Toxic people are everywhere.
You are having a really great and positive day, and suddenly, you get a text from that particular person who is always negative and toxic.
The problem is that we sometimes don’t even realize that they are the cause of why we don’t feel good.
When it comes to negativity, most toxic people believe they are not to blame and think everyone else is the problem.
This is why many successful people make it a rule to avoid toxic people in their lives.
All of us have had toxic people around us at some point. We bend over backward trying to please them, only to never really succeed.
Toxic people will try everything to blame things on you.
Suddenly, you might question your own sanity and start wondering whether you are the real cause of the problem at hand.
However, recognizing hurtful behavior is the first step toward making some positive changes and minimizing their impact.
Knowing what they do and knowing how to deal with such behavior might be your only solution.
Knowing what they do will help you avoid being under their influence.
The only proper way to avoid toxic behavior is to get away from them, as they can leave you emotionally drained.
1. Toxic people will only call you when it suits them
We all have that one toxic friend or family member who only calls when they need us.
They might ask for a favor or something that you feel obliged to help out with.
It’s hard to recognize toxic behavior if this person is someone we care about and it’s even harder to accept that fact.
However, if they are only calling you because they want something from you and not because they enjoy your company, then you should try to move away from them as they are clearly toxic.
They will use you to accomplish their goal. They don’t see you as equally important, and they will use you to get what they want.
You should know by now that every relationship should be two-sided.
Someone who only takes and doesn’t give back is someone who doesn’t deserve your attention or time.
2. You cannot rely on toxic people
It is hard to rely on a toxic person because you never know who they really are.
They often change their behavior according to what they need and what they expect from you.
However, it is not just their behavior that they change, as they also change their perspectives and attitudes according to what their end goal is.
They know how to get angry at you or when to be kind if they want something from you.
3. They will affect your thinking
Negative and toxic people will eventually drain your energy from you. They sound like mythical creatures, right?
Well, if you stick with them for too long and always listen to what they have to say, eventually, their opinions and thoughts will affect your way of thinking.
Negative thoughts will replace your positive thinking and you will be shocked at how much you change over time.
Know this: They are very stealthy about it and they will subtly drop hints that will eventually change your thought processes.
4. You will feel drained
Remember how you feel when you are around positive and enthusiastic people? Your energy levels rise and you feel happy.
Well, negative and toxic people tend to do the opposite.
You will feel heavy and drained after you spend a couple of hours with them, as they simply suck the energy out of you and leave you feeling empty and sad.
5. Toxic people will never apologize
You should not argue with toxic people because they will never apologize to you.
They will probably lie and try to deceive you before they ever apologize.
You don’t need an apology to move forward and move away from such people. Just walk away from them and you will feel free.
There is no point in arguing with them because they will twist the story and retell it to suit their needs.
Some people just want to be right and even unhappy but you have to move away from them and choose happiness.
Now that you have read about what toxic people can do to your life, now you may ask how you can stop it from happening.
First, you need to learn that, “No,” is your best friend.
Perhaps a toxic person made their way into your life by slowly moving in and breaking down your boundaries.
You may not have even seen it, but suddenly, they made their way into your life without your permission.
It is important to use the word, “No,” when dealing with toxic people and I mean use it whenever and wherever possible.
You should not let them into your life and you should keep them at arm’s length.
The second thing you can do is trust your gut.
Sometimes you cannot move away from a toxic person because you don’t trust your own judgment.
However, everyone has their breaking point, and sometimes, you need to decide when enough is enough.
Don’t give this person the benefit of the doubt.
Take a stand, especially if they are making your life miserable and affecting your behavior toward other people.
You can also limit your time together.
If you feel anxious or stressed when seeing this kind of person, then it is time to limit your time spent together.
Put yourself first and don’t let them affect your emotions.
Feeling like this is a clear sign that you want to see them less, and you just have to accept that.
Toxic people might make you take the blame or even blame others who are close to you and they won’t show any interest in your feelings or needs.
This will make spending time with them very unpleasant and not welcoming at all.
Sometimes you won’t have the luxury to just walk away, which is when it’s best to set some boundaries.
Decide what you will and won’t tolerate and stick to that.
You should have honest conversations about your boundaries with the toxic people in your life and what will happen if they don’t respect them.
Whatever it is you decide, remember that it is not your fault or responsibility for them behaving like that.
You should make it clear to them what you are willing and not willing to tolerate. If they love you, then they will respect it.