You thought he was your soulmate. You were so sure that you’ve found the one.
Things just seemed to fall into place whenever he was there with you. People around you told you that they started to believe in love once they saw the two of you.
You might have been married to him, or you might have wanted to – either way, losing him made a huge impact on your life.
Despite for whatever reason you were forced to separate, you’re still sure that he’s your soulmate.
What does it mean when you lose your soulmate? What will happen to you now? Will you just continue your life like nothing ever happened or are you changed forever?
These questions can be answered quite easily. When you’re forced to separate from your soulmate, things are tough and this is what they usually look like.
1. You feel excruciating pain
You might think that I’m exaggerating, but when you’re forced to separate from your soulmate, it’s like a part of you has been torn away.
Yes, breakups are painful, but breaking up with your soulmate leaves you in excruciating pain.
You’re tied to your bed or even the floor. Your friends come around to check up on you, but no amount of ice-cream can make you forget.
The very moment he walked out of your life, it’s like your soul split into two.
It seems like it’ll never stop hurting. Your chest constricts, and you can’t tell if it’s from your broken heart or your heaving breaths.
It hurts so bad. Your soulmate has been separated from you.
2. You change completely
Pain changes people. Taking into consideration how much of it you have endured, it’s no surprise that you change.
When you look into the mirror, you see a whole new person looking right back at you.
Your outlook on life has changed, your self-esteem has changed, your values have changed.
They may not change at their core, but things were mostly different before you two broke up.
Sometimes, people go back to who they were before the breakup. Their hearts heal and their vision clears.
But there are those who become entirely new people.
Both of those scenarios are completely fine.
You’ve been broken by the person you call your soulmate – you have the full right to mend however you like.
3. Your opinion on love and relationships changes
One thing that happens quite often is that women swear off love for a little while after separating from their soulmate.
They believe that by doing so, they’re sparing their heart from more pain.
On the other hand, there are women who take a break from dating to heal.
It doesn’t matter in which group you belong, once you lose your soulmate, your opinion on love changes forever.
Once upon a time, you believed that love is forever, but now your mood sours at the thought of it.
Even the things you thought to be good for a relationship might have turned out to be complete flops.
This entire relationship has taught you a long list of valuable lessons that you’re going to bring along into your new relationship.
Your views on love will simply never be the same again.
4. You’ll love again, but it won’t be the same
If we continue along the same line that things will change in your life, we might as well talk about how no one will compare to him.
I know, you don’t want to hear it.
You want to believe that there is someone out there who will help you forget. Someone who will show you that your ex wasn’t your soulmate.
Sorry to disappoint you, but you don’t get more than one true romantic soulmate in your life.
Sometimes, we don’t end up with our soulmate and that hurts like hell. But it doesn’t mean that you’ll never love again.
You will, but it won’t be the same as loving your soulmate. It might be worse, but it could also be so much better.
Your soulmate has played his part in your life and you’ve learned things from it.
He taught you so much that now you can embrace that knowledge in a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
5. You’ll think of him
I know you want to forget him, but he will pop up in your head every once in a while – when you see something that reminds you of him or just randomly throughout the day.
You won’t be free of him. You want to forget him, you want to bury that part of your life because it hurts to think of him.
But he was someone very valuable to you. He was a very beautiful part of your life.
Once all the pain that you associate with him is gone, you’ll look back at those memories and think back to how good it felt.
You will think of him every once in a while, and it’ll happen when you least expect it, but it’ll be a nice memory to have.
Even when your heart skips a beat because of it.
6. You’ll become strangers
When it comes to your soulmate, you can either be lovers or strangers. There’s no in-between.
Having him around when you have history is like asking for a disaster to happen.
You could try to stay friends, but that’s doomed to fail because you have that powerful attraction between the two of you.
When you let go of a soulmate, you have to completely let go of him. Having just a little bit of him is impossible – soon enough you’ll want it all again.
Soulmate connections will never be able to reduce to friendships. It’s either all or nothing.
And I can promise you that even if you do believe you’ll be able to stay friends, he’ll be the one to make the first move to something more.
Soulmates aren’t created to stay friends with that much mutual attraction. It’ll literally hurt you to not touch him when he’s around.
Because of that, you’ll become strangers. It’ll hurt a while because he was a constant in your life. But in the long run, it’s for the better.