Even though your partner never touched the body of another woman, he still may be cheating on you. His behavior can cross the line and turn into emotional cheating the moment he starts making a deep emotional connection with another woman.
In this case, he may never kiss her lips or keep her bed warm, but still, you can call him a cheater.
I’m sure you’re wondering how this could be possible. What’s emotional cheating all about and what does it mean that he’s having an emotional affair?
Well, here are all the warning signs that will expose your partner. If you see any of these, then chances are he’s already crossed the line, despite never even holding the other woman’s hand.
1. He complains about you to the other woman
First of all, if he does this, he’s being disrespectful. Second of all, confiding to another woman about your current partner certainly signifies that the line has been crossed and it should be seen as emotional cheating.
You’re the only person he should complain to. If something’s bugging him, then he should let you know.
Choosing to talk about you with another woman is rude and certainly isn’t the way healthy relationships function. You’re his partner and no one else should know the issues you face apart from the two of you.
2. He emotionally shuts you out
Once upon a time, you were his best friend. You were his partner and the woman he confided in.
You knew about all of his issues and you talked about everything. There wasn’t a day where you didn’t at least touch base.
Now, things have completely changed. From the guy who used to share everything with you, he turned into someone who stays quiet whenever you’re around him.
Your conversations have turned into pointless talks about the weather or the fact that someone should take the trash out. That’s all you get.
It’s obvious that he’s sharing his deep thoughts with someone else instead of you. He found your replacement and even though you know for certain that he never touched another woman, you suspect his good friend Amy is a bit more than just a friend.
It’s likely that he’s emotionally cheating on you as the other woman has taken over all of the roles you used to play in his life.
3. He doesn’t invite you to hang out with your mutual friends
Once upon a time, your partner used to invite you to hang out with friends. Sometimes, he went alone but more than often, he took you with him.
Lately, everything’s changed and now he no longer takes you out with them. It’s like someone else took your place or he’s making sure that he’s not seen with you.
This is weird, to say the least, and something’s sure off about it. I mean, if you’ve been his companion for a long time and now he doesn’t even bother to invite you out, it’s clear that something has changed.
And the fact that he could be emotionally cheating on you explains everything.
4. He gets defensive
Every time you try to have a talk with him, your partner gets defensive. I know that we all want to protect ourselves, but take it as a red flag if he never used to act this way in the past.
All of a sudden, he’s started picking fights over every single thing you tell him. Even if it’s something meaningless and unimportant, he seems to be ready to defend himself.
It’s all got to the point where you can’t lead a normal conversation with him. Everything you say makes him edgy and he desperately tries to defend himself, even when you have no intention of accusing him of anything.
This behavior is suspicious and could mean that he’s doing everything in his power to hide something from you. His conscience is eating at him about his emotional affair with a woman he’s grown close to.
5. He keeps telling you to break up with him if you don’t like him as he is
He’s guilty of having an emotional affair with someone and he knows that. But at the same time, he can’t admit to you the mistake he’s made.
He can’t just approach you and let you know what’s going on. He’s not brave enough to do that.
So, every time you have an argument, he starts blame-shifting. He accuses you of how you don’t like him the way he is and how he can’t change for you.
He even goes as far as to tell you to break up with him since that’s actually what you want.
This, my friend, is called reverse psychology. He’s trying to make you do something he doesn’t have the guts for.
He doesn’t have enough courage to admit to you that he’s got feelings for someone else. It feels impossible to let you know that he’s been emotionally cheating on you for a while.
So, instead of being honest with you, he wants you to leave him. That way, you’d be responsible for the breakup.
Most of the issues he’s facing would be solved if you just walked away from him. That’s why he keeps telling you to break up with him if you can’t accept him as he is since he desperately wants to see your back.
6. He lies to you
Whenever he’s about to meet with this other woman, he lies to you about the reason he’s heading out. Even if you know about her, you certainly know her as a friend and nothing more.
From what he’s telling you, she’s only an acquaintance and nothing more. They barely talk and they never see each other all alone.
It could all be a cover-up, especially if you caught him lying. And if you caught him once, then know that he’ll keep repeating that behavior.
And when he hides her from you, it’s already way too obvious that something’s fishy. Emotional cheating feels like the only right explanation since he’s getting too close with this person who supposedly means nothing to him.
Something’s off and there’s no way you don’t see it. Stop wasting your time with him, as emotional cheating easily turns into physical.
And once that happens, you’ll only be mad at yourself that you didn’t do something about it sooner.