Truth be told, we all tend to think being single is a bad thing. We somehow believe that we’ll be incapable of happiness if we’re not in a relationship.
Sometimes, we fear this state so much that we jump from one relationship into another only because we can’t stand being alone.
I know that we rarely talk about this, but it’s important to know that you’re not the only one feeling this way. When that voice inside you keeps telling you that you must be with someone in order to be happy, you feel bad because you know it’s wrong.
And even though your relationship status has nothing to do with your happiness, I’ll give you a list of reasons you convince yourself of it. There’s actually an explanation for why we feel bad about being single.
1. You feel unlovable if someone doesn’t show you they love you
Sadly, most of us seek love in all of the wrong places. Instead of learning how to love ourselves, we get fixated on the idea that having a partner who shows you how much he loves you will make you feel better.
Your confidence goes up the second someone decides to willingly be in a relationship with you.
But the fact is, being in a relationship has nothing to do with your worth.
You can be an amazing person and your partner still can still choose to ignore that. He can still decide to put you down even though you’re an exquisite human being.
That’s why being in a relationship doesn’t make you any more lovable than being single. It’s the delusional lie we tell ourselves because we’re afraid of being alone.
Your worth has nothing to do with your relationship status and you should never measure it as such. End of the story.
2. You feel like you’re missing out on something
Wherever you look, you see happy couples. Most of your friends are in happy relationships and you truly feel like you’re missing out on something.
You open Instagram to get away from reality and all you can see are pictures of couples having the time of their lives.
And then, there you are, sitting in your room all alone wishing to be in a relationship only because you think that you’ll then finally be able to fit in. If you had a boyfriend, you wouldn’t feel left out and like you’re missing out.
The truth is that you have no idea what’s happening in the lives of all those people you’re envious of. Maybe they wish to live a life like yours.
The grass always appears greener on the other side, but it’s hardly ever the case. And that’s why you shouldn’t make judgments based on pictures and perceptions. No one’s life is perfect, but we can all easily pretend that it is.
So, don’t feel bad for being single just because you’re potentially missing out on something. The reality is probably way different than that, as many women are stuck in abusive relationships, unable to get out, while from the outside, their lives seem perfect.
3. Your family keeps pressuring you to find a partner
One of the reasons you may think being single is a bad thing is because of your family.
We all have those family members whose nose is always stuck in our private lives. They keep interrogating you with personal questions and as a result, they create this pressure to do something you probably don’t even want to.
When your aunt asks you for the hundredth time when you’re going to find a man, you start to believe that’s exactly what you should be doing.
In this case, the best option is to stay away from people who keep bashing you with all these personal questions. Ignore them or make them feel uncomfortable so they never ask you anything similar.
4. There’s a myth that people in relationships are happier
You can be in a relationship and feel drained of energy the same way you can be single and feel like you’re living your best life. Happiness isn’t measured by relationship status and it never will be.
You can be perfectly happy on your own the same way you can feel lonely in a relationship. There’s no rule that works for everyone because it all comes down to whether you have the right partner and at the right time.
If your time hasn’t come, then you can’t pressure yourself to be with someone just so you’re not lonely. You’ll end up with a boomerang effect, feeling worse than when you were single.
5. Being single makes you feel lonely
When you’re alone, you feel like everyone has someone except for you. This then makes you feel lonely and you start believing that the only way to escape this feeling is to be in a relationship.
In this case, you must realize that things won’t change if you pressure yourself to be with anyone just so you’re not single. If you’re not happy with your life right now, there’s no relationship that will make you feel differently.
You have to fix things on your own, be satisfied with where you’re standing, and only then can you keep searching for the love of your life. Any other order of things will still end up feeling wrong.
6. You’re at an age where you feel like you should settle down
Finally, you may be feeling bad for being single because you’ve reached a certain age that society says is the time to settle down.
Maybe all of your friends are in serious relationships or getting married and you’re the only one single. The pressure makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong and that you should find someone as soon as possible.
You start to imagine your life as a meaningless event if you don’t find a man who’ll love you enough to be in a relationship with you.
But the sooner you realize there are no limitations when it comes to age and relationships, the happier you’ll be. You can never be too old for real love. But you can always rush yourself into a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.