First impressions are important, but they can be deceiving. We all want to look our best when we meet someone, but is it who we truly are?
What’s the point of pretending to be someone else for a few hours? When you finally see that your partner isn’t who you thought them to be, it might be too late.
You’re already in love with him but you realize he’ll never change. It’s not his personal preference, it’s because of the way he was raised. And if he was raised badly, then you’ve got yourself a problem.
Perhaps you feel as if you have to educate him on basic things. But he should’ve learned this time ago, so it’s quite irritating. At times, you don’t feel like a woman dating a man, but rather a woman trying to erase the mistakes his parents made.
He’s a grown man, so you guessed he’d deal with these problems on his own once you mentioned it to him. That didn’t happen and even though you wish he would, you know he’ll never change his behavior.
It’s deeply rooted in him and his core memory. In fact, he doesn’t see anything wrong with the way he was brought up because it’s normal for him.
This bothers you greatly and is frustrating, to say the least. It’s putting the burden on your shoulders because you feel you’re the one doing the most work in the relationship.
I know how hard it can be to walk away from someone you love. Especially when nothing seems to work and you’ve tried to fix it countless times.
It’s not in your power and sometimes letting go hurts less than holding on. To help you move on, here are some signs he’ll never change.
1. He talks all over you
A man who’s been raised poorly doesn’t know basic manners. He doesn’t care about what you have to say and he’s used to interrupting you.
It might seem sweet at first because he can’t wait to tell you something. However, as this behavior keeps repeating, you come to realize he’s not as eager to spill a secret.
It’s just that he never learned how inappropriate it is to interrupt someone while they’re talking. He doesn’t think it’s a huge deal so he doesn’t give it much thought.
This is a major sign of disrespect and something you shouldn’t dismiss. If your boyfriend talks all over you, it’s likely he did that to his parents and vice versa.
You conclude that he isn’t thinking of your opinions and feelings when he suddenly cuts in. And if he does this in front of your family and friends, it’s a whole new level of mockery.
2. He knows no boundaries
When you’re dealing with a badly raised man, you know he’ll never change. One of the signs of this is his lack of boundaries.
He doesn’t know when to stop and isn’t used to being told no. If you reject him in any way, he has a hard time accepting the fact.
Instead of retreating and giving you some space, he pushes even more. He thinks that the right thing to do is to be persistent.
This only has a countereffect as being persistent in the wrong ways is a major turn-off. Moreover, he doesn’t care if he’s nagging you as long as he gets what he wants.
He deems this his small victory because he’s used to getting what he desires. Even the sky isn’t the limit for him, which only makes him sound cocky.
3. He shifts the blame
If you’re dating a badly raised man, you know he’s always right. How come? Aren’t women allowed to be right sometimes?
Whenever you try to confront him about his bad behavior, it always ends up in failed attempts. He never takes any responsibility for his actions, which comes off as immature.
What he does well is point fingers at someone else. And most of the time, that someone else is you. All of your attempts to talk and reason with him are fruitless.
He acts defensively and starts guilt-tripping you about bringing things up. In the end, you’re allegedly always the one who’s trying to pick fights.
He’ll never change if he’s already comfortable with this tactic. It works for him so he doesn’t see any need to act differently.
4. He’s ungrateful
Whatever you do for him never seems to be enough. You dye your hair a new color, pluck your eyebrows, make him lunch, but it’s never enough to please him.
He was spoiled as a child and expects to be treated the same way now. He doesn’t see the difference now that he’s supposed to be a grown-up man.
Also, he constantly asks for things to get done and is angry when his expectations aren’t met. He considers himself his number one priority.
When you don’t give in to his desires, he gives excuses or plays the victim card: He’s always the last one to receive things, he doesn’t get enough attention, etc.
As much as you try to fulfill all of his wishes, it’s impossible. All they do is pile up and each one of them seems more bizarre and arrogant than the one before.
5. He doesn’t care
He’ll never change if he was raised that way, remember that. If you’re in a relationship with a badly raised man who’s only concerned with his well-being, it’s time you ditch him.
All he worries about is himself and he doesn’t lift a finger when you ask for something. He demands to be taken care of but gives nothing in return.
Moreover, he expects you to do this without any complaining. He believes that you’re enjoying making all his dreams come true.
He’ll never change because he put himself in first place. Your boyfriend loves himself the most and that’s a fact.
It’s almost impossible for him to question his self-worth because that’s the way he was taught. Even though love is supposed to be about the two of you, somehow it revolves solely around him.