The exciting feeling of being in a new, fresh relationship can be thrilling and it can make you ignore every little clue that something is off.
You are preoccupied with the ‘love of your life’ to the point where you reject your own feelings and emotions.
Still, deep down, you know that something isn’t right.
You want to convince yourself that your new relationship is in a great state but subconsciously, you realize that things may be moving too fast.
Moving too fast doesn’t have to be a bad thing. For some couples, it is the only acceptable way.
However, if your gut feeling tells you that you are not completely satisfied with the pace things are progressing, then it’s a good time to stop and think about it.
You are the only one who knows the pace that works for you. Still, sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint what bothers you the most.
A new relationship can feel greatly exciting so it can be hard to tell what is wrong.
However, if you listen to your heart which is telling you that you have to slow down, then you are aware that things are going too fast.
Look out for the following signs as they can prove what you’ve already felt.
1. You spend too much time together
The beginning of a relationship is the most beautiful part of it.
You are falling head over heels, you blush when you see him and, you are constantly thinking about him.
On top of it, this is the stage where the two of you are getting to know each other better. Everything is so new and fresh that it seems just perfect.
However, here comes the first red flag – you two are always together. Sometimes, it even feels like the two of you are tied by an umbilical cord.
It seems like you spend two-thirds of the day together. Multiply that by every day, and you will get a huge number of hours.
That is not a healthy pace for a new relationship.
It is important to spend some time together so you can get to know each other better, but if you are taking each other everywhere you go, then your relationship is moving too fast.
Being in a new relationship can make us forget about the life that we had before it.
We tend to dedicate our time to our new partner which can be too much in the beginning.
If he constantly invites you to go out with him and you feel uncomfortable with it, then things are moving too fast.
You are at the very beginning of your relationship and you will have all the time in the world to experience amazing things together.
If you rush things quicker than the pace you are comfortable with, it won’t make you fall for him faster. Instead, it can only make you lose interest in him faster.
2. You feel an urge to constantly communicate
Even if you two are not physically together, you still text and chat like you don’t want to miss a thing that is going on in his life.
Remember that lessening the amount of communication doesn’t lead to an immediate loss of interest.
If you are scared that it will eventually lead to this, then you may be in the wrong relationship.
If you are overwhelmed by the amount of communication that is going on but still can’t fight the temptation to text him, then you are moving too fast.
You feel wrong for doing it, but it’s hard to stop it, as your fear of losing him is stronger than the will to make yourself happy.
3. You’re 100% sure that he is perfect
The honeymoon stage of the relationship is all about showing love, and giving and receiving attention.
You feel loved to the point where you are convinced that your partner is perfect. This is a huge red flag that things are moving too fast.
Your rational thinking is overtaken by the blind feeling of love. You naively believe that things will always be this way. Unfortunately, that’s not the case.
I’m not saying that the love will disappear. I’m just saying that beginnings are like freshly-picked flowers – as time passes, they fade away.
They are still beautiful when they dry out, but they are not the way they looked at the very beginning.
It’s the same with a relationship. You can’t say that someone is perfect at the very beginning of it before you have even had your first fight.
There is no such thing as perfection, and to delusionally make yourself feel that way only means that you are taking things too fast.
Wait to see his flaws and to get to know him at his worst. When that passes, you can freely say that he is perfect, just the way he is.
Thinking that he is perfect when conditions are ideal means that you are fooling yourself.
This can backfire on you. Try to slow things down and engage in a pace that you are comfortable with.
4. You’ve already met his family
Every relationship needs to cross the milestone of meeting each other’s family.
However, if you are fresh into the relationship and you have already met his parents and close family members, then things may be going too fast.
If he pressured you to, even though you felt that you were not ready to take such a big step, you should explain your boundaries to your partner.
You should never feel uncomfortable in your own relationship.
You have every right to say what bothers you, even if it’s about meeting his family. Rushing things won’t be good for anyone.
It can leave a bad impression on his family and it can make you lose interest in the relationship.
5. You’ve already planned your future
When you are head over heels for someone, it can be hard to make a distinction between the right way and an excessive way.
Planning a future together is a huge step in every relationship and it can be both exciting and terrifying.
However, if you start making important life decisions at the very beginning of a relationship, then it’s time to slow things down.
Major life events like moving in together, buying a house, or getting married shouldn’t be discussed at the very beginning of a relationship.
It’s too early to talk about important life decisions when you are still not completely sure about your feelings.
Slow down, as you have enough time to talk about those things. Rushing into anything won’t give you an advantage. It can only mislead you off the path.
6. You feel stuck
If you feel like you are stuck in a place where you don’t feel comfortable, it probably means that your relationship is moving too fast.
All the huge decisions, like meeting his family, or spending so much time together, have an effect on you.
When you start asking yourself where this will take you, it is the right time to stop and slow the pace down.
You should feel comfortable in a relationship. Everything else is less important.
If your gut feeling tells you that something is off, then something is really off.
Listen to your feelings as they know when it is the right time to stop.
7. You have lost yourself
When you spend so much time with your partner, you end up losing yourself.
It’s a great thing to get to know him better, but fully dedicating your whole life to a new relationship is a big NO!
We all need time for ourself and your partner should never take this away from you.
When you constantly share your time with others, you feel lost and emotionally drained.
If you’ve forgotten about your friends, put aside your favorite hobby, or ignored your plan to read that amazing book, then your relationship is moving too fast.
Losing yourself in a relationship is a terrifying act of despair that can’t make you feel good, no matter how hard you try.
When you feel that your relationship is moving too fast, take a step back and press the pause button.
If you are not comfortable with it, a fast pace won’t improve the current state of your relationship.
Instead of sticking through it, come clean with your emotions and work on ways that could improve the pace of your relationship.
Moving too fast may work for some, but for others, it can feel like a burden. So, slow down and try to work out the issues at hand.
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