Relationships can be tricky to navigate. They are all about human connection through love and affecacttion.
However, every relationship has its bumps in the road. It is rather difficult to keep a relationship strong.
Yes, the foundation for every relationship is love and that is important, but that is not what constitutes a relationship as a whole.
Sometimes it is good to know that there are several rules that are essential for every successful and healthy relationship.
You want your partner by your side and you want to succeed. The problem arises when a couple doesn’t respect the ground rules.
Such relationships are doomed to fail and no amount of love can fix it, no matter what.
The hiccups that you encounter mostly happen because of the differences in your opinions, or if one of you feels jealous or insecure about themselves.
It could also be when the inevitable happens as an adult; the bills start coming in, the responsibilities pile up and you don’t have enough energy or you’re not in a good mood to deal with all of it.
However, there are some specific must-know relationship rules that nobody talks about and which will make your life easier, and mostly your love life.
Those rules will keep your relationship healthy, strong, and flourishing.
Bear in mind that a little commitment goes a long way.
Effort and truly listening to your partner are the secret keys to having a good connection with your loved one.
All long-term relationships encounter some rough patches, but if you put some effort into it and commit to your partner, then the relationship will succeed.
1. You must fight fair
A perfect relationship does not consist of a person agreeing to everything their partner has to say.
Every now and then, you and your partner may experience arguments and fights, because, guess what? Nobody is perfect and you all have your flaws.
Sometimes your partner will say or do something that is contrary to your beliefs and fights will happen.
However, the skill that is necessary to have in a healthy and solid relationship is to know how to fight fair.
Believe me, things will not be fair every time.
But instead of banging heads, you and your partner should accept and, most importantly, respect each other’s needs.
It’s important that if your partner doesn’t get their way now, to give them the opportunity later.
The power balance in a relationship is what can sometimes cause a break-up, especially if it’s not properly balanced.
Oftentimes, men are those who are dominant in a relationship.
Studies have shown that those kinds of relationships end up being long-term, which was surprising to me.
Although other studies have shown that a power imbalance and unequal treatment were actually the reasons why most women broke up with their partner.
The moral of the story is to always check how your partner is feeling about the power balance in your relationship. It’s good to know what he thinks about it.
2. Be more understanding
You cannot simply meet a person who will fit your needs. It is impossible.
The thing is, in a relationship, you have to recognize that the person you are with was not always that person.
He had to go through a lot of changes to become what he is now.
It’s your duty to respect him and to have understanding that he has been through many things. Appreciate his past and put it into context.
Maybe your boyfriend doesn’t want to express his feelings because in his family, it is seen as not being manly enough.
Or maybe he has problems with you paying some of the bills because he learned that he needs to be the provider.
Maybe he feels insecure because his ex made him feel that way.
Your responsibility is to be conscious of that and understand what he has been through. You are also not the same person you were last year, right?
Be careful with your approach. Don’t try to fix him. That’s not the way you should act. Instead, help him to realize his flaws.
You can only point out the things that you don’t like; it’s up to him whether he feels the need to change them or not.
Be aware that you cannot resolve his work issues, nor can you make his insecurities go away.
The most important rule that nobody talks about is just to be there for him and help him get through it.
If you try to fix your partner, he will become angry with you, it will remind him of his struggles and strain your relationship altogether.
Help him get through the problems and you will see that your relationship will be on another level.
3. He cannot read your mind and vice versa
If you think that your partner knows you so well that he can read your mind, then you are in for a surprise.
Maybe you think that the one will recognize what you feel and what you want at any given moment.
The sad truth is he cannot.
No matter how much he loves you, and despite how much he has the need to please you, it is literally impossible for him to always know what his partner needs or thinks at any time.
Talking to your partner and asking him questions is the right way to proceed when you want to know something.
Don’t assume, just ask. You should always talk openly about your emotions and feelings and if you want something from him.
Also, if something is bothering you, some little issue that you have, spill it and tell him directly. Don’t assume he will figure it out on his own.
4. Fights can be positive
We all want a happy and successful relationship. However, the fights that happen during it can be heartbreaking sometimes.
Nevertheless, arguments or fights could actually be beneficial for you.
The thing to remember when you are in a fight with your other half is to remain calm and listen to what he has to say.
You should not attack him or say bad words.
Let’s be real, it is not the end of the relationship if you two fight.
If you fought last night, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you anymore or that he wants to break up with you.
Thinking this way will only bring you self-doubt.
The goal of a relationship is finding someone who suits you but to do that, you have to get to know the person whom you are with.
The best way to do so is to have arguments which are healthy and then you are a step closer to building a relationship which both of you will enjoy.
Be careful not to say any harsh words that might insult him.
People sometimes go overboard when fighting and your head can become overwhelmed with negative thoughts.
However, you should never forget that you are talking to the person you love, the person who loves you, and the person whom you chose to be your boyfriend.
What I found is that the problem seems to be when a couple is silent about the things that bother them. They each become like a ticking bomb.
The solution is very simple.
Have healthy and open communication and do not be afraid to argue with your loved one because it will clear the negative energy between the two of you.
5. You should always care
This is a must-know rule that nobody talks about.
The thing with long-term relationships is that as time passes, you start taking your partner for granted.
You need to always be aware to not do that or it will bring your relationship misery and sorrow.
No matter how long the two of you have been dating, taking care of each other means that you love and cherish each other.
If you take him coffee every time that he works long hours, don’t stop doing that after three years of being together.
Continue to do the lovely things you did at the beginning of your relationship.
He is and should be the most important person in your life and don’t allow yourself to ever lose sight of that.