out unless you get to the core of the problem.
A relationship involves two people and both need to put some effort in. You may feel like you’re not trying enough and it could be true.
It’s important not to let the burden of keeping the relationship alive fall onto your partner’s shoulders. Believe it or not, there are a few reasons that explain why all of your relationships suck.
1. You’re insecure
When we’re flooded with our insecurities, they can have a bad impact on us. It doesn’t affect just you, but everyone surrounding you, especially your lover.
If you can’t work on your insecurities, they will start to get a hold of your life in general. And these problems won’t miss your romantic life as well.
Perhaps you’re always blaming your partner for feeling a certain type of way when they have nothing to do with it.
Most of the time, you’re too afraid to make a move or get out of your comfort zone. This can heavily impact your relationship and put a strain on it.
Remember that although your partner should be supportive, he isn’t supposed to be your shrink. Don’t let these fixable insecurities be one of the reasons why all of your relationships suck.
2. You’re controlling
Maybe you’re getting the idea to take matters into your own hands. You constantly hear those encouraging stories of girls standing up for themselves.
However, there’s a thin line between being confident and controlling. It’s easy to get carried away and start acting bossy.
If you’re trying to control everything your partner does, it will most definitely affect your relationship. Try to reflect on your actions and see where you went wrong.
No one likes being told what to do. Maybe you’re too controlling and you don’t know it’s the reason all of your relationships suck.
3. You’re jealous
This is one of those moments where you think I’m nothing like that! I think we’ve all been there and done that – denied the facts.
Jealousy is something that can eventually break people up. A healthy amount of jealousy shouldn’t cause any problems, but what happens if you overdo it?
Some partners may think it’s cute you care so much about them. Others, not really. Most people will feel like you don’t trust them if you’re always acting jealous.
This can lead to various problems in your relationship. If you’re the jealous type, it’s possible that’s why all of your relationships suck.
4. You’re afraid of being alone
Sadly, I believe we all know this feeling. People want someone they can share their life with and someone who will stick by their side no matter what.
If you’re scared of ending up alone, you may cling to your partner for dear life. Once again, this might be a desirable behavior to some.
For others, it can come off as too needy and clingy. In some cases, your partner can feel like you’re smothering him.
That’s why it’s possible that the relationship will be a disaster. Some people don’t appreciate you holding onto them so tightly, literally.
5. You’re comparing your relationships and partners
I don’t think there’s really anything worse than doing this to yourself and your partner. You can’t possibly try to compare two different relationships and people.
You can, but it’ll end up a catastrophe. Once you realize your current boyfriend is nothing like your ex, you might be disappointed.
Perhaps you’ll be thrilled about it even. But what if your boyfriend finds out about this little game of yours?
He’ll probably feel insulted and hurt. If this behavior continues on for a long time and on a deeper level, all of your relationships will suck and end up in tears.
6. You don’t love yourself
Have you ever thought about why is it so hard to love another person? There have been a couple of partners in your life, but you never felt it was something special?
All of your relationships went downhill and you got the idea that you’re simply unlovable. Why? There’s probably something you’re doing wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.
When you can’t love yourself, others will have a hard time doing so. Maybe your previous partners tried to help you out and give you unconditional love, but you refused every time.
This is something most people do subconsciously because they still haven’t learned how to appreciate themselves. If you don’t improve on that level, there’s no guarantee that all of your future relationships won’t suck.
7. You’re unable to express yourself
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Oftentimes, people will come across different obstacles in a relationship just because they lack proper communication skills.
Perhaps you knew this already, but you never had the guts to confront someone and talk about your problems.
If you’re having trouble coming face to face with your partner about something that’s bothering you, it’s a problem. But, it’s one that can be avoided.
It sucks when you can’t voice your thoughts and opinions to the one you love the most. You should ask yourself whether you trust your boyfriend enough to share some of your secrets with him.
On the other hand, maybe you just don’t know what approach would be the best option.
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