Breakups are always hard. They are even harder when you feel that some things are left unsaid.
You still believe that you and your ex have the potential to succeed but some things have come in-between you and now the two of you are apart.
You are constantly thinking about how to get back together and how to rekindle your relationship but you have no idea what to do.
Even though people say that you should never get back with your ex, sometimes you just have to try.
You need to see if the spark is still there and if you two could make it work.
There is no guarantee that it will work but you are willing to give it a chance.
The next issue is how to achieve your goal. What are the steps you need to take if you want to win your ex back?
Read the following ways that can help you accomplish your intention.
By observing your ex’s reactions, you’ll be able to see whether there is any chance for you to be together again.
1. Give your ex some space
The desperate wish to get back with your ex can make you do things that can only scare them away.
Constant calls and ‘I miss you‘ texts do not work in your favor. They can only push them even further away from you.
Not only that you are not supposed to call or text a lot but you shouldn’t call or text your ex at all.
Constantly contacting them is like screaming from the top of your lungs, “I am desperate and I need you in my life. I don’t know how to live without you.”
Let’s be honest, no one wants to get back with a needy, possessive, desperate person who chases their ex’s attention.
If you can’t control yourself, delete your ex’s number, avoid going to places where you know you will see them, and generally avoid any type of contact with them.
You need to give them enough space and time to get through some things. By calling them too early on, you are setting yourself up for a secure failure.
You just ended a relationship and your ex still hasn’t processed everything.
Right now, their focus is on the negative aspects of your relationship. That’s why you need to wait so that things can cool down a bit.
Jumping in right at the deep end makes no sense and certainly won’t result in getting back together.
2. Don’t beg for attention
No matter why you two broke up, begging to get back together is never an option. Again, it makes you seem desperate and no one loves that.
By begging, you are giving your ex power, which makes you submissive in the ‘getting back together’ process.
(And if you want to get back with them, you need to be the one who is pulling the strings.)
No, your ex won’t get back with you because they feel pity toward you, and honestly, that’s not even something you should want to happen.
Avoid begging or playing the remorse card, as even if you get back together because of these, your relationship won’t last for long.
3. Continue with your life
Instead of fighting for your ex’s attention, you need to continue with your life.
I know that you are used to having this person around you all the time but you need to be aware that you two are currently not together.
That’s why you need to focus on yourself and the things that can help you grow.
Even if your ex starts dating others, you shouldn’t begin to chase them, thinking that will get them back.
Let time do its thing and move on with your life. You will feel when it is the right time to contact them and to start working on getting back together.
4. Improve your confidence
One of the great ways that can help you win your ex back is to improve your confidence.
We all know how important confidence is in literally everything you do. If you are confident in yourself, things will be a lot easier to achieve.
That’s why you need to do it for yourself first and then for others (in this case, your ex).
This is especially true if you weren’t the confident one in your previous relationship, as improving that aspect of your personality can help you sweep your ex off their feet.
5. Make positive changes in your life
Positive changes in your life can help your ex realize what it is that they are losing. Plus, it makes you feel better about yourself.
This step comes with time so don’t expect it to be immediate or happen fast. You will need to work on it if you want to see the difference.
Understand what it is that you want to change and how to achieve that.
Give yourself some time to get over everything that happened.
Spend time with your friends and family, read a good book, or focus on your mental health.
Do all of the things that make you feel good or things that you always wanted to do but never had enough time for.
Another important thing that may need some change is your behavior.
If you by any chance feel that you are the reason why your relationship broke up, then you should find a way to make some changes in your behavior.
Maybe you were controlling, insecure, or jealous. Whatever it is, you need to work on that and make a difference.
It will be good for you but it will also show your ex that you are willing to change for the better.
6. Wait for the right time to contact them
If you have gone through all of the above steps, it still doesn’t mean that it is the right time to get in contact with your ex.
You need to feel ready before you decide to take that step.
Time is not the measurement here, but your readiness for the next step is. If you feel that the timing is right then call your ex and arrange a meeting.
If they agree, make sure to use this time together to show them how much you have improved.
Through their behavior, you will be able to notice whether they want to get back together or not.
If they seem uninterested, don’t bother taking the next step.
However, if you notice that their eyes sparkle like they used to, admit that you like the idea of you two getting back together.
Show them that you’ve worked on yourself and that they won’t regret if they choose to say, “Yes.”
Good luck and I hope that everything will work out in your favor!