There are some good sides to being a hopeless romantic. You’re looking at the world from a different perspective and hope for the universe to connect you with your soulmate. It feels good to be sure that there is definitely someone out there who will make your dreams come true.
Yes, it’s great to hope for the best in everything. However, that can be the reason why you got your heart broken too many times. It makes you set standards that are too high for reality, and you get disappointed and hurt.
Here are 5 pieces of advice from me. A person who was a huge hopeless romantic, and a person who is still one but who now knows where to draw a line.
1) Stop focusing on romantic books and movies
Ever since we were kids we were surrounded by numerous romantic books and movies. Even the music videos! From Titanic and High School Musical to Pride and Prejudice and Anna Karenina, we were always caught up in love stories. Whether we liked it or not.
And it easily got into our minds. Some made us realize what are the things we never want to experience in relationships. But, some made us dream about meeting Prince Charming, and running away on a beautiful white horse. Sadly, that’s not how it works.
Don’t lose hope yet. It can get pretty close to it when you meet your soulmate. But you need to be aware of the fact that books, movies, cartoons, or poems are fiction. Something that can help you get away from reality from time to time. But it definitely isn’t something anyone should focus on too much.
The things we see and read are made to make us interested. And the best way to do so is to make us believe in something. And they try to make us believe that a perfect world and relationships exist when in reality, it’s not really possible.
It’s good to use that fiction to get the idea of what we like and don’t like. But that’s as far as we should go.
2) Understand that nothing can be perfect
Because of all the fiction, we fall in love with, we usually put some standards that are too high. But if you are the kind of person who is looking specifically for the perfect partner. I’m sorry, but you’re probably going to get old on your own.
I’m not saying this to scare you, I’m saying this to help you realize another negative side of being a hopeless romantic. No one in this world is perfect. And surprise, surprise, you aren’t either. So don’t expect to find a partner who will be, because you’ll never find one.
What you can find, is the person who will be a perfect match for you. But you’ll still have to be aware that there will be some issues, disagreements, and little problems in your relationship. Because that’s how it works in real life. Nothing can be perfect, but it can get close to it. So why not settle for that?
3) Don’t look for signs everywhere
I know you probably look for signs everywhere around you, but that’s not what you should focus your attention on. Instead, focus on meeting new people, starting new hobbies, and doing the things you like. That’s how you’ll have a bigger chance of finding a suitable partner.
There are many TikTok trends nowadays, and a huge number of them are about signs. There’s a filter that shows you random numbers and if you guess it, it apparently means something. No, it doesn’t. It’s just a coincidence.
Just because you saw a TikTok that said you’ll meet your soulmate this Tuesday if you like and save their video, it doesn’t mean that it will actually happen. They are just messing with your mind because you’re focused on looking for signs everywhere.
But the truth is – true love will come unexpectedly. And there probably won’t be any signs to warn you about it. Relax and don’t force anything.
4) Don’t expect your partner to be like your fictional characters
We’ve already discussed movies and books, and this one is closely related to them. When we fall in love with a certain fictional character, we tend to look for them in real life. But that’s not going to help you find a great partner. It might even stop us from finding one.
Fictional characters and real-life people can’t be the same. There are some qualities we might want from our partners to share with our favorite characters, but that’s as far as it should go.
When we’re watching movies or reading books about true love, it’s usually portrayed very unrealistically. And that’s what attracts us to them. But the problem comes when we start expecting to find that in the real world.
They usually portray it in slow motion running toward each other or one character fighting monsters to help save the other one. We can even see them running faster than the cab to save a disastrous date or sending 100 roses every day to your address (which you never gave them).
That all sounds nice, but only fictional characters can behave like that.
5) Be aware that not every relationship works out
I’ve already told you about how hopeless romantics always hope for the best. That’s not a bad thing, but it is bad for their health when they have unrealistic expectations. Because that’s the recipe for how to be a hopeless romantic who will get heartbroken easily.
Before you enter a relationship, you need to be aware of the fact that not every relationship works out. Sometimes you’ll think that you found the right partner, but after some time the two of you will realize that it’s not going well.
It can be scary to admit it but has its benefits too. Why? Because it will give you the chance to look for a partner who will actually be ‘the one’.
Remember, it’s not bad to dream about having a perfect love story. I already told you that it’s possible to get close to perfection when you meet your soulmate. Just try to keep in mind these 5 pieces of advice, and you’ll be good to go.
I believe in you!