I am a firm believer that your partner should be your best friend. Many people like to argue that you should keep the two separate.
They believe that you should have a best friend so that you can vent to them about the things your partner doesn’t understand. Because of that, they see their partner as a lover and even though they might claim to love him, it’s quite obvious that they don’t really enjoy each other’s presence.
Yes, this statement might make many people angry. But when you don’t consider your partner your best friend, there might be some issues behind that.
For the vast majority of people, marrying their best friend guarantees a much happier life. There are actual reasons why you should make your partner your best friend.
Disclaimer: This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have any other friends. This just means that your partner is your best friend, even though you can have as many friends besides him as you please.
1. You can be your true self
When your partner isn’t your best friend at the same time, you can’t really show him who you truly are. You know the way we act when we just start seeing someone? We portray a much better version of ourselves to appeal to him.
When your partner is your best friend as well, you don’t have any reason to be self-conscious. You don’t have to pretend to like something just because your partner does, or avoid something because he doesn’t approve of it.
There’s no reason for you to feign indifference when you’re both in love with each other and your true selves.
Being the person you truly are without any reservations is the foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
You simply know that you two love everything about each other. Even the cringiest parts of each other and the darkest details of each other.
2. Your fights aren’t as damaging
Every single couple in this world fights over something. If they’re never fighting, then it’s a problem – it’s a sign that you’ve both given up on the relationship.
However, when you’re dating your best friend, you have no issue arguing and fighting about everything because you know that it won’t be as damaging.
You know that it won’t end up in an actual war zone where you’ll start throwing things around.
You’ve probably fought about stupid things before and now it’s just a natural thing to do. Not like you’re constantly arguing, but rather you feel more comfortable telling each other when something bothers you.
You feel free to tell your partner everything that you consider to be an issue because he won’t blow things out of proportion. How many other couples can say the same thing?
That’s exactly why your partner should also be your best friend.
3. You know almost everything about each other
You don’t have to tell them what toppings you want on your pizza – best friends already know. You don’t have to explain anything to them because they almost always know what you’re about to say.
Everyone around is always so confused because of all those inside jokes that you share – so much so that you actually get on their nerves.
This knowledge comes in handy if one of you ever thinks about doing anything weird or fishy. You’ll be able to read each other like the back of your hand because you understand each other’s behavioral patterns.
You know each other’s past dating experiences as well. You know what went wrong and what could have been done better.
Because of those experiences, you’ve helped each other out a lot and now you understand each other better than anyone else.
4. You have a lot in common
You don’t just become friends with someone because you like listening to their voice. To be someone’s actual friend, you two have to have things in common. That’s what I mean when I say that your partner should be your best friend.
You have to be able to suggest music to each other. You have to be able to watch movies together without one of you being bored to death.
Having things in common also means that you may shout for the same sports team, enjoy seeing the same shows, and so on. You can’t really do this when you don’t have any similarities with someone.
5. You can be childish with each other
How many times have you done something childish with your partner? If you only see him as your lover and nothing more, then you won’t be able to have fun together.
There are many people out there who don’t believe that you have to be childish with your partner to have fun, but sometimes, that’s exactly what you need. And who wouldn’t want to run and skip through the rain instead of walk?
When your partner is your best friend as well, that’s when you realize that embarrassment and shame aren’t important at all. The only thing that’s important is to have fun with each other and make fond memories together.
6. You can be completely honest with each other
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had to keep quiet about something because your partner might disapprove of it? This may include things like your opinion on certain controversial topics.
Other times you stayed quiet because you didn’t want to hurt his feelings, even though something he did or said was completely stupid.
When you’re dating your best friend, you don’t have to worry about any of those. You feel so much more confident telling him everything that bothers you and no opinion is brushed aside. You have the luxury of being totally honest.
This can only happen when you completely trust each other and you know that your partner won’t make things weird. If anything, he’ll take your opinion into consideration and actually talk about it.
Your partner really should be your best friend.